Big Ice

Most people separate public health from relationships. That’s the mistake. Broken families affect mental health. Sexual indiscipline affects disease spread. Father's absence affects crime rates. Emotional instability affects productivity. Private choices shape public outcomes. This page connects relationships, masculinity, and societal health. Legacy Over Impulse.

@D__PROF @jon_d_doe All of the above.

@jon_d_doe Agba, why do people get triggered by your teachings? Is it because the truth hits them, it feels bitter, or they can’t stand the person saying it?

I have been talking. 5 years ago, my words remain unchanged.

The government frustrating ADC is actually the best thing that could happen to ADC. Nothing unites a fragmented opposition like a common enemy, and this government just volunteered for the role. Every delay, every bottleneck, every suspicious regulatory headache is a press release ADC did not have to write, a grievance that lands in the lap of every Nigerian already tired of APC. They are not killing the opposition, They are fundraising for it…..let them continue

@jon_d_doe To add, sir. A girl in her early twenties may have up to 5 different men she sleeps with in a day for money. An older lady may not even do 2 men in a day except she’s a prostitute.

Let me tell you what I know for certain. Cheating amongst women, is more prevalent with the under 25s than it's with older women. Single women above 25 are more intentional and calculative with what they want. And when they cheat, they most likely would do so not because of money, but because they may be selected by other serious minded men. You don't expect a woman that is almost 30, to be dating for years with no hopes in sight. I hope you understand me.

@jon_d_doe Agba, they don’t have the balls. They’re scared. They chose to be blind because of the amount they’ve already invested in the nonsensical relationships.

Those of you much older men dating under 25 girls, I want to give you an assignment. Hire a PI to monitor your girlfriend for 3 months. At least 90% of you would cry. End.

A man serious about marriage at 30 should be looking at a woman who is also serious about marriage. And a 21-year-old, in most cases, is serious about living, which is exactly what she should be doing. You don’t plant a harvest seed in soil that isn’t ready and complain when nothing grows. Know the season you’re in. Date accordingly.

You are 30 as a man, You say you're looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. But you're dating a 21 year old girl. You're not feeling alright. End.

@hucchey Thank you. Don’t mind them Let them keep being delusional. Time will tell.

As someone in the dating pool this isn't hard to understand.. It's a lived reality however there are exceptions and the exceptions are what we are all looking for until time fades and this advise makes more meaning then..

Both. Virginity is not synonymous with good character. Likewise, a broken hymen isn’t synonymous with bad character. If you marry a woman in her early twenties, chances are, she may take back her youth in that marriage. Again, you won’t understand the point. So it’s fine.

Remarkable argument. So the solution is to marry them before they’re ready, and hope for the best? That’s the counter? You just accidentally confirmed the entire point of the original post. If secondary school boys already have access, what exactly does marrying her at 21 protect you from? You argued against the post and proved it simultaneously. That takes a special kind of skill.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​😭😭😭

You know what is more pathetic? Your smelly mouth. How do people in your community cope? I’m just curious.

The fact that you don’t have the brain to comprehend the simple truth shows that you can’t even keep up with me. You’ll be fine.

@BlessingObasiu1 Another ashawo don drop motivational speech.

@dmGambo Them don leak your brain finish to the extent that you can't think for yourself anymore.

I know what you are. A clout chaser or you’re probably crying in his block industry. But as a “cult” member, I will educate you because you obviously lack the mind to grasp the message. A secondary school student wouldn’t have the lived experience to make that observation with that kind of weight. That post comes from a man who has watched marriages fail up close, not from a textbook, not from Twitter discourse, but from life. You can feel the difference when you read it carefully. Ooops, you tried doing that but you still couldn’t get it. The fact that it makes you uncomfortable enough to question the author’s age instead of engaging the argument is actually the most telling response possible. That’s what people do when a truth lands too close to home and they have no intelligent rebuttal. A secondary school student is still trying to get a girl to notice him. The man who wrote that post has already moved past the part where he needs women to validate his observations. Engage the argument or leave it. But questioning his age because his thinking challenges yours is not the flex you think it is.

@mberambo17 @reallieeee Na vex carry you come under my comment. So who dey vex pass?

@dmGambo @reallieeee Why you vex for wetin you support? Shouldn't charity begin at home again?

This is the energy of a man who has stopped seeking approval and started accepting reach. Agba, everyone knows that you are not posting for followers anymore. You’re posting because what you carry is too heavy to keep to yourself, and too true to stay quiet. The blocked ones still find the posts. The haters still screenshot. The critics still quote the post. That’s not a coincidence. That’s impact. Na you fit them. And deep down, they know it.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​ God punish their mama.

Is that what you understand about the post in your 17 years of marriage?😭💔 Indeed, Jesus wept.

I’m glad y’all are so obsessed with the community 🤭

On the town hall public hearing organized by Nigerian civil society, ADC Chairman asked me to represent him personally. I attended and told Professor Joas Amupitan in his face that his words shows he does not deserve any trust. That his INEC may be the worst. I have gone ahead on TV to say the 2027 will be the worst election in Nigeria’s history because of Tinubu’s APC and INEC. My name is Sam Amadi, I am a lawyer with a rich social science analytics. Prepare for a terrible, chaotic and grossly rigged 2027 election. I can bet on this

Same way your stepfather is doing.

Some of these young men do not even have the mental and cognitive capacity to understand what I teach here. Their brains are more pre-occupied with how they will scam people to make illegal money. Or how they will win the next sure bet. She-goats with big dicks. End.

This is the rare kind of writing that lands because it doesn’t preach, it just shows up and sits with you. Most people aren’t estranged because they stopped loving. They’re estranged because returning feels like admitting the silence was a mistake. And pride would rather inherit grief than confess to wasted time.

If You stopped calling your parents at 80 and they stopped asking why. It is not because they don’t care, not because the hurt didn’t run deep, but because at 68, 71, 74, you learn to stop chasing people, even the ones you raised, even the ones you would die for without hesitation. They sit with it, quietly, the way old people sit with things they cannot change. They replay the last conversation, the one that went wrong, the one where voices rose and words landed like damage. They wonder what they could have said differently, they wonder if you wonder the same. The rift feels old now, familiar almost, like a scar both of you have stopped examining. But scars don’t mean healed, they just mean covered. Your mother still mentions you, not always directly, sometimes just in the way she goes quiet when your name comes up in another context. Your father still prays for you, even if he has run out of words to say to you directly, even if the last thing you said to each other left a taste neither of you has forgotten. And you, you’ve built a life around the silence, convinced yourself it’s fine, that people drift, that some relationships just end, that even blood has its limits. But at 3am when things get heavy, you know. You know it isn’t fine, you know the silence has a weight, you know that somewhere a 70-year-old man is aging without his child and somewhere inside you, something is aging too. The longer it goes, the harder the return feels, but the return is still possible, that is the part pride doesn’t want you to remember. One of them will die first, it won’t be announced in advance, there will be no warning that today is the last chance, no signal that the window is closing. Fix it before the window closes, not for them, for the version of you that will have to live with whichever choice you make today.