Steve

I've met a few healthy people. Mostly folks who are doing inner work - to offload the pressure of unresolved trauma. The rest are splattering their volcanic mess on the world.

Some people have had burnout since they were children. They don't want to work and want to crawl under the blanket because they've never actually been taken are of or had someone help. It's not that people are lazy, it's that they're at a breaking point.

Grow up watching your parents fight, and by age 12 your brain looks like a soldier's coming home from war. The same alarm circuits keep firing whenever someone gets angry near you. None of these kids were diagnosed with anything. Their brains had already changed. Scientists at University College London scanned 43 kids in 2011. Twenty had documented family violence at home. When the researchers showed them photos of angry faces, the danger-detection parts of their brains fired exactly like they do in combat soldiers. The kids' brains had quietly learned, before they could put it into words, that anger means danger and danger can come from anywhere in the room. That study was about violence. But Martin Teicher's lab at Harvard's McLean Hospital has spent decades showing yelling alone does similar damage. Verbal abuse from parents physically changes the parts of the brain that handle language and sound. The long-term hit on adult mental health is about the same as being hit, or watching one of your parents get hit. And this is common. In 2024, UNICEF estimated 400 million kids under 5, about 6 in 10 globally, regularly face violent discipline at home: yelling, hitting, or both. In a Portuguese study of more than 5,000 ten-year-olds, 57.7% reported a household member regularly shouting or yelling at them. It was the single most common bad thing in their lives. Teicher's team also found that the brain's memory and stress center physically shrinks by about 6% in young adults who were maltreated as kids. Vietnam combat veterans with chronic PTSD show roughly the same drop, about 8%, in the same area. The damage doesn't stay in the lab. The CDC's most recent youth survey linked 89% of teen suicide attempts and 85% of teen suicidal thoughts to bad experiences before age 18. But the same brain that absorbs fear can absorb safety. Romanian orphans moved into stable foster homes recovered real ground. Across decades, Teicher's research has shown that warm, predictable parenting physically builds up the part of the brain that helps a kid stay calm, and quiets the alarm system over time. A child remembers the fights. They also remember who came back to fix things afterward. Both leave a mark.

and suddenly, i didn't care about being noticed, understood, spoken to, texted back, liked, disliked, invited, or talked about. it's quiet now, and i finally found MYSELF.

@edgaralandough Thanks for sharing!

Normalize a boring life. Go to bed early, read long books, drink tea, regulate your nervous system, spend time alone, take walks without headphones, eat simple food, shrink your circle, and turn down the noise. Peace will look boring to people addicted to chaos, but that’s the point. Life doesn’t have to be loud to be meaningful, and it doesn’t have to be public to be powerful. Sometimes the magic is in being unreachable, rested, focused, and quietly becoming someone nobody can disturb.

@muheediva01 🙏

Stay away from people who have to pretend you’re a bad person to avoid feeling guilty about what they did to you.

@MasterNumber @369cipher 🙏

She’s a 10 until she opens her mouth and starts spitting low-vibe nonsense. Pretty on the outside, expired on the inside. You can’t Photoshop a rotten mindset.

Ever since I learned about the way the subconscious mind works, I take people mistreating me so much more seriously. People mistreating you are programming "worthlessness" into your subconscious, and that literally alters the course of your life.

