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Everything in marriage and rizq is written in Qadar, so the shaming we see going both ways has no place in Islam. When sisters who are 30+ are mocked for not being married yet, people forget that Allah’s timing is perfect and that a woman’s value is in her taqwa, not in a timeline. Some are caring for parents, some are studying, some had proposals that weren’t right, and some are simply waiting on what Allah has decreed. Mocking them is backbiting and ridicule, and it turns their sabr and du’a into something painful instead of worship. At the same time, when brothers are “broke-shamed” and told they shouldn’t marry because they don’t have much money, that’s also a dunya way of thinking. Rizq is from Allah, and He promised that marriage can be a means of increase. The standard the Prophet ﷺ gave us was deen and good character, not a bank balance. Yes, a man must be responsible and able to provide the basics and not burden a wife, but Islam never made wealth a condition. Many of the sahaba started with very little and Allah blessed them. The balanced approach is to do our part and trust Allah for the result. Make du’a, take the means, improve yourself, and leave the outcome to Him. Guard your tongue and speak good or stay silent, because shaming a brother or sister while they’re in a test only adds to their burden. Instead of mocking, the community should make things easy like lower mahr expectations, connect people, make du’a for one another. To every sister waiting, your worth isn’t your marital status. To every brother working hard, your worth isn’t your wallet. May Allah grant every waiting heart a spouse who is a coolness of the eyes, and halal blessed rizq. Ameen.

@AladukeOyenike @egi_nupe This is gaslighting that will not work @egi_nupe Carry on, you are on the right track

@egi_nupe If your response to being wronged is to become deliberately petty, then they didn’t just drag you,they changed you. That’s not a win.🤔

All these brothers writing think pieces na munafeeki una be. Where were all of you when they were broke shaming your fellow men? You think your write-ups will save you from being broke shamed too? Send them a DM to ask them out first, your eyes go peel 😂

@Excel_007 @egi_nupe It's still Qadr

@egi_nupe This is not Qadr, but Afowofa... I am very certain she has met someone who is sincerely and ready to take up the position but maybe she is busy with something else. Now is not the right time she should settle for 2nd or 3rd wife ooo.

I like as how people are talking about “Qadr” as a justification for a woman in her 30s not to have been married. But they never remember that man’s financial instability could be as a result of “Qadr” if he’s not married in his 40s or he’s not chosen by women who only want men who are financially stable. Double standard 😃

@ennyola0015 A father's sins can affect their children through the consequences they create. emotionally and socially. But guilt or moral responsibility belongs to the father who committed the sins, not their children.

Do you believe the sins of a father can affect his children? A: Yes B: No C: Yes, but only the first generation

"People were happy to see our refineries not working so that they can make money. They keep telling us it will never work. Forget, it will never work. But somebody has said no... Within 24 months we will see this Refinery back on its feet." — Babajide Kolade-Otitoju

@egi_nupe The sad thing is that many of them end up with a good man

You can’t be doing hookup and still be praying for a good man. That’s an unfair prayer. No good man deserves to be punished by your answered prayers for a good man.

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@egi_nupe If you have changed location from Ur previous voting state, it's better you apply for transfer instead of lost

@egi_nupe When it's time for collection, you will be able to download the card via the link to be provided by INEC,

Thank God. I can use this jeje. When can we download? I need to vote for PBAT in 2027

Mr Peter Obi fa!led in terms of infrastructure, when he was a Governor, but because he wants to score a political point, he has to go this low. No wonder his followers can only defend him by abus!ng or curs!ng anybody who exposes their d£ceit.

You cannot transform what you cannot measure. Today, Nigeria took a historic step towards building a smarter, more transparent and accountable education system with the unveiling of the Digital National Education Management Information System (DNEMIS) and the launch of the DNEMIS Portal. For the first time, Nigeria has a clear, unified and trusted picture of foundational education—from pre-primary through Junior Secondary School. This gives us the data we need to plan better, invest smarter and improve learning outcomes for every child. DNEMIS is the first major building block of the National Education Data Infrastructure (NEDI)—our vision for one integrated education ecosystem and one source of truth for education. As NEDI continues to grow, it will connect data across every level of our education system, transforming how we plan, govern and deliver education nationwide. My sincere appreciation goes to UNICEF, the University of Oslo, the DHIS2 team, and all our development partners whose collaboration and commitment made this milestone possible. The data is now in your hands. Explore the DNEMIS Portal, generate insights, ask informed questions and help drive better education outcomes across Nigeria. Visit the portal here: emis.education.gov.ng Today, we have not simply launched a platform—we have laid the foundation for the future of education in Nigeria. One Ecosystem. One Source of Truth for Education. 🇳🇬

@egi_nupe I watched just the first episode and I lost interest already

I regret watching The Polygamist. It messed up my head, it still does. ☹️

This is what the Igbo call empowerment. Now you see the reason why they want to come to Lagos to experience what good governance means.

@lescroe @ansem_edet This government is already implementing the recommendations of the confab

@ansem_edet National confab was just a waste of money and time. It was obvious even then. All communities want the exact same freedoms and they are known. Having to sit to ask obvious questions mtcheeew.

Tinubu didn’t need to call for a national conference like GEJ but he has reformed almost everything that we agreed to reform at confab, but guess what? People are still crying about it

@AyanniyiNoah @ansem_edet The report is what Asiwaju is implementing. Starting from the change of the national anthem, to the current state police issue.

@ansem_edet Gej fucked up in many areas. And that confab report was one of them. Only God knows where the report is currently now, gathering dusts.

This man, who is from the creek in the Niger Delta, took Peter Obi to the cle.aners over the ongoing coastal roads and other roads being constructed by the administration of President Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

@egi_nupe That's why they are referred to as Evil servants

I was having a conversation with a senior citizen recently about one bad culture in our public service system and he was just laughing at me. I asked him why he’s laughing and he said: I was like you about 20years ago complaining or lamenting over the same issue; and the person I was ranting to was just laughing at me too. That’s how terrible it has always been and nothing can be done to fight or end it. What is that culture? It’s a culture of selling government jobs and contracts to people, racketeering! It’s a huge industry that many people in their millions are engaged in. Hardly would you see any government jobs or contract that does not pass through this system. Some people are living extremely large on it. It’s a take it or leave it situation. If you don’t do it, others will do it. It’s so bad that anybody who comes up to fight it is either eliminated from the system or gets their growth stunted in the public service. This explains why most people in public service are evidently living beyond their means. Because there is no way they can justify their lifestyle and that of their family, if not the profit and benefits they make from racketeering. A friend told me one of the major reasons she left Nigeria was because she was asked to pay for a government job she merited. My younger brother was once a victim of this fraud. A cousin of mine who wanted to join one of the law enforcement agencies was asked to bring money to get the job. Many people were refused recruitment opportunities because they refused to pay. Many parents pay for their children to join public service. Many contractors pay huge money before they can get government jobs or contracts and huge cuts are set aside as kickbacks. If not, those in public service will frustrate them from getting their contracts done or payments for jobs done. Many lawyers are involved! Just name it! This is not peculiar to any public service department but ALL. I mean every single of them and at all levels of government. We are in deep trouble and mess!!!!!

@egi_nupe Nigerians complain about a problem and also complain about the proposed possible solution. Thank God we have a focused president who has the audacity and political will to push whatever policy he feels is good for the nation.

We claim that Nigeria educational system does not prepare you for anything about leadership and entrepreneurship. Now something is being done to address that and still you people have problem with it. What exactly pleases you people about this country? Na everything no good to Una?

The Author’s opening speech at the occasion of Book Reveal.