Alexander Cheves

My advice column Go Ask Alex in @outmagazine is back! send me your filthy, complicated, personal questions. My DMs are open. don’t be shy #queershelpingqueers 🖤🌈

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Columnist Alexander Cheves (@badalexcheves) gives advice to a reader worried that opening up is "tearing our relationship apart." out.com/voices/go-ask-…

This week we’re getting deep... literally. 😉👊 Writer and expert fister @badalexcheves joins us to explain why “Fisting is the It Girl” right now. From Twitter trends to training tips, we’re unpacking how this once niche kink is having a major cultural moment — and how to do it safely. 🎙️ Watch/Listen to the full episode here: sniffieshush.com/blogs/articles…

Loved hearing this on the @sniffiesapp podcast on fisting by @BadAlexCheves: ➡️ Goal-oriented fisting is the first way to get injuries. (paraphrased) Listen to your body, folx. Know the difference between pushing your limits and injuring yourself.

Do you remember those days when you actually wanted to be out of the house, among people? Man that was wild.

I talked with the cool guys on the @SuchFFun Podcast about chems, harm reduction, and how I found a better relationship with drugs. It might be triggering for some, but these are important topics, things we have*** to talk about. Watch & listen 👊🏼

Series 6 episode 3 - CHEMS ft. @BadAlexCheves @NoNamefckrbln is live on our Patreon now 🎥👊 Sponsored by @FuckYeahMachine @KINK3Ddesigns @STUDFIST @ToppedToys @x_lube patreon.com/posts/chems-13…

Tolstoy with the best creative advice ever written down

Lately the sad is huge and the anger is huge and both are constant, so please take care of yourself. Exercise. Read more. Work on your art. Talk to someone. Check on your friends. Remember your meds. Sit in the car and listen to the whole song. Celebrate the little wins.

Ray Bradbury's rules for living

"You have to be careful when playing is no longer in the mind but in the fingers, going to happy places. Your hands are like dogs, going to the same places they've been. You have to break them of their habits or you don't explore. You only play what is confident and pleasing…

I relate to this deeply; thank you @GarthGreenwell. I was raised on a farm in Georgia and was taught that a man pays his own way—that's it. No one taught me taxes, savings, or anything useful: just the shame of accepting money from someone else. I hate money too.

buff muscle dad who’s been through it all—kicked out of the house for being gay, disowning by family, Tina addiction, a misdemeanor, late-20s HIV diagnosis—and bartends despite being 15 yrs sober. he sublimates his anguish into hosting tantric fisting retreats in Palm Springs.

Real question for tops: Do you prefer it when the bottom is "rigid"—trying to hold himself in place, so you have something to stroke into—or would you rather him move with you a little bit? (FYI, staying rigid while being fucked is hard; you can't relax and open as easily.)

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Chudai

In the studio with @BadAlexCheves and @NoNamefckrbln today 🎙️💖🇩🇪

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