If your partner told you - absent terminal cancer, etc - that they "hated the grind" and were no longer willing to work, would you remain in a relationship with them? Assume that this person would be fine managing the home, and has access to a military pension of $12K/yr.

Never again, no. I thought I had escaped it with my 3rd major adult relationship. He had a $35k/yr tech job when I met him. And an apartment. Then after 9 months, he quit entirely to move back in with his mom so he could go back to school. He eventually (7 years later) got a useless Business bachelor's. He didn't work for a total of 16 years.

@CourtneyLC80 I know the type. Don’t give them a penny.