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I think you did the right thing. While I understand the challenge of managing two kids, I also don't think going to the gym is the top priority along with the two children. There is a decent chance for kids to get hurt in a gym from the weights and the big equipment, like a treadmill. it's not a big deal, but informing the front desk is also not a big reaction. So I think it's a reasonable response.
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Ethical question.
I was in the hotel gym just now in a dad came in to do weights with two of his children.
While he wasn’t paying attention to his son, who was about seven years old, climbed on the treadmill and kept hitting buttons until it was going at 8 miles an hour. Worried he was going to get killed. I warned him to turn it down. He then got back on it and did it again.
I ended my workout early and talk to the dad saying I thought that was dangerous and I didn’t want someone a child to get hurt. He said it was fine and he did 8 miles an hour yesterday.
At that point, I left and informed the front desk. I said it was their call, but it was my judgment a child could get seriously hurt.
Was this the right thing to do?
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【现实比剧情更冷】
天津一位48岁独居女性,人生配置其实不差:有工作、有存款、有重疾险——看起来一切都“准备好了”。
但一场突如其来的脑出血,把所有“准备”瞬间击穿。
她倒在家中,被邻居送医,医生一句话:必须立刻手术。
可问题来了——没人能签字。
未婚、无子女、父母去世,这一刻,“法律意义上的亲人”缺席,手术卡在一张纸上。
好不容易联系到远房亲戚,跨城赶来签字,手术做了,人却进了ICU。
半个月,23万医疗费。
接下来更荒诞的一幕开始了:
她明明有存款,但银行说——没本人授权,不能动。
她明明买了保险,但保险公司说——材料不全,关系证明不清,不能赔。
钱在自己名下,却救不了自己的命。
亲戚想帮,没资格;
制度在那,一步不能越。
这不是个例,这是很多“独居体面人”的真实盲区:
你以为靠钱能解决的问题,最后卡在“人”上。
真正的风险从来不是没钱,
而是关键时刻——
没人能替你签字,没人能替你做决定,没人能帮你动用你自己的钱。
这件事只说明一件很冷的现实:
在现代社会,一个人活着可以很独立,
但在生死关头,制度默认——你必须“有人”。
否则,再多准备,都可能归零。
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@YesterdayOrange 我还真碰到这个问题,我就跟他说你不去上学我倒是没意见,但是我们都得上班,没人在家陪你玩哦。5岁的娃瞬间被说服了去上学。
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Damn,Anthropic这次泄露等于直接把独立开发者的饭碗砸了,一句话生成带数据库带用户登录的完整可运行App,不用开IDE不用管部署🤣🤣🤣

can@marmaduke091
Another leak from Anthropic They created a lovable-like feature where you can build full-stack apps easily They are coming after everthing
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