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Chai, see as my bed red. Whenever we're doing a class action lawsuit for pad companies, please call me. Even if it's 3am.

My sister was born with profound disabilities, a lot more severe than Down’s. She was non-verbal all her life. I don’t think she could even recognize our mother when she walked into a room. Growing up around the special ed system, I was taught the standard line on children with disabilities: we should cherish their special qualities, the purity of their happiness and the innocence of their love. There is nothing wrong with them, they’re just different. I repeated this line for years, but eventually I started to wonder if I believed any of it. When my sister died at age 26, I figured it was time to look back over her life in full. Did she make anyone’s life better? To be blunt, I could not think of any way that she did. How could she, when she didn’t have the capacity to act in any meaningful sense. On the other side of the ledger, she made a lot of people’s lives worse. Another member of our family was in and out of institutions for years later in life, and part of me thinks the strain of caring for my sister was too much for this person and drove them mad. Of course people loved my sister. My parents did. But people can project love onto lots of things, the way pet owners project love onto their cats or a stalker projects love onto a celebrity. If the object of your love doesn’t know you exist and never will, is it even real? Try to answer honestly even though it’s a difficult thing to ask about a member of your own family. I’m not trying to make a case for selective abortion. Once a life exists, we have duties toward it that can’t be shrugged off for utilitarian reasons. I just wanted to counterbalance the rosy picture being put out there. My sister was an extreme case. Other disabled people can talk, recognize faces, and form relationships, which I assume makes things different for their families. My only message is: It’s hard. It’s really hard. The best thing my sister did in her life was give the people around her the opportunity to show their best selves. But the reason she was able to do that was because it’s really hard.

btw, except you’re arguing from a religious belief pov which is entirely different altogether, if you’re a secular man and you’re against the abortion of disabled children, i think there’s something fundamentally wrong with you.

But but... If you think it's okay to abort a child ONLY when it's detrimental to the mothers health then you'd have to define what "health" covers o. Mental health is not health enough? Last I checked, pregnancy be running women mad. Oh well...🙂

How many of your fathers are active caretakers of your disabled siblings? HYPOCRITES, ALL OF YOU!

In this conversation, I am very grateful for parents who supported me, a stuttering + hyper functioning child. Not until I went to secondary school did I realise that people actually tolerated my speech. For my parents, neighbors an friends, they only just had to be patient.

I understand it now. We measure people in their capabilities, and ever so often when I get an off handed comment like: he is only stuttering because he wants to lie, not only does it break me, it makes me miss my parents who in their presence, your opinions are like wind to me.

A fool through and through

the painful part is, if dem divide this country, na under tinubu i go still dey. proper torture.

I really need to let someone love me. When did I become like this? The way I treat men these days is crazy 😂

Too real

😹😹😹na me be the nonchalant and avoidant men I preach against.

I totally get the idea of aborting babies with some form of deformiti, especially mentally. Being a caregiver to needy child is a life time sacrifice, plus visualizing a successful future for them can be blurry, takes alot of mental strength to see it through. Not mere words.

It’s so much irked me out when I hear people say “Men are grown babies “, it validates their nonsense behaviors.

Who's gonna be this patient with this child if the mum's not there? If something happens to the mum tomorrow? Hmm

i wish you people would stop having abortion discussions with men. you’re wasting your time on a back and forth with people who are famously known to be selfish and always put themselves first. if you like keep unwanted or a disabled foetus because your christian brothers said so

@BronAnalytics @25tobiloba This kills 😭

@25tobiloba by anywhere, i didn’t have nigeria in mind😂

One thing I love about shopping in the UK is the return policy. You can buy clothes, try them on at home, and if you don't like them for any reason, you can take them back and get a refund instantly.

Geneticist here. Cerebral palsy is more congenital than acquired. In fact, over 80% of CP is congenital and the occurrence of this condition is multi-factorial. De Novo (never-before-seen and spontaneous) mutations in the genes responsible for neuritogenesis (the process of formation dendrites and axons).

@THE_MASTERSs Yay😛😛

@Busayooo_b Whoa, I just realized that know you, you randomly wished me a happy birthday on Snapchat a year ago🥺

I will get a boyfriend after my masters, let me face my books for now 😛

@Freyy_is 😭

@Busayooo_b bench her.💀

Please, I genuinely want to know… How is the church going to “discipline her”?