TA, son of TA

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My father never came to a single thing I invited him to. Not my primary school graduation. Not my secondary school prize giving where I collected 3 awards and kept looking at the gate. Not my university matriculation. Not the ceremony when I got called to bar in 2012. I'd send him the date weeks in advance and he'd say I'll try and that was always the full sentence. I'll try. No follow up. No explanation after. My mother would sit in his place and clap loud enough for 2 people. I stopped inviting him after the bar call. Not from anger. Some people love you completely and still cannot show up and after a while you stop making them feel guilty about it. He was not a bad man. I want to be clear about that. He was a mechanic in Mushin for 35 years. Worked 6 days a week. Sent every one of us to school. Never raised his hand. Never left. The lights stayed on and the rent was paid and there was always food and he did all of it quietly without asking to be celebrated. He just could not sit in a plastic chair and watch something. I accepted that and moved on. Last year I bought my first property. A flat in Ojodu. Took 9 years of saving and 2 years of paperwork and a lawyer who nearly finished me. When the keys finally came I sat in the empty flat on the floor for an hour just breathing. I called my mother first. She screamed. My sister cried. I didn't call my father. 3 days later he called me. Said he heard about the flat from my mother. Said he wanted to come and see it. I didn't know what to do with that so I just said okay. Gave him the address. Figured he'd say I'll try and we'd never speak of it again. He showed up on Saturday at 9am. Stood at the door in his good agbada. The one he only wears for serious things. Holding a small nylon bag. I let him in and he walked through every room without speaking. Not quickly. Slowly. Like he was counting something. He checked the pipes under the kitchen sink. Knocked on the walls. Opened and closed the windows twice each. Looked at the ceiling in every room the way only a man who has fixed things his whole life looks at ceilings. Then he came and stood in the sitting room and looked at me. Said the pipework is good. Said the windows seal properly. Said whoever built this knew what they were doing. I nodded. Long silence. Then he opened the nylon bag. Inside was a small framed photo. Me at maybe 7 years old sitting on the bonnet of an old car in his workshop. Grinning. Both legs swinging. He's standing beside me with his hand on my shoulder looking at something outside the frame. I remember that day. I had gone to the workshop after school and he let me sit there while he worked and gave me a Fanta and put a Michael Jackson cassette on the small radio. I didn't know anyone had taken a photo. He said he kept it on his workshop table for 22 years. Said he wanted me to have something for the new place. I held that frame and stood very still. He said he knew he missed things. Said he was not good at the sitting and watching. That crowds made something in him go wrong in a way he never knew how to explain. Then he said the flat was good and he was proud and he asked if there was anything in the kitchen because he hadn't eaten. I laughed. Made him eggs and bread while he sat at my kitchen table in his good agbada like he owned the place. We ate and he told me about a car he was working on. I told him about a case that was giving me trouble. Normal conversation. The kind we should have been having for years. He left at 1pm. At the door he gripped my shoulder the same way he did in that photo. Didn't say anything. Didn't need to. The photo is on my sitting room wall now. First thing I hung in the whole flat. Some fathers cannot sit in the plastic chair. But mine drove to Ojodu in his good agbada on a Saturday morning with a 22 year old photograph in a nylon bag. That was his standing ovation. I just didn't know to look for it in that shape.

@Fxinsights1 That’s why you should stop saving and spend that money today!

Anytime someone dies I just wonder what happens to the money in their piggyvest

If you mistakenly see what looks like a gojo-less on top of a Koromo, run ooo

So this is how we’re going to bastardize the whole point of working out? The whole logic behind going to the gym has shifted to other people’s validation validation for how you train, validation for how your body looks, validation for everything. No wonder so many people work out and still struggle with body dysmorphia. It’s crazy how something that’s supposed to be about your health and wellness has turned into something you do just to get comments like “body is tea.” That’s why half the posts from regular gym guys not trainers or fitness creators are half naked or completely shirtless. Funny thing is, if your physique is actually solid, you don’t need to take your shirt off to prove it. And the unnecessary comments under workout videos make it worse. Everyone talking about bad form like they started working out with perfect form themselves. It’s honestly annoying at this point.

@yehhmisi Boya mtn social bundle data is what he’s buying

Girlfriend and social life => 13k. Can you elaborate please?

@Premauj My first name alone sef, dem no fit find am anywhere

For context.. I have a cousin with my exact name. But with my first, middle and last? Absolutely tf not

@Wahab_afodun To even do 200g consistently every day you’re digestive system go just dey swear for you

A lot of people actually overestimate their protein goals. For most people, there’s no reason why your protein goal should be above 200g a day.

@Docfrosh You either “cannot over-emphasize this” or “cannot continue to emphasize this”. You also either “emphasize this” or “place emphasis on this” Asides that, fabulous point!

A doctor using ChatGPT and you using ChatGPT is not the same, I cannot continue to over emphasize on this

@_d3_bby 😹😹

@yechiipeng 😂😂😂Take heart my dear love will find you

Valentine has come and gone. did we die? Nooooo!!!!😂

@vales_o Happy birthday man

Be like balloon don finish for twitter 💀 more life to me sha

sex is great, but have you ever stomped along side millions of people to reclaim back your country from corrupt and incompetent leaders?

@Wizarab10 Kindly repost and tag him until he sees this 🙏🙏🙏🙏💔

@roberttheartis2 This life thing Yh…

Not me though

Just pass this on. Don’t say anything. Make sure you keep passing it on.

The weird thing about reading so much as a child and gaining a huge vocabulary from that is I can't define a lot of the words I use, I just know that they would fit correctly in a specific sentence. Does anyone else experience that?

@DejaRu22 Oh look,a bullshitter bullshitting

Lately my workouts have been 20-30 minutes max. And making more progress than ever. It’s actually fucking hilarious, to walk in the gym, hit your shit, and leave 20 minutes later. Kinda leaves people stunned as they’re there taxing the CNS for hours to end up looking the same as they did months ago. God bless Mike Mentzer.

@TravisRomo23 @Phayvhor_ Okay

@yechiipeng @Phayvhor_ not sufficiently I fear

If you say nobody created God, and that he is self existing Why can't you say the universe is self existing too?

@TravisRomo23 @Phayvhor_ I have explained this more in my subsequent replies

@yechiipeng @Phayvhor_ It would be more accurate to say "the evidence suggests that the universe began at some point" the big bang may not even be the beginning of the universe. To say you know for sure is a bit arrogant

@PainIncognito @Phayvhor_ Ok

@yechiipeng @Phayvhor_ I am simply saying people shouldn’t use their misunderstood of science to justify their beliefs. People should be concerned with reality and what’s real. And that involves admitting we know nothing. If you don’t want to live that way then fine. Just dont use science you dont know