AmazingRejoice

People ask, "Is marriage sweet, or are people just pretending online?" Whenever I hear that question, I think about my parents. My late dad worked with Nestlé Nigeria and eventually became a manager. But if you met them in the early years of their marriage, you would never have guessed what the future held. They lived in a room inside a face-me-I-face-you apartment. One room. Not one flat. One room. That room was bedroom, sitting room, dining room, and everything in between. Privacy was almost non-existent. The kitchen and bathroom were shared. Everybody knew everybody's business. Life wasn't glamorous. There were good days. There were hard days. Days when money was tight. Days when sacrifices had to be made. Days when plans didn't go as expected. But one thing I noticed growing up was that my parents were always a team. Not a perfect team. They disagreed. They got frustrated. They had their own ups and downs like every normal couple. But somehow, they kept moving forward together. Years passed. Life improved. The same people who started in a single room gradually built a better life. Not overnight. Not through magic. But through patience, commitment, sacrifice, and staying together through seasons that many people today would have walked away from. Now that my dad is late, one thing I appreciate even more is that my mum doesn't just remember the comfortable years. She talks about the struggles too. The face-me-I-face-you days. The sacrifices. The journey. And she talks about them with pride. That's when I understood something: Marriage is not sweet because life is always easy. Marriage is sweet when two people keep choosing each other while life is being difficult. Social media shows the destination. What it rarely shows is the journey. The late nights. The sacrifices. The waiting. The forgiveness. The growing together. So are some people pretending online? Of course. But there are also people whose smiles are genuine because they know what it took to get there. And sometimes, the sweetest marriages are the ones that survived seasons nobody saw.

Is marriage sweet, or are people just pretending online?

Guys, I need advice. Three years ago, my uncle borrowed money from a family friend to save his business. The business survived. Today, he's doing very well financially. The family friend who helped him is now struggling badly and recently reached out for assistance. My uncle said, "I have my own responsibilities. The money he gave me was a loan, not charity." Technically, he's right. But somehow, it doesn't feel right. Do we only owe people repayment, or do we also owe them remembrance when life turns around? 🤔 Shalom.

One of my close big brothers in the US was always on calls with a female friend of mine here in Nigeria. From the outside, it looked like something could develop between them, and eventually, she developed feelings for him. She gathered the courage to tell him how she felt… but he turned her down. She has been heartbroken for days. When I spoke with him, he said he’s not looking to date for now. And if he ever decides to, it would have to be a citizen from the US, UK, Canada, or Australia. He said it’s based on a past experience that made him very guarded. I tried to make him see that one painful experience shouldn’t define an entire group of people, but he wasn’t open to changing his mind. And it left me thinking… How many people walk around with permanent conclusions shaped by temporary pain? Because sometimes, heartbreak doesn’t just end a connection. It changes how you see everyone who comes after it.

HEALTH TIPS FOR LADIES 1. Always wash your vagina after sex to avoid odor 2. Drink plenty water everyday so as to wash bacteria and infections out of your body 3. Always massage your breast before bedtime or let your man suck it so as to avoid cancer. 4. Don't wash your vagina with any kind of soap. Clean water alone is enough 5. If you're the type that likes giving her man mouth gig, try as much as you can to brush your teeth/mouth morning and night and take a cup of lemon warm water every morning after brushing to avoid mouth odor/ mouth infection 6. Always shave your armpits and pelvic hairs 7. As a lady, take lots of yogurts and pineapples because, it helps in making vagina healthy and sweet during sex 8. Use good pads during your period and change it when it full 9. Take your bath at least 2 times everyday especially when you're menstruating. 10. Say NO to genital multilation 11. Change your sets of panties and bra always at least once in three months.

Meet a man for the first time and he’s already asking “when will you visit me”. Are you mad?!