Greenhighwriter

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy I am asking you to define how YOU picture it. That seems to be one of the big miscommunications. Some people are seeing it as prolonged kissing with tongue and light touching. Others view it as groping and grinding. Don’t talk down to me dude I have been so respectful to you :/

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy If you do not know what making out is, idk what to tell you

A healthy woman does not fear sex with her husband. She desires it. She craves it. She hopes that touch will turn into sex. She wants it to turn into sex. On the other hand, a woman who is fearful of having sex with her husband either has something seriously wrong with her hormones or her attitude. Perhaps trauma, often self-inflicted trauma. And she has placed a burden that is hers to carry onto her husband. She needs to buck up, get some help, and stop externalizing her own problems onto her spouse.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy How do you define making out? Men can get turned on from anything. You could wear yoga pants and he’d get a hard on. Are you now required to drop everything and tend to his needs? If he needs more he can do it for himself. You are a human with autonomy not just a hole to fuck

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Making out is different than a kiss.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy How are you viewing “making out” cause I’m viewing it as a more focused kissing session (could take 2 mins) whereas some of these men seem to view it as a hours long edging session. She never said she goes on for hours just that they take time to enjoy each other before bed.

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Okay if you might not, that is denying them sex then. I'm not going to bake a batch of cookies then hit my husbands hand away every time he wants one either. Why try getting someone to that level and being like, eh no. That just seems unfair.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Then you misread because she never said deny them sex. She said without the pressure of having sex meaning they might have sex they might not. It’s easier for a lot of women to want to have sex if it doesn’t feel like a requirement and instead becomes a choice

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy This all started from women wanting to make out with their husbands and deny them sex, I think. Unless I'm on the wrong thread.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy I’m glad you it brings you comfort. I respect religion. However as someone who had cancer at 6 years old and has experienced lots of health issues/tragedy it makes it harder for me personally to believe in a higher power who would inflict that on innocent children

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy God never said there wouldn't be pain or suffering. His grace and word helps use see through our tradgedies. I lost my mom to cancer and have battled unexplained infertility for 8 years. I have struggled with God at times.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Why are we talking about libido? You’re bringing up a lot of personal anecdotes (which is fine) while dismissing others anecdotes (not fine). I don’t think we’ll ever be on the same page since you seem to advocate total submission from a wife despite the danger that might cause🙃

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Google, I have a higher libido than my husband. There are a lot of women sexually frustrated too, it is just not talked about as much. Age, depression, unhealthy habits, stress can all tank a man's libido too. It is not talked about as much.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy So the answer to all of this is just communicate better! Yes, that’s what i’ve been saying. So often women are taught to settle for bad behavior. The goal here is to advocate for yourself and to teach women to be more comfortable in their sexuality without fear or pressure 🙃

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy That could be true, and they need to work on communicating better. When I post this I'm also talking about marriage and not just dating. At the end of the day in a monogamous relationship you're all each other has for desire. And that will change with age, libido and hormones.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Nope! It’s hard to be one when words like “pediatric oncology” and “massacre” exist. I care about other people without having an omnipresent man in the sky tell me I have to :/ I respect religion but don’t personally adhere to a book written by man that tells you how to behave

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy But respecting his needs, if he is satisfied with not having sex in that moment but a blow job would work, why not? I want him satisfied and relaxed. Are you Christian?

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Yet we only seem to focus on women? How often does a man yield control of his body (in a potentially painful way) because his wife has a “need”. No one said never have sex with your husband but no one is entitled to anyone’s body despite what an old book (written by men) says

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy 1 Corinthians 7:4 "The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife."

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy I imagine a lot of your willingness comes from your partners ability to communicate/listen to you. Some women are saying that they aren’t getting that. Ideal world all would be like that. It doesn’t seem like that’s what some women are getting/what some men extend to their wife

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Well it shouldn't feel like pressure or guilt. When you marry you are both giving your bodies to one another to have and enjoy. Both going into it with pleasuring each other, because there is no one else. I'm happy that after 16 years my husband still wants me.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Well, like I said I’m glad you’re in a healthy/happy marriage but that isn’t the case for everybody. I’m sure there are lots of women like you but there are also lots of women who don’t feel that way. Both are okay.

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy And TMI, if I'm never not in the mood, which is extremely rare (maybe touched out from breastfeeding, or my period) I have no problem taking care of him other ways.

@penanggalann This is horrifying and exactly what men don’t understand when they ask why we aren’t in these fields. :/ ignoring the years of not being allowed at all to join them sometimes it’s better on a personal level to leave than to deal with prolonged abuse/an unsafe situation :/

@greenhighwriter intellectual capabilities, then?". But those are the kinds of irrational males women are having to deal with. And males bully women in male-dominated fields all the time. Women should never feel bad about not partaking in or contributing to them.

women quit male-dominated fields because of the sexual harassment they experience female-dominated fields (like teaching and nursing) are stressful in themselves yet women stay in them for decades

@lilsauerkraut_ Did I say they couldn’t desire sex? You may have a nice husband. Don’t assume that your scenario is everyone’s. The advice this stemmed from was helping women desire it & feel comfortable which men should want. You make it seem like a husband can’t force his wife which isn’t true

@greenhighwriter You ladies act like men desiring sex makes them rapists. Misusing words like "traumatic" and "force" make them nearly worthless. It's true you may not always feel in the mood when he does but to constantly deny someone of their love language is neglectful at best.

Acting like your husband being attracted to you is somehow traumatic is hilarious to me

@kcaloriezxx @WIXJWIDJWJ It’s hard too when minimum wage jobs nowadays don’t even support a single person when the whole point is minimum wage to live. We’re getting paid less and prices are higher. Instead of fixing that they expect us to just work longer hours/have another job.

@WIXJWIDJWJ Not to mention that eugenics has systematically targeted poor people because they believed that poverty is something that is genetically inherited instead of a social failure. So thinking like this borders on the same principle that eugenicists argued to uplift it.

Tbh a lot of poor women have a lot of children because they’re being raped by their husbands and have no way of accessing contraception.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy It seems like your marriage is good and I’m glad for you. This advice just seems like it isn’t targeted at you :) Do what works for you. For me it would feel more comfortable to have sex if I know he isn’t gonna pressure/guilt me :) But I’m glad your marriage seems healthy :)

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy And he is my husband, he has never not cared for me.

@sstimel18422 @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Well I’m happy for you. That seems like a nice marriage. This is more for people who struggle with intimacy for some reason or another. The goal is to make it safe to have intimacy without the pressure of sex. It’s easier to WANT to have sex without the pressure

@greenhighwriter @emilykmay @NoahRevoy Well, it was originally referring to a husband and wife. We are intimate in quick kisses in the kitchen, massages, and cuddling, etc. If we are making out, things are just naturally going to progress to sex.