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@OwolabiDah @YusufTechLab @muminattaofeek No. Most people don't understand the argument or some deliberately try to twist it. I see some trying to make the man take responsibility for everything to even their own personal submission to ALLAAH's command. Who enjoined Obedience upon you O woman? ALLAAH or your husband?

@YusufTechLab @GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek So,poverty to the rescue?

There is a particular kind of manipulation that thrives in Nigerian Muslim communities and it has been so normalized that most women do not even recognize it when it is happening to them. It sounds like this: "A woman who chases money will forget her home." "Financial independence will make her arrogant." "She doesn't need to work, that is the man's responsibility." And because it is delivered wrapped in religion, most women swallow it whole. But here is what nobody tells you that is not Islam. That is insecurity dressed in a jalabiya. The Quran gave women property rights over 1400 years ago when Europe had not even conceptualized the idea. Khadijah (RA) was one of the wealthiest merchants in Mecca. She employed the Prophet ﷺ before he became a Prophet. Her financial power never made her less of a wife, less of a Muslimah, or less of a woman. It made her one of the greatest human beings to ever walk this earth. So when did we decide that a woman knowing her money is a threat? I will tell you when. The moment men realized that a woman with options is a woman they cannot manipulate. Financial dependency is not modesty. It is a control mechanism. And we have been conditioned to protect it by calling it deen. I have always believed that money is not a man's conversation it is a human necessity. And as a Muslim woman specifically, understanding wealth is not rebellion. It is your right. It is your protection. It is quite literally built into your religion. Nobody should have to be Beg for maintenance, stay in a toxic marriage because they cannot afford to leave, or shrink their ambitions because a man's ego is more comfortable with their ignorance. Women like @ronkecarew exist in this space and remind me that this is not a radical opinion. It is simply what happens when you actually read when you go back to the source instead of inheriting somebody's cultural anxiety and calling it faith. Know your deen. Own your money. They were never in conflict to begin with. 🤍

@tabjib @muminattaofeek Respectfully sir how can I help if you can't understand the context of the argument. This back and forth in its entirety is for only those who deliberately live by the teachings of the QUR'AN not Muslim by name.

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek Let her be arrogant. She'll be judged by her Lord. Are men also not arrogant when they acquire wealth? In fact, it is difficult to see an extremely wealthy man not into any form of fornication. In short, we'll all be judged by our Lord. So, let's stick to the teachings of Islam.

@seemzDr @muminattaofeek How can I help if you don't understand the context of the argument. This conversation in its entirety is solely for Muslims who live by the QUR'AN.

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek I want to LOL at you, but I sigh and feel bad for the mentality and definition of submission you have. Sadly, this is the example of authoritative tyranny that many men have and deluded themselves into thinking its the meaning of submission

What does the word "submission" means to you? Let's start from there

#Women craving equal rights with men is funny. You want equal rights, yet after God built everything #men built the world you live in. The hospitals, the schools, the factories, the roads, the phones you use,the world you are literally etc. What did you build ?

@Accoid Women craving equal rights with men is funny. You want equal rights, yet men built everything around you. The hospitals, the schools, the factories, the roads, the phones you use, etc. What did you build ?

Everyday I keep seeing reason to distance myself from religious people. I pour you spit TUEH!

@Accoid Yes because you sound like you detest SUBMISSION. Most women do, some will even enter ground at the sound of the word "S" .. Na why baby mama plenty. Can't solely blame the women, some men are very irresponsible too. That said a real man will always be in charge.

@Accoid I'm looking to see where religion was mentioned in this particular post and I can't find it, but I find emotional judgement, a classic women trait. There's a reason why women don't have the capacity to lead. Who your spit epp ? 😂

@morufdeenbello Check all my posts before making your point sir.

How do men with money behve to their wives? Any man afraid to see his wife becoming wealth need not have a wife. Stop promoting poverty.

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@MajeedatAbdul @muminattaofeek Lol . The God fearing woman knows how to treat her man whether rich or poor.

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek So you’re only worthy of her respect when she’s poor……..

@muminattaofeek The problem with some of our noble sisters is that they fail to fully come to terms with the fact that it is ALLAAH that ordained the structure the way it is. If you're happy with the structure, you earn your Lord's pleasure , if not , you earn His anger. Choose wisely !

The responses to my last post confirmed exactly what I was talking about. "If she has her own money she will disrespect her husband." Let that sentence sink in. Read it again. That is not a statement about money. That is a confession. You are telling me that the only reason your wife respects you is because she is broke. That her loyalty is not built on love, deen, or character it is built on dependency. That is not a marriage. That is a hostage situation with a nikah certificate. If a woman's respect for you disappears the moment she has financial power, the problem was never her money. The problem is you. You built a marriage on control, not on Allah-conscious partnership, and now you are terrified of what happens when the leverage disappears. Khadijah (RA) was richer than the Prophet ﷺ before he married her. Did her wealth make her disrespectful? Did it make her disobedient? No. It made her one of the most honored women in Islamic history, and the Prophet ﷺ never once treated her wealth as a threat to his authority. So if a woman with money is dangerous to your home, ask yourself what kind of home you actually built. Stop hiding insecurity behind religion. Allah did not tell women to stay poor for the sake of male comfort. Men did. And they have been getting away with it because women were too afraid to call it what it is. I am done being polite about this. The truth has been spoken.

@muminattaofeek Muslim fathers have a lot of work to do. Honestly these days when I discuss with some sisters, I realize how much disdain sisters now have for the word "Submission" and I can't blame them because some brothers too are not responsible and abuse the word.

@muminattaofeek Allahuma Baarik

@GrowthStacks Yes, you are right for this,too

@Fanofseven @muminattaofeek intentional

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek Thank God you said "SOME" meaning there are others who are rich and are willing to be submissive. All women are not same, all men aren't same too. Find your submissive woman and marry her.

@muminattaofeek Wealth isn't the issue—obedience, humility, and fear of Allah are. The same test applies to men and women alike.

@muminattaofeek Noble sister, no one says a woman must be poor to respect her husband. Islam says rich or poor, obedience in what is right is an act of worship. Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (May ALLAAH be pleased with her) wasn't honoured because she was wealthy, but because of her taqwā.

@muminattaofeek Yes you have spoken well but you present marriage as an "Allah-conscious partnership" while ignoring that Allah also gave the husband qiwāmah (leadership) and obligated the wife to obey him in what is good. Respect is not based only on love or finances; it is an act of worship.

@muminattaofeek I'll give a logical answer first. You know the way you lived with your parents when you were young up until now where your parents ran the show without you ever being utterly disrespectful. The sahabiyyahs used to refer to their husbands as "Ya Sayyid" which means "Oh Master"

@YusufTechLab @muminattaofeek I'm curious to see the author's response.

@GrowthStacks @muminattaofeek A woman can never be submissive to her husband if she is richer than him