Dean Cook

@ChicSheri @viealx @_nomadic_soul But the fear of men is a barrier for going into the trades, but not nice air conditioned jobs... hmmm

@DeanCook008 @viealx @_nomadic_soul Interacting with men doesn’t mean I don’t recognize they’re dangerous. It’s bc I interact with that I recognize that. Women wouldn’t have to fight at if men weren’t in the way.

A minority of women deciding they would rather be alone and childfree than partner with the current pool of men available seems rational, tbh.

You’re still arguing with a version of my point that only exists in your head. At no point did I say men are “owed sex” or that a wife should be treated like a prostitute. The original discussion was about withholding intimacy for years in a marriage. That’s what I responded to. A long-term, sexless marriage isn’t “healthy boundaries,” it’s a breakdown of the relationship. Intimacy is a normal, expected part of marriage. That’s not controversial, it’s literally built into the idea of exclusivity. If sex didn’t matter, adultery wouldn’t be a thing, would it? You’ve reframed that into “men think they deserve sex on demand,” which is just a strawman so you don’t have to engage with the real point. And on provision and protection… even in modern relationships, men are still expected to carry responsibility. Whether that’s financial pressure, problem-solving, or being the one to step up when things go wrong, that expectation hasn’t disappeared. Saying “both work” doesn’t magically erase that dynamic. No one is saying a woman should have sex when she doesn’t want to. What I am saying is if intimacy disappears for years with no resolution, that’s not a normal marriage anymore. And pretending it is, while attacking anyone who points it out, is just avoiding the issue. You’ve taken a conversation about relationship breakdown and turned it into a moral lecture about entitlement.

Funny thing is, in general, I love men. I think men are wonderful and do wonderful things for society. Men who think they deserve sex from their partner because they do the bare minimum expected of EVERY PERSON WHO HAS A JOB, are the kind of men I cannot stand. Those men are disgusting. And no amount of bellyaching over male representation in jobs men are naturally more acclimated to changes that 70% of all earners in the US do not make enough to put one spouse at home 24/7. If your wife works, you BOTH provide, you are not entitled to sex even if you're the sole provider. Her body is not your playground. If she's 'with holding sex' from you, you probably do not make her feel safe and wanted. You probably make her feel like a maid who's obligated to bang you, or otherwise lose access to basic necessities in her life... like water and electricity. For the love of god.

You interact with hundreds of men weekly. I am sure you work with men. This is a pure cope and an excuse for selective equality. Women aren't fighting to join these industries, but for cushy air conditioned jobs, jobs in STEM, CEO jobs... feminists demand equal representation.... alongside men. You can't have it both ways. Either men are too dangerous to work alongside, or they are not. You can't fight one fight and then when the contradiction is pointed out, blame men!

@DeanCook008 @viealx @_nomadic_soul No. Because the a dangerous.

I get why that word triggered you, but I didn’t call stay-at-home mums the problem. I called the framing the problem. What the original person posted isn’t just “motherhood is hard work”... most people would agree with that. It’s the “five jobs for free” + “he’s lucky” + implied one-sided benefit narrative that I’m pushing back on. That framing didn’t come out of nowhere, it’s been pushed for years through modern feminist talking points that recast traditional roles as inherently exploitative. That’s why I said feminist spin. Because it takes a mutual, chosen setup, one person earning, one person running the home and reframes it as: 1. the woman doing unpaid labour 2. the man passively benefiting …when in reality, both sides are carrying weight, just in different ways. Working full-time, often longer hours, taking on financial risk, pressure, and responsibility for keeping the household afloat isn’t exactly “free benefit.” And the idea that running your own home equates to five separate full-time professions is just exaggeration. Important work? Yes. Five jobs? No. You can respect stay-at-home mums without buying into a narrative that paints the whole arrangement as exploitation. That’s the distinction.

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin Screaming feminist at stay at home moms is fucking rich. You lost damn plot you moron.

"You're lucky your husband lets you stay home." ​No. ​He's lucky I do the work of five people for free. He's lucky I remember every appointment, every meal, every meltdown. He's lucky I run this home like a CEO with no clock-out time. ​Motherhood is labor without a paycheck, and it's time the world stopped calling it luck and started calling it what it is: work.

“Men aren’t providing and protecting” is what you say when you’ve bought into the narrative instead of looking at reality. The only reason you can even type that is because the system men built and still maintain is working so well you don’t have to think about it. Men still make up the majority of primary earners and are more often the higher earner in dual-income homes. Then look beyond your front door… construction is about 95% male, electricians around 97%, logistics and transport over 90%, refuse collection almost entirely male. That’s your house, your power, your food supply, your entire day-to-day life. Protection? The armed forces are roughly 90% male. Police are still heavily male, especially on the frontline. Firefighters are over 90% male. And over 90% of workplace deaths are men because they’re the ones taking the risks that keep everything running. This constant feminist fear-mongering that men are useless or absent hasn’t made it true, it’s just made people blind to what’s right in front of them. Open your eyes. Men didn’t stop providing and protecting. You just got comfortable enough to pretend they have.