Narcissistic people are the worst type of character in society. Full stop. No debate. No "but maybe they had a tough childhood" excuse. No. They don't just hurt you once, they get inside your head, rearrange the furniture, and charge you rent for the discomfort. They drain you slowly, quietly, strategically, then have the audacity to call you "too sensitive" when you finally break. They don't make mistakes, they make victims. And the worst part? They never even lose sleep over it. Watch how they operate. Charming in public, catastrophic in private. They'll be the loudest supporter in the room until you outshine them, then suddenly you're the enemy. They'll love you with conditions you didn't know existed until you violate one. They'll rewrite history mid-argument, gaslight you into questioning your own memory, and somehow walk away looking like the reasonable one. It's not accidental. It's a skill. A dark, deliberate, exhausting skill. And society? Society keeps feeding them. Keeps promoting them. Keeps mistaking their ruthlessness for leadership, their manipulation for charisma, their emotional unavailability for mystery. We built entire industries around their aesthetics. We watch their highlight reels and call it inspiration. We excuse their behavior because they're "successful," as if success launders cruelty into something acceptable. It doesn't. It never did. Here's what nobody tells you early enough, narcissists don't change because they don't think they need to. You can love them harder, communicate clearer, give more, sacrifice more, bend yourself into shapes that hurt, and it will never be enough. Because the problem was never your effort. The problem is that they see people as resources, not relationships. You were never a person to them. You were a function. So stop waiting for the apology. Stop replaying conversations hoping to find the moment it went wrong. It went wrong the second they decided your feelings were inconvenient. Walk away. Rebuild. Guard your peace like it's sacred, because around a narcissist, your peace is always the first casualty, and if you're not careful, it won't be the last.

Once you cut people out of your life, you need to become very comfortable with them talking bad and making things up about you; because they will fill your silence and your absence with stories that make them feel better about losing access to you. People rarely take accountability when it's easier to paint you as the villain.

@SteveMoroz57 @OunkaOnX 100%

@OunkaOnX Still Netanyahu facing justice would be good and send a signal that the world will hold them accountable

Former U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo admits: "It's not Netanyahu. Any Israeli PM would do the same." Translation: Genocide isn't a personality flaw. It's a national consensus.

@incomplete1511 @RespectfulMemes @aj_arciniegas Sounds like there has been misunderstanding between us. I wasn't meaning to call you out. Only intended to make a casual joke relating to cats being independent natured. But can see now how you could have perceived it that way. Definitely wasn't attempting to make you feel stupid

So what was your goal by calling me out in an attempt to make feel stupid if you know nothing about cats? ..likes? Is this an ego thing? Doesn’t that go against everything your background picture in your profile is about.?awful way to approach someone like me,awful. im vegetarian who saves animals and receives no money doing it,so i give a shit about animals and I’m not actually stupid.i just look stupid to people who want to put me in a fucking box so they can claim to know “people” like me..now that we are past all of that,dogs.the answer is that because I can bring them with me places .cats not so much…not really a practical thing .but if you’re someone who’s home mostly.i can see someone saying cat…cats aren’t useless animals,they single handedly save the world from dying of the black plague..they get a pass to be whatever the fuck they wanna be in my eyes ..again I’m not what you think when you see my picture,I’m brain actually does work buddy

@incomplete1511 @RespectfulMemes @aj_arciniegas Admittedly I don't actually know that much about cats. Maybe they would text back. You prefer cats or dogs (have become v bonded to a sweet and gentle cockerpoo recently - didn't know much about dogs till a year with him)

@SearchingTLight @RespectfulMemes @aj_arciniegas I fully understand you. you need to fully understand me. My cats love me enough to respond back.obsessed people who care want attention ,and you give it to them if you actually love them .

@RebelSpiritTM 🙏

The model in mental health is changing. The era of "faulty brain chemistry" is over, the hypotheses debunked, the drugs needlessly dangerous. We're moving to a more compassionate understanding that bad things happen to people and they suffer emotionally and physically as a result

yes its called ptsd and cptsd, we know this.

Admittedly plagiarised from these two x.com/i/status/20524…

Cats vrs Dogs

@incomplete1511 @RespectfulMemes @aj_arciniegas Ha, some truth there. I was just suggesting if you had a need and text them, they probably wouldn't be concerned (and might not bother texting back, as the orig post suggested) 😂

@SearchingTLight @RespectfulMemes @aj_arciniegas WORNG! how many times does ANYONE actually have to change the fucking WATERRRR..? 2 times a week tops .same with my dogs.or as needed. MY POINT was they act like obsessive girlfriends who want my attention because I know they don’t need no fuckin water BRAHH