AuDHD & 2e Me

@be_like_ice Yes. It can be. However, that's not an excuse for treating you that way.

Help. I’m in a relationship with someone who has ADHD and I’m honestly so confused. He disappears when things get overwhelming, like just stops replying for days. Then comes back saying he “shut down.” Is this actually an ADHD thing or am I being ignored?

@KarenHoward42 @Softnessa_ That's backed up by research now. Less intelligent people overwhelmingly tend to over estimate their own intelligence. They aren't intelligent enough to understand how intelligent they aren't.

@Softnessa_ The "intelligence" of these people is astounding. As John Cleese said: “I think the problem with people like this is that they are so stupid that they have no idea how stupid they are.”

I just had a mansplaining so epic it will never be topped. I just had a man ask me why I chose to be a widow. I said "I'm sorry, but that's not something you choose." He said "You just need to open your heart and let someone love you instead of choosing to stay a widow". I said "What do you think widow means exactly?" This man said "A widow is when a woman gives up on dating and stays alone for the rest of her life." I said "That is not what that means". HE SAID... "I have met a lot of widows in my life so I think I know what it means more than you". I am done. I quit. I surrender. I cannot with these men anymore.

@Chris8711 @1980Herbie @jahnanair @Softnessa_ Have you ever lost someone that close to you? It's coming across like you haven't (which would be a good thing. I wouldn't wish it on you.) Grief is a complex thing. You don't seem to understand or empathise with that.

@1980Herbie @jahnanair @Softnessa_ She’s no longer making it her identity. She’s no longer dwelling on it. She is doing a good and healthy thing that she has a moral responsibility to herself and everyone around her to pursue. People who dwell on their own tragedy for the rest of their lives are bad people.

@Chris8711 @jahnanair @Softnessa_ No. A widow is someone whose husband has died. That's it. Some will move on and love again. Others won't. It's less of a refusal, and more a case of everyone grieving differently. Some people move on quickly, some slowly, some never.

@jahnanair @Softnessa_ Nope. A “widow” is someone whose husband has died and refuses to ever date or pursue love again. It’s an identity. There are entire communities of women like this. It is 100% a choice to remain closed off and dwell on the past.

In case anyone isn’t aware, Trump is demanding Zambia to hand over its mineral rights by end of day tomorrow or the U.S. gov’t will cut off the country’s access to the AIDS medications that are literally keeping its citizens alive. Just thought y’all should know.

@krice13 @npwnnty @MadelaineLucyH No implications, no subtext, just exactly what I said. We don't think they're psychopaths, we think they are bigots. We don't think they have no morals, they clearly do, but their moral code is twisted, hypocritical, and cruel.

@2eAdult @npwnnty @MadelaineLucyH I guess your definition is like implying that maybe they don't know they're being manipulated or something?

I’ve never met a right wing man who wasn’t desperately, perversely submissive. Desperate to obey, desperate to conform, desperate to please a man they considered superior to them, desperate to have their thoughts and views told to them by another guy.

It seriously is all about branding. The problem is you have to dumb it down for the people who don't understand the definitions of the words you use.

@krice13 @npwnnty @MadelaineLucyH Yes.

@2eAdult @npwnnty @MadelaineLucyH Can you explain the difference between that and what I said?

@krice13 @npwnnty @MadelaineLucyH No. We think they are basically a bunch of bigots with twisted and/or hypocritical morals.

@npwnnty @MadelaineLucyH Do you think the right are basically a bunch of psychopaths with zero morals?

@TheShwaaron @MadelaineLucyH Right wing man spotted 🚩

@MadelaineLucyH What exactly is a right wing man in your book? I suggest you try finding a traditional conservative man. Then again you live in the UK, so that may be a near impossibility. Come to the US, you’ll find plenty with independent minds abd spirits.

Brilliant!

for autism month: there’s a real loneliness in being the person who notices the pattern, names it softly, gets doubted, stays quiet, watches it play out, and then has to act normal when everyone else finally catches up.

@i_Raj_Singh @jessmadigan @chiitandk @prinkasusa The projection is strong in you

@jessmadigan @chiitandk @prinkasusa Typical retarded comeback.

Sometimes male anger at ‘women getting special treatment’ reminds me of a gorilla experiment. One gorilla gets a banana every hour. The females next to him get one every four hours. Then someone decides to be fairer and gives the females a banana every two hours instead. The original gorilla? He flips out. He's still getting his banana every hour, but it feels like a loss because his advantage shrank. That's how a lot of men react to basic fairness for women: not as justice, but as theft.

@jessmadigan @Lunacy_cs @chiitandk @prinkasusa He's a pigeon.

@Lunacy_cs @chiitandk @prinkasusa I know, and yet you still don’t get it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

If women left the workforce they would be economically dependent on men again, which means they would have to go back to being treated however men decided to treat them with no way to escape it. Men who hate that women have options don’t plan on treating women well.

Men aren’t lonely enough