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Tim Kashani

@TimKashani

Co-Founder of Apples & Oranges. Co-Creator of #storIAccelerator & Earth 3.0. Storyteller, Director, Writer, Producer-Bway. Technologist blending #AI & #XR

New York, NY / Orange County, CA شامل ہوئے Ağustos 2009
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GrampaFlex@GramPaFlex·
Closing the Right Gap @TEDTalks Everyone wants two things: certainty and connection. We chase certainty because the world is chaotic and having a framework - any framework - makes us feel like we can navigate it. We chase connection because we’re wired to, because loneliness is the background hum of modern life and we’ll do almost anything to turn it down. TED is coming up in April. I used to write posts after the conference - reflections, things I was processing. I wrote several. Then I stopped. The gap opened and I let it sit there. This year I’m doing something different. I’m writing before. I’m looking forward to walking into that room and reconnecting with people I’ve known for years, meeting new ones. I’ve spent 65 years chasing. Mostly from my head. Almost never from my heart. I’m only now starting to understand what that cost me. There’s a powerful idea about the distance between deciding and doing, more than talent, more than luck, more than the quality of your decisions, predicts whether a life becomes extraordinary or ordinary. The smaller the friction between intention and action, the more your internal force becomes external motion. Your thoughts have consequences. I loved this concept because it described me perfectly. I am someone who decides and does. Fast. Relentlessly. It’s how I built everything I’ve built. Here’s what I’m sitting with lately: I built all of it from my head. Every decision, every action, every gap I collapsed - it was strategic. Calculated. Effective. Disconnected from the part of me that feels things. For most of my adult life, I operated under a frame that felt like love but was an intellectual construct: I believed my job was to leave people better off than I found them. Everyone. Anyone. Whoever crossed my path with a problem to solve. It’s a head frame. It sounds generous, but it’s really a way to stay in control. You assess the problem, you design the solution, you execute. You get to feel useful without ever having to feel vulnerable. And it attracted a certain kind of relationship - people who needed help (often demanded), accepted it, and often felt entitled to more of it. I don’t say that with bitterness. I say it with the clarity that only comes from finally seeing a pattern you were inside of for decades. Here’s the part that’s hard to admit: fixing strangers is safe. You get to be the hero and you get to leave. Sitting still with the people who actually know you, and really know you - requires something I didn’t have practice in. It requires being in your heart, not your head. I had no idea how to do that so while I was out closing gaps for people who were passing through my life, the people who had chosen to stay in it got my leftovers. My wife. My family. The inner circle that I somehow treated like the waiting room while I tended to everyone else’s emergencies. I picked the right partner. She is the single best decision I ever made and probably the one decision in my life that came from my heart instead of my head. After 40 years, I’m not sure I deserve her. That’s not false modesty. It’s an honest reckoning with how long she has loved me while I was elsewhere sometimes physically, but all the time emotionally. Off in my head. Solving. Building. Performing love as service instead of experiencing it as presence. She never demanded I change. She just kept being there - steady, patient, present. The kind of love doesn’t ask you to perform. The kind that holds space and waits. That kind of patience wore down every defense I rationalized in my head. It was my granddaughter who finally broke it all the way open. She’s only a few months old. She doesn’t do anything yet - not in any way the world would measure. She can’t talk. She can’t ask for help. She has no problems for me to solve. She just exists. She breathes and blinks and occasionally grabs my finger with a grip that has no idea how strong it is. And something in me that I’d kept locked away for decades just … opened. You can’t think your way through holding a newborn. Your head has nothing to offer. There’s no work problem to solve, no gap to close, no strategy to deploy. There is just a heartbeat against your chest that isn’t yours. If you’re quiet enough, if you can get out of your head for even a minute - you can feel it. That’s it. That’s everything. She didn’t teach me a lesson. She just made me feel something I’d been thinking about for 65 years instead of living. So I’m not going to tell you I’ve figured it out. I haven’t. I’m in the middle of it and maybe the beginning of the middle. I’m 65, and I’m trying to learn something that I think a lot of people learn much earlier: how to live in my heart instead of my head. What does that actually mean? I’m still working on it. But I think it starts with letting go of the identity I built as the fixer, the solver, the person who leaves everyone better off. Not because that person was bad. He did a lot of good. But he was also hiding. Staying in his head because his heart was a place he didn’t know how to be. It means recognizing that my achievements, my history, the trappings of the life I’ve built none of that is the point anymore. The point is the time I have left and who I spend it with and how I show up for them. Not from my head. From my chest. From the place where I can actually feel things. The old frame: Leave people better off than I found them. The new frame: Leave my people - the ones who chose me, the ones I chose feeling connected, loved, and supported. It’s a smaller frame. It’s also infinitely harder. Because it means being honest about where my energy goes and who it’s actually for. It means quietly stepping back from relationships that were never really mutual - not with anger, just with honesty. And it means directing my full presence toward the people who matter most, even when I don’t know how to do that well yet. Especially when I don’t know how to do that well yet. TED is coming up in April. I used to write posts after the conference - reflections on ideas, things I was processing. I wrote several. Then I stopped. The gap opened and I let it sit there. This year I’m doing something different. I’m writing before. I’m looking forward to walking into that room and reconnecting with people I’ve known for years, meeting new ones. I’m excited about what I’m bringing home. Not ideas. Not connections. A version of me that’s a little more in his heart than his head. A version that can sit and not need to be solving something. A version that can hold his granddaughter and let her heartbeat be the only thing that matters. I’m not there yet. I’m somewhere in the gap between deciding to live this way and actually doing it. But I’ve learned that the gap between deciding and doing is where the real work happens, not the professional work, not the achievement work, the human work. The heart work. I wish I’d started earlier. I really do. But I’m not going to let that grief become another thing I process from my head. I’m going to feel it. And then I’m going to keep going. If you’re younger than me and reading this: you probably already know who your people are, and you probably already know the difference between living in your head and living in your heart. The gap between knowing that and actually doing it that’s the one worth closing. Close it now. They’ve been so patient. @TimKashani @jimscheinman
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Tim Kashani
Tim Kashani@TimKashani·
Been a huge fan of @runwayml and @pika_labs for a while now. They have really raised the bar on #AI Video. With google’s latest drop and now the openai.com/sora - excited to see where the imagination takes us.
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Tim Kashani@TimKashani·
@iBrews $185 cheaper than what I spent of rte "official" apple case.
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Alex Coulombe@iBrews·
Yea turns out my old Quest 1 hard storage case I got for $15 fits Vision Pro perfectly
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@unity Looking forward to my invite.
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Our beta program for visionOS starts rolling out to participants today! 🎉 Read on to learn more about developing for Apple Vision Pro and how to prepare your games and apps for this exciting new spatial computing platform ⬇️ #UnityPolySpatial on.unity.com/3pRUC83
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