MJ🌸@feesarhbby
Reason why I’m not attending
Their mum is my mum’s elder sister, so we are cousins. My mum is the last born in her family, and i grew up very close to them. I even stayed with them for a while. The twins are five years older than me, and they’ve always been like brothers to me.
However, they did something that really hurt me. We both gained admission into the same university together. They got their admission late for some reason, which is why we ended up starting at the same time. One of the twins was given Accounting,the course they both wanted,but the other twin was given a different course.
Fast forward to our convocation day: my mum was sick and my dad had travelled. I was already working at a showroom at the time because I needed money for my NYSC. Before convocation, they paid for their gowns and collected theirs. They have three sisters abroad who are doing well, while I’m the first born in my family and carry a lot of responsibility. I couldn’t afford to pay for my clearance and gown immediately, so I was waiting for my salary.
By the time I paid, it was late and I wasn’t given my convocation gown. Meanwhile, they collected theirs and did a photoshoot with their family.
After their photo shoot, I called and asked if I could borrow their gown so I could also do my own photo shoot. They refused and said they were taking it to school for pictures. I told them, “But you guys already did your shoot.” I begged them, but they still refused to lend it to me. I was really hurt.
On our convocation day, when I arrived at school, I couldn’t even enter because of the heavy crowd and traffic. I had to stay outside with my friend. She had also paid for her gown but wasn’t given one either. We both walked around looking for someone who could lend us a gown so we could at least take some pictures.
The person we eventually borrowed a gown from didn’t even allow us to use it for more than a minute before she collected it back. At the end of the day, the only picture I managed to take was blurry because we were rushing.
It hurt even more when I heard that my cousin and his parents celebrated his convocation in a big way,they cooked, invited friends, and made it a memorable occasion. I felt left out, but I just looked away.
When it was time for NYSC, I had already been working for a year. I wanted to register for mine and asked if they could give me the contact of the person who helped them with their direct posting. They had gotten direct posting to Ibadan, and I also wanted Ibadan or Osun. But they refused until I was posted to benue
Since then, we stopped talking. That was in 2022. Until now, I don’t use WhatsApp anymore. But whenever I post something on Telegram, they’re always the first person to view it. So I just assumed they didn’t want to talk to me.
In January, my mum told me that one of them wants to do a wedding, but they didn’t tell me themselves. That’s why I don’t want to attend. My mum has been begging me to go but I won’t
