Zainab Oladiti

I'll give married guys some free advice... ​Chase your wife around the house. You turn something on in her. You guys become children for just that 4 minutes running around. 😉 ​Lift her off the ground. It says something to her mind. 😉 ​But if you want to keep the spark alive in the middle of a busy life, add these to the list: ​Take over the dinner chaos. When she is staring down the pot trying to figure out how to feed everyone, stepping in and saying, "I've got this," or just ordering the Friday night pizza or food so she doesn't have to cook, speaks directly to her soul. ​Handle the unsexy logistics. ​Give her the gift of absolute silence. Sometimes taking the kids out of the house for two hours so she can just exist in a quiet room without anyone needing anything from her. ​Flirt with her during the ordinary moments. A wink across the room while you are both cleaning up the kitchen reminds her that underneath the heavy titles of "Mom" and "Dad," you are still just two people crazy about each other. ​Notice the invisible labor. Thank her for remembering the scheduling, the grocery, and all the behind the scenes magic that keeps the house running. It bridges the gap and silently says, "I see exactly how hard you work for us." ​The movie romance is great, but the trenches of everyday life are where the real connection happens. Show up for her there.

Mother Cr!3s Out As Publisher Launches Threats Over Her Open Review Of Nursery Book & Commentary On ‘Disturbing’ Part Of It

And to the 1% who stopped to look:

First Nigerian niqabi to speak at Canadian women in cybersecurity

My sister is looking for a 6-month SIWES placement. She’s a Chemical Engineering student with a peer-reviewed paper, has presented at Deep Learning Indaba, and has done research around polymer informatics, enzyme engineering, and battery systems. She’s particularly interested in the energy sector but open to any place where she can learn and contribute. If you can help or point me in the right direction, I’d appreciate it 🙏 zayneeh.github.io

I’m getting my Doctorate in Mathematics soon.

Since the past 24 hours that I made the tweet on child parenting solution, my DM has been buzzing. I checked them, and one thing was quite common to all: Parents who are not happy about their kid’s performance in school, and they have approached it the wrong way. If you fall in this category, this post is for you. Many of us use brutal force because expectations are too high, and the anger is just too much. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi explained in his book Sayd al-Khatir that intellect is a Rizq (provision) from God, just like money or health. He said some people are born with a wide vessel and others with a narrow one. If you try to force the water of a whole sea into a small cup, you will only spill the water and ruin the cup. This is what many of us are doing. We are trying to force a "doctor's brain" into a child whose cup was designed for something else. By that, it causes a soul-crushing resentment in the child. Imam Al-Ghazali described this beautifully in Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. He warned parents about a state called “Al-Malal”, where a child builds resentment because they are pushed beyond their limit. Everyone wants the best for their child. No doubt. However, if you keep yelling at them for things they cannot grasp yet, you make them hate the very sight of a book. You are closing the door to their heart while trying to kick open the door to their mind. Then what is the solution? It is simple. Going forward, every parent should make efforts to start looking for the Fath (the opening) in their kids. What does this mean? This is the lane the Almighty has prepared for them. In our history, if a child is slow with grammar or math, the scholars don’t call them a failure. They move them to a trade, a craft or a service. How then do you identify this Fath (Opening) in your child? Please pay close attention to me… (1) The first phase is Observation. Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned a concept called Istid’ad (natural readiness) in his book titled: Tuhfat al-Mawdud. This means you want to watch/observe/look at the child when they think nobody is looking. This is your first tool. For the next two weeks, stop talking about school. Do not worry yourself about how they perform on their homework. Instead, keep a "Strength Log." Every evening, write down one thing they did well that had nothing to do with a classroom. Did they fix a broken toy? Did they calm down a crying sibling? Did they organise their shoes? You are looking for their Istid’ad (natural readiness). If they are "book-slow" but "people-smart" or "hand-smart," that is where the key has been placed. (2) Introduce “Project or Craft” early on. Ibn Khaldun, in his Muqaddimah, argued that projects/crafts are high forms of intelligence that build civilizations. He argued that some minds are designed to understand the physical world better than the abstract one. Give them a "Project Day." Buy a basic tool kit, a sewing machine, or a coding starter kit. Give them a broken radio or a piece of furniture to fix. Delegate. Give them a real-world task that has a visible result. When a child who fails at math sees that they can build a table or bake a perfect loaf of bread, their internal shame starts to heal. They realize they are not stupid; they were just in the wrong room. (3) Kill the Comparison Virus. Imam Al-Zarnuji, in his classic work Ta’lim al-Muta’allim, explained that a student should only study what fits their nature. He said that forcing a student into a field they have no taste for is a waste of their life and the teacher's time. When you compare your child to others, you are catching a virus that blinds you to their path. Always filter. When family members start bragging about their kids' grades, you must be the shield. Tell them, "My child is mastering the art of (so so and so)." You are teaching your child that success is not a single ladder. There are many ladders to it. And if you do not value their ladder, they will stop climbing. (4) Prioritize Character Building. Put more efforts to praise your kids for their good character. Always tell them you love them when they behave well or show good character. Character recognition helps the child build a good self-image, which translates into self-confidence and barrier-breaking for the child. Prioritise this. (5) Don’t underestimate the power of your words. Always pray to God to grant them their opening. The scholars taught that the "opening" is a gift from Al-Fattah (The Opener). Supplicate. In your Sujud or in your prayers, stop asking for them to be a doctor/engineer, and what have you. Ask for the door that was made for them to be opened. Ask Him to show you the Fath so you can stop pushing them against a closed wall. Always remember, a parent who finds the "Fath (The Opening)" for their child has given them a gift better than a degree. You have given them a purpose. Start that journey NOW. It’s never too late… Thank you for your attention. Allah knows best.

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When you think about yourself, make sure that picture isn't small. Your current situation may not be in sync with your preferred trajectory but make sure your picture about yourself isn't small. You sef no small.

Just found out that butterflies can't even see their own wings & that got me thinking... most people don't even recognize their true beauty, how much they've grown & evolved 🥺!

I put together 1000 Reasons Why You should not Vote for Tinubu in the next election. 1000-reasons.vercel.app Good morning Nigerians.

For those that don't understand Yoruba: "Even if I don't get another political post I am satisfied, but only a dead person will stop aiming for new opportunities. For the little time we spent at the federal post we fixed our people to key positions". Every young and truly progressive thinking Nigerian youth should be triggered by utterances like this. He didn't brag about the successes attained by the ministry he was to administrate over.

The way I’ve been thinking over the past few months isn’t healthy😔 If this crosses your timeline, PLEASE REPOST🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. You could change my life. My UK visa expires May 1st and I’m actively searching for a visa sponsored job before then. I’m a Technical/Application support analyst. I’m skilled at incident & problem management, SQL & database querying, SLA management & ticketing, API & integration support. I’m adaptable and ready to hit the ground running from day one. I’m ready to relocate to any city in the Uk. I’ll really appreciate every retweet, tag, comment. God bless🙏🏽

An Arabic proverb says; “Keep your house clean like you're expecting guests.Keep your heart clean like you're expecting death.” This hits deep, a reminder we often forget.

London is becoming a trap for young people hunting for their first job, as higher taxes and AI squeeze opportunities Irina Anghel explains bloom.bg/4dTwhoW

No one is coming to save you’ lol, you clearly don’t know my GOD🥹🤭

@PolitlcsUK Minimum wage rising by 50p but my cost of living rising by £50 every morning.

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