Jack Peach | Dynastic Dating

I went from a single alcoholic ready to give up on dating... ...to married with two kids. Here’s how:

"Thank you for being so communicative, I'm literally bragging about you to my friends. But I didn't feel that spark." Chatting with a guy who got this text last week. Did everything 'right'. Still rejected. Women don't want a communicative man. They want a man who: • Leads • Turns her on • Follows through • Knows what he wants • Makes her feel safe She'd rather be alone than settle for a man who can't make her feel anything.

Marrying the wrong woman is a mistake. Using that as an excuse to never commit is pathetic.

Every night the same man sat at the end of the bar. 40. No wife. No kids. I was 22. He has no idea. But he changed my life. Stu would come in every day when he got off work. Order a Budweiser. And chat. He was likeable, friendly and social. But he had a pain behind his eyes. And when he'd had one too many, his frustrations would pour out. He'd get agitated and angsty, before going home alone. He changed my life because I saw myself in him. I was 22. Single. Telling myself a relationship would happen when it happened. And every night I'd watch him wondering if that was me in 20 years. But Stu had been coming to this same bar for years. Long, long, long before I worked there. I was unconsciously doing the same. I still lived in my hometown, with my parents. My weekends all blurred into one. Never changing anything, never doing anything new. And yet expecting something different. Then one morning at 5AM at an afterparty I was talking to a girl. Attractive, yes. But not one I'd ever dream of marrying. Frustrated, I went to the bathroom. Looked in the mirror. And asked myself: "What are you even doing here?" So I quit my job. Left my hometown. And booked a one-way flight to Asia. No plan. No safety net. Travelling on your own -- living out of a backpack, shared dorms -- sounds exciting. But there's a loneliness to it. Meeting new people. Having fun. Saying goodbye. Repeat the cycle. And one night in India I booked into the wrong hostel. Woke up covered in bedbugs. That morning, I almost packed it in and went home. But I thought back to Stu. And I knew giving up and going home was how you end up sitting on that stool. So I booked a flight to Kuala Lumpur. One morning in the hostel common area, I photobombed two girls taking a selfie. Got chatting. Talked them into joining me at Batu Caves. I remember the smile of one just lit the whole room. We spent 3 days together. And when it was time for another cycle, another goodbye, she walked me to the train station. I took her Facebook and she told me to come visit. I did. 9 years later we're married with 3 children. All because of Stu.

10 signs you're dating a woman who will ruin your life. Most men ignore #8 until it's too late. 1) She has a gay best friend

@unmeltablecheez Just to clarify, you absolutely should be looking to see if she'd make a good mother. Just not at the expense of having fun together.

@ThinkInPeach I disagree. I’m sure I would have agreed at some point. Prior to making sure she’s all that stuff you said you need to make sure the core values align or you’re setting yourself up for failure.

Dating isn't an interview for whether she'd make a good mother. You're looking for someone you enjoy. Who enjoys you. Who you can laugh, joke and sing with. Because the greatest gift you'll ever give your children is a mom and dad who love each other.

If this resonated -- this account is about helping men build relationships worth having. Follow me @thinkinpeach for more.

My wife asked me: "Are you going to shower before we go out?" "Hadn't planned to," I replied as I carried my son upstairs for his nap. "Up to you," she said. I showered. When a woman asks: "Are you going to X?" -- she means "please do X." When she says "up to you" she's waiting to see if you picked up the hint. Most men miss it. The ones who don't show they care.

Real talk: I've worked with men who destroyed perfectly good marriages due to following Red Pill advice. Having to rebuild in their mid-30s because this poison was dripped in their ears.

@John81135432523 😂

@ThinkInPeach No. Your Mom does though. The fuck outta here

@John81135432523 Do you even know what cuck means 😂

@ThinkInPeach Show you cuck, shower when told.

@rica24601 Yep, I’d been working all morning. And she didn’t want anyone to think badly of me if I smelled 😂

@ThinkInPeach When someone offers you a mint or gum, you always take it. It is the nice way to tell you your breath stinks and help you. Same goes for showering. Not all hints are domination.

@DB_Visuals_ So predictable haha

@ThinkInPeach Just waiting for red pill nerds to start commenting how yOU lOSt yOur fRame aNd sUbmitted bro…

@9mmsmg @DK_Chastaine Expats like me I suppose will just be collateral here. I'd imagine the majority of SEA Asian accounts people see are guys settled in Thailand, Phillipines etc. Probably wishful thinking to hope they'd let ID verification filter out the expats.

@DK_Chastaine Im allowing East Asia to stay for Japan and Korea. South Asia is gone and so is West Asia. I rarely see anything from South East Asia so I'll probably leave it alone.

There should be a way to pick individual countries. I want to filter the entirety of Africa, but I can't because I actually have a lot of good followers from SA and that's unfair, so I won't. This whole feature was designed so people could filter out India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Nigeria. This was the only politically correct way of doing it. I wish we could just add countries to the list of places we want to block instead of choosing entire regions we want to see stuff from.

"Where should I be meeting women?" I get asked this every week. There are only two answers. Not Hinge. Not bars. Not Church. It's either an introduction, or an approach. INTRODUCTIONS Introductions require social capital. But the real value is she already trusts you before she meets you. If nobody's introducing you, your circle is either too small or doesn't think of you that way. APPROACHES You see her. You walk over. And this doesn't just happen in the street. It's any time you don't know a woman, but you talk to her. She doesn't trust you yet. You have to earn that in real time. But the real value is you have control of the women you meet. If you can't approach, you're dependent on other people to find love. Dating apps are a mix of both. The app "introduces" you. But sending first messages acts as an approach. Any strategy that doesn't maximize both leaves money on the table. The method you're avoiding tells you where to find her.

@mongoosenewyork @asdf03291423 Didn't think it was that hard to figure out, glad someone got it.

@asdf03291423 @ThinkInPeach He was gaming. She wanted reality.

Jeremy thought he was good with women. He was. That was the problem. 6'2" Muay Thai fighter. Healthcare Attorney. Found faith two years prior and decided he wanted a wife, not another conquest. He'd got a date the week before with exactly that woman. Christian. Warm. Beautiful. So he ran his usual game on her. Kept it light. Built tension. Pulled back at the right moments. The date ended in a kiss. He drove home thinking it went perfectly. Three days later he texted her. Silence. He came to me genuinely confused. I asked him one question: "When you were sitting across from her -- who were you trying to be?" He couldn't answer. She already had.