Baldé
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Baldé
@adeleke_visual
Writer | photographer | creative director
I was a virgin until 24, started dating Moyo since 21, he didn't pressure me, told me to take my time, loved, cared and still spent on me... After my 24th birthday, we had a big fight and separated. I thought that was the end Out of anger I lost my virginity to a random guy and just 2 days after Moyo reached out to me. He wanted us back together. I felt horrible cos I was no longer a virgin, I told him instantly because I was scared and didn't want to lead him on. But he was sad, angry and he went quiet. That was the last time I heard from him I thought he loved me for who I am but sadly he was only after my body like every other man.
"Collective guilt is something I will never agree with." It's always the ones who still laugh with abusers and put out misogynistic tweets who want to act brand new when these things come up in more extreme ways. I pity the people who don't see through that bullshit.
What did you say again about swag?
As a decent man, I understand the instinct to say “not all men.” You’re right, it’s not all men. Lol it can’t be all men. But you grew up with women or you at least have female friends and colleagues. MOST of them have stories of sexual harassment and sometimes sexual abuse. Real and painful stories. Abuses and harassment perpetuated by who? A man. You can’t know all these and your first reply will be “not all men”. The priority in that moment shouldn’t be “distancing yourself” from the problem, it should be listening to what’s being said and acknowledging the pattern. Everyone knows it’s not all men. Even the women saying “all men are guilty till proven innocent” know they’re wrong. However I understand that logic as a safety/defensive mechanism when interacting with men you don’t know. Back to the point. You don’t need to “defend men” in that moment. Lol most decent men aren’t asking you to defend them in that moment.
I inherit beef like mad! If you have beef with any of my friends then you have beef with me. I don’t like you!
I sent free food to someone last week. Like full complete combo — jollof rice, fried rice, plantain, chicken, drink and water. And the guy couldn’t even say thank you. Na me even pay for delivery. Fuck rubbish and unappreciative friendship.
Wyd in this situation??
i just saw a video where a girl was crying cause she sold her cat to this guy just to find out he used it to make peppersoup💔
If we date and I find out you cheat on me when we have a wedding mapped out in weeks I’ll use ur wedding day, the supposed happiest day of your life to take out my revenge I’ll cook it “perfectly wicked” for you that, the word MARRIAGE , will traumatize you.
Women’s anger and hatred for men is forever justified and I wish misandry was real
if as a man, you decide to defend wetin woman try to use agenda push with her fellow women, you dey waste your time. “it’s all men”, no wahala. dey run if you see me for road.
If you like wear collective guilt as your personal identity. You will suffer.
As a decent man, I understand the instinct to say “not all men.” You’re right, it’s not all men. Lol it can’t be all men. But you grew up with women or you at least have female friends and colleagues. MOST of them have stories of sexual harassment and sometimes sexual abuse. Real and painful stories. Abuses and harassment perpetuated by who? A man. You can’t know all these and your first reply will be “not all men”. The priority in that moment shouldn’t be “distancing yourself” from the problem, it should be listening to what’s being said and acknowledging the pattern. Everyone knows it’s not all men. Even the women saying “all men are guilty till proven innocent” know they’re wrong. However I understand that logic as a safety/defensive mechanism when interacting with men you don’t know. Back to the point. You don’t need to “defend men” in that moment. Lol most decent men aren’t asking you to defend them in that moment.