@DeanCook008 @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine The men aren't providing and protecting lmao

The ultimate double standard in modern marriage is the unilateral cancellation of vows. A man is socially and legally expected to fulfill 100% of his traditional duties, to provide, protect, finance, and remain strictly faithful. But a woman can completely abandon the physical and intimate aspects of the marriage for years with zero societal pushback. If he complains, he is shamed as needy or predatory. If he files for divorce to escape a lifetime of forced celibacy, the courts will take his house, his kids, and his income. He is essentially trapped in a legally binding roommate contract where his utility is violently demanded, but his humanity is completely ignored.

@ChicSheri @viealx @_nomadic_soul Because they are better? That would be the only barrier in a meritocracy

@DeanCook008 @viealx @_nomadic_soul There are barriers…men.

There’s no barrier stopping women going into trades. Apprenticeships are open, companies recruit, colleges run the courses. Yet the numbers stay low. At some point it’s not “patriarchy”, it’s choice and the nature of the work. These jobs aren’t cushy: long hours all weather heavy lifting high injury risk That’s why over 90% of workplace deaths are men. And yes, biology matters. On average, men are stronger, which is relevant in physically demanding jobs. That’s just reality.

@DeanCook008 @viealx @_nomadic_soul Men being in trades doesn't mean that women cannot also be in trades. They aren't currently represented in high numbers because of the patriarchal society. If all men died tomorrow, women would be capable of building roads, keeping lights on, etc.

You’re saying women can survive and thrive without men, but men can’t without women… based on what exactly? I’ve already pointed out that the systems keeping modern life running... power, water, transport, construction... are overwhelmingly built and maintained by men. Take that away and things don’t “thrive”, they stop working. So let’s ask the obvious question: what is it women provide that men fundamentally can’t replicate? Cooking? Cleaning? Organisation? Millions of single men do all of that already. And before you jump to children — that’s not relevant here. In a one-sex scenario, there are no children either way, so that cancels out. Saying women can just exist and flourish without men is fantasy. 😂😂😂

@DeanCook008 @viealx @_nomadic_soul What you're mad about is the fact that women can literally survive without men but also tend to thrive without their presence...while the opposite is not true. And I understand...it makes you feel useless. That's unfortunate.

@Genz_fight I love the way gypsies fight 😅 "I'm gunna shake your hand now" They will beat the shit out of each other then go for a pint like nothing happened.

100% agree. He doesn't realise he's actually on the wrong side, though. Most of the pushback against modern feminism isn’t about hating women or trying to control them. It’s about outcomes, especially for kids. Strip all the noise away, and the data is pretty clear: where it’s possible, a stable home with a present parent in those early years gives children the best start. That’s not “oppression”, that’s reality. The problem is the conversation keeps getting dragged into this men vs women nonsense. Everything becomes about validating the mother, empowering the woman, framing her as either oppressed or “winning”. Meanwhile the actual priority, the child, gets pushed to the side. And a lot of the loudest voices pushing this aren’t even living it. They’re sat online telling other people how they should feel about their own relationships and families, like they’ve cracked the code. In a healthy relationship, it’s not a competition. It’s not “who does more” or “who’s the victim”. It’s two people playing different roles, working together so the whole thing functions properly. That’s what a family is meant to be. Call it old-fashioned if you want, but turning it into a gender war helps nobody. Least of all the kids.

@DeanCook008 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @NoFilterSkin The narrative says women want to be strong and independent,so he views himself as virtuous if he supports women as a “male feminist” when he’s confronted by the view feminism is evil,his mind can’t compute it “ but,but I’m the good guy” and he resorts to abuse to protect his ego.

That “experiment” you’re quoting isn’t some groundbreaking science, it’s literally a Channel 4 TV show... Boys Alone and Girls Alone. Small group of kids, cameras everywhere, edited for entertainment. That’s not evidence, that’s reality TV dressed up as psychology. Real-world data also doesn’t back your claim at all. The infrastructure you rely on daily is overwhelmingly built and maintained by men: Construction workforce ≈ 97% male Electrical trades ≈ 96% male ~90%+ of workplace deaths are men (ONS labour stats) That’s who’s keeping the lights on, roads built, and supply chains moving. So no, it’s not that “women don’t need men for survival.” It’s that modern life makes it easy to ignore the systems other people are maintaining. Society isn’t one gender replacing the other, it’s both contributing in different ways. The TikTok version of that TV show isn’t proof otherwise.

@viealx @DeanCook008 @_nomadic_soul Women will never need men for survival that’s what is upsetting you. Several years ago they did an experiment with young boys & young girls to see what would happen if each gender was left without parental supervision. The boys caused destruction and the girls created society.

@Boonatty1 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @NoFilterSkin He asks to talk to women and get their perspective. They give their perspective, and he calls you all liars because you are not agreeing with him 😅

@_SirSwearsAlot_ @DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin I’ve had 4,all beautiful human beings all home educated for part of their childhoods,being a mum is amazing,all of it,I did attatchment parenting before it was a thing so didn’t ever have any problems,you thinking parenting isn’t that says a lot about you

@UTDssam @markgoldbridge I know...

@DeanCook008