So yall know what the message is...

@rizzolosophy Because this nigha is funny and unserious he creates a “good vibe” until you need him to legitimately participate in your life as a loving human, and he cannot cause all he is, is funny. He probs got decent dick but bad spirit. 1/10 for relationship 8/10 for dick.

@Reader623898115 @rizzolosophy Usually, a person like this is deeply hurt with a stifled ability to trust. Having a charming personality is not a crime, it is a coping strategy. He did what he should do, if you’re right, acknowledged his lust, and disengaged from the lady understanding he’s not ready.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy Having a charming personality is not a crime, you’re right. But it’s sad because often, these people eventually come across someone they can’t help but get involved with, and because they’ve done zero personal work they end up hurting people. And that’s wrong and selfish.

@Reader623898115 @rizzolosophy You’re correct, this type of person should heal before bleeding on others. & also your framing is so negative. These people gain sympathy because they genuinely are decent, but are bad partners, that doesn’t make them evil/malicious. They need grace & affection like anyone else.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy My framing isn’t negative, it’s just an honesty based on certain experiences. I like your love everyone vibes, but at the end of the day, the pain these people cause from the level of dehumanization they carry on with in personal relationships is unacceptable.

@Reader623898115 @rizzolosophy I understand moving through the world based on your experiences, but this is also how prejudices are formed, white men think similarly, and I don’t want to insult but hopefully draw you away from that mental trap. Those men are likely moving that way based off experience as well.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy Moving a certain way based on experiences can actually protect you and help you, if you're taking valuable knowledge from it. Not a mental trap at all, actually quite freeing.

@Reader623898115 @rizzolosophy I don’t disagree, but it is dangerously close to prejudice.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy Nothing I said was prejudice nor is it “dangerously close”.

@Reader623898115 @rizzolosophy judging the man in the original post based off an experience you had with a completely different person is the definition of prejudice.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy Well don’t take the judgment too seriously as I don’t know the man, and that’s exactly why I’ve mentioned the word archetype a thousand times in this conversation. But even the story he tells alone, is that of rude behavior.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy That’s actually rude asf. Especially since he apparently started calling her bitch, and talking down to her. Even in a silly way, that’s asshole behavior. And me drawing a parallel between that behavior and crude men in dating social situations isn’t prejudice at all.

@dev_ilmoon @rizzolosophy It’s rude to lead someone on in a convo, when they express genuine interest in you, because you’re getting a good kick out of it or getting “mental sex” or whatever from it.