Kina๐โโฌ๐ช@KinaMagica
This might be controversial but as someone whoโs been on both sides of the gender spectrum, Menโs mental health is awful.
I genuinely feel bad for men, most of them end up emotionally deprived because nobody cares enough to express love to them.
Youโre ridiculed as a joke if youโre not masculine enough.
Women are cold to you unless they find you attractive, and receiving compliments donโt exist.
Back when I was a boy or was boymoding
(Trans woman pretending to be a cยกs man)
Iโve actually had countless women say mean things to me when I talk too much or too loud in a shared space with others, genuinely made me fearful of women for the longest time.
My previous experience I would say is a lot of women hate men when they take up space,
Because they see men taking up space as misogynistic, and I can understand why when someone might be loudest in the room.
But I remember when I would be speaking and having fun talking with my close friends other women would tell me to shut up and things related to that, I liked yapping and I guess a lot of women in my irl life hated me for that.
Not only that but a lot of women would be randomly mean to me if I were to openly express myself and be kinda quirky.
One girl in my irl life recently apologized to me after 3 years, saying sorry for being randomly mean to me years ago and now being randomly nice to me even tho I donโt interact or talk with her.
I remember she was mean to me when I was younger so I avoided interacting with her to not be bullied, because she said some really mean things, and now that Iโve came out living and looking like the opposite gender, women and everyone are now all of a sudden nice to me, things Iโve never had like compliments, support, and care.
And I found it strange how not only did someone who used to be mean to me suddenly be nice to me and also apologize, it feels like it genuinely is a whole gender thing.
Because Iโve seen them so many times in the past and walk past them and they donโt even bother looking at me, but now that I came out living as a girl itโs the complete opposite.
When I used to socialize it felt like I wasnโt allowed to take up much space or have much of a voice, Or else others will be angry at me,
That affected my mental health and self worth a lot, and it carries over even as the other gender.
Because before I was mostly told by others to not speak up, try to not take up space, youโre not important, to suddenly being uplifted and cheered for, and being told I have value, and that I should speak up for myself and people alike, the change is so sudden and unexpected.
I feel like men are not treated kindly in society, a lot of men are usually seen as bad, it also affects all of them.
I understand men are seen as perpetrators, but this genuinely also affects teenage boys and young men into pushing them to think that they are also perpetrators and predators when they are just innocent boys.
Maybe the pov is different for me because I am a trans woman and wanted to be a girl since 6, and being treated like youโre dangerous and unworthy of love is very terrible for mental health.
I think a lot of innocent men get fucked over by men with ill intent and make people fearful of men, itโs a problem on both sides but I genuinely feel bad for the men who didnโt do anything and are pushed to repress themselves.
