The One

@diabolicblimee @Queeneth01olx No mind the useless girl. Ask her what what she was doing to fix the problem. Nothing

@Queeneth01olx I'm glad he left you for a more independent woman who have her own money. "Your generator died, your rent was late" so you wanted him to foot all those bills? I'm glad Baba escaped billings before it's too late

He sent me ₦108,000 for my hair two days after I told him I was broke and couldn’t pay my Nepa bill. I was so touched I almost cried in the salon. Until I saw the alert came from the same girl he swore was just a colleague. For 8 months this guy watched me hustle alone. My generator died? Babe pray about it. My rent was late? God will provide. But the moment I mentioned my hair was looking rough, he suddenly became generous. I posted the hairstyle with heart emojis and tagged him. My friends hyped it: Aww baby he’s so supportive. I believed it too. Two weeks later my bestie sent me a screenshot. Same guy, same girl, at a restaurant. Caption on her status: My man spoiling me again with the exact same ₦108k transfer alert. The money he sent me? It was her money. She even added, help my sister fix her hair, in the note. I confronted him. He laughed and said, You women are too dramatic. It was just hair money na. Last month I saw him post their pre wedding photos. The girl? The same colleague. The caption: She’s been holding me down since day one. Dear Sister, If he only spends on you when it makes him look good or when it’s actually another woman’s money, he’s not investing in you. He’s performing. Never mistake borrowed generosity for real care. Stop clapping for the bare minimum, especially when the funds are sponsored by his main chick. You deserve a partner who builds with you, not one who uses you as a side project funded by his real fiancé. Question for the timeline; What’s the most ridiculous example of borrowed generosity or performative love you’ve ever experienced? Gather here, Quote with your stories or share in the replies.

@kenkenlewu Yes now. No be she say he's everything she prayed for?

@TheOne4k What's this 😂

I won’t lie, I was nervous to finally meet him… especially after how he kept talking about his height🥲 (3 years of long distance) But the moment I saw him… I knew he was everything I prayed for 🥺💗

@GLat_2000 @Hybrid_Ola Abeg who is the person

@Hybrid_Ola Me that is preparing for Omugwo ? Noooo the marriage cannot scatter we are expecting our own Bluivy

We should have known there was a problem the moment she skipped her honeymoon and hopped on Twitter for validation and explanations

@Lucia_uiu The man na Gabriel, nothing you want to tell us

I went to visit my friend. We were chatting, and one gist led to another. Then she said, "My husband no sabi do love." I laughed it off, but she was like, "I’m not joking. He doesn’t know how to make love." Right then, I knew she wanted to talk about it, so I started asking questions. She said he doesn’t sleep naked with her, always clothed. She even had to battle before he started sleeping in boxers. I asked, "Do you guys bathe together?" She said that’s even the worst part. He always enters the bathroom with his things, locks the door, and keeps to himself. The few times she barged in on him, he was shocked, quickly covered himself, and said, "What is it na? Can’t you see I’m bathing? Please close the door let me finish." So I asked again, "Have you ever tried having your way with him?' She said he would always run out of the room, saying, "You wan kill me… abeg na…" I then asked, "Wait, so you guys don’t have sex or what?" She just said," My sister, leave that one o… I no fit tell person." He was still a virgin when they married and they’ve been married since 2017. NO CHILD .

@one_threehill @Humbhle_ak @jerryobionko1 All those children wey dey hawk for street instead of being in school, why God no provide for their parents?

@Humbhle_ak @jerryobionko1 No, but it's the realisation that God doesn't forget his own. Cos when you have a family, you'll surely be more focused in providing for them I hope you get the gist🙏

Omoh I go buy indomie and egg this evening. Na husband and wife dey sell for the shop. Husband ask me say “how is family?”, I answer fine. Wife come tell am say, family ke? He is very single oh, single and searching. I just smile. Na on my way home e hit me. Total of the things wey I buy na N2,500. I come imagine say I been wan buy for me, my wife and one child, which money I for use ?

@_d_lolaa @Arinzeudeh5 The money in the relationship, was it from only him or the both of you?

@Arinzeudeh5 Oh, I did I couldn't bear it any longer

A short story of how you broke up with him/her

@Har_deh11 @JessicaAnd3549 @lord_orukpe Who is the person

@JessicaAnd3549 @lord_orukpe He scam person 20k and do like nothing happen😂😂😂💔

I told you guys 12pm he's account will be at risk! HE'S ACCOUNT HAS BEEN DISABLED. Kpakam ✅ Unto the next one

@KINGJ0SH_ @samson_samsen This kind people na dem be fuel then act as if dem no do anything

@samson_samsen You guys are ignoring the real evil person there 😂 The girl who said, did you hear what he just said 😅

When a woman says mean things to a man, she does so with the belief that men are under a moral obligation to be nice to women. So even while she’s aware that the man has information about her that could be used for retaliation, she boldly takes that risk and makes the mean statement, believing that the man does not have the moral freedom to retaliate in a similar manner. And when he does, this 👇 happens. This woman here is not only hurt by what’s said but shockingly disillusioned.

@SkylarksPlace Abeg put me through

Start where you are. Don't wait till you've got 500K or 1 million in your account! Start now. Start now! If you've got a smartphone, you can make money with that... Ask me how?😌

@GloriousGod01 I'm ready to work oh. Abeg put me on

You know one thing with Nigerians? Ignorance and "I too know". If you don't know something, it's better to calm down and ask questions. Do you mean to tell me that everybody with a smartphone today have a job or that they got their phones from salaries? According to what she shared, the man doesn't even pay rent. Come on. I bought my first, second and third phones even when I had no job. I saw myself f through school even when I had no job. There are many opportunities to make money on the internet but because you're not willing to learn, you'll think that people who are making money have two heads. Stay there. Above all, love God.

@GloriousGod01 @talk2veee Me I'm ready to work oh. Abeg show me the way

@talk2veee Hope dey if he ready to work. Make him buy smartphone first and get to work. Too many opportunities on the internet right now

A guy who is currently 44 years old. He refused to marry because he earns 60k as a school teacher. He is staying with his brother because he cannot afford to rent a place. He said he would rather remain single forever than bring a wife and children into suffering. He doesn't do gambling, or waste money on unnecessary things. Should he be encouraged to marry?

@Ijawphilosopher Which soaps do you recommend

I've tested almost all the popular Soaps in Nigeria. Tell me the name of your bathing soap and I'll tell you the pH if it's drying or good for your skin

@Ijawphilosopher @benwhyzee What of the Nigerian one

@benwhyzee Foreign one, PH of 8 can be drying

@Ijawphilosopher @meowwcodes Is extract soap good ?

@meowwcodes Unfortunately many bar soaps are drying and highly alkaline , from a pH of 7 and above. I test soaps on my tiktok ijaw cosmetologist

i understand now why people bathe w/ bar soap instead of body wash

@Maggiewitdsauce You for give am wrong code just to waste his time and frustrate am

Omo, I just experienced one of those WhatsApp scammers firsthand 😅 Caller: “My name is Mr Bamidele from Tripe Academy.” Me: “Good morning sir, how can I help you?” Caller: “Are you aware of the Zoom meeting by 8pm tonight?” Me: “No, but I’ll check it out if it’s true.” Caller: “Okay, check your SMS for a message in a foreign language with a code.” Me: I checked, nothing there. Caller: “Let me generate a new code, maybe it’s network.” At this point I was already suspicious. Then I hear someone in the background asking in pidgin who he was talking to, and he replies quietly, “na one client.” 🚩 Next thing, I receive a WhatsApp notification that someone is trying to log into my account. Me: “I’ve seen the code.” Caller: “Read it out for me.” Me: “Why do I need to send you the code?” Guy just switched instantly 😭 Caller: “Get out of here, you’re a bastard!” Me: 😂 “Ode, thief, go find better work!” He cut the call immediately. Moral of the story. Never share your WhatsApp verification code with anyone. That’s how they hijack accounts. These guys are getting bold, but once you stay sharp, their format no go work. Stay alert and be smart.

@Smilingsailord @seyfunmi Abeg tag me to the Gist

@seyfunmi Funny enough, I never knew them. All my takes are just from TL information. I'm just seeing the husbands page as you said. I have no crox with her their union or more. I even recently posted that she should kuku be left alone.

That lady does not respect her husband and her new marriage. How do you spend your honeymoon doubling down and trading insults with people rightfully pissed you insulted their women and ancestry? Husband can't tell her to keep phone down?

@BallWizardry Na wetin I dey go through right now. Girl dey tell me say she is not feeling the relationship vibes again. It really hurts. And I really love this girl.

That was how it ended. No big fight. No closure talk. Just silence growing where pressure used to be. Later, he told me something that stuck: “Some people don’t love you, they just love what you keep doing for them.” And honestly… that one was too real.

My guy Kunle used to be the type that would go all out for whoever he was with. Not even doing too much……just a genuinely good person. So when he got into this relationship, nobody really worried at first. The girl had this calm vibe, always smiling, always acting like she just wanted peace. But if you stayed around them long enough, you’d notice one thing…..everything had to benefit her. Kunle would plan dates, pay for almost everything, even adjust his schedule just to fit hers. But the one time he asked her to come through for him ….. something small …..-she had one excuse or the other.

@_BiiigMike @BallWizardry Na wetin I dey go through right now. Girl dey tell me say she is not feeling the relationship vibes again. It really hurts

@BallWizardry Jesus they tell you my life guyy 😭😭😭

@Miss_Oluremi @IconicLawyer Are you single?

@IconicLawyer Lessons learnt 👌🏽

Whenever I visited my ex, he would give me money to go get foodstuffs alone, I would cook, clean, and serve while he played game. And whenever I complain of him not assisting me, he would say he has played his part by providing money. The rest are my duties. So I waited till it was his time to visit me, I made sure there was no food at my house. Just water. He asked what I cooked, and I requested money so I could go get foodstuffs. He told me I was the host, and I ought to be the one to provide the food. Immediately, I opened my purse and gave him cash to go buy foodstuffs he would cook for us since that was how he treated me too. He was confused. He thought it was a joke. I stood my ground. That night, we both slept hungry. He went back the following day and never called me again, till date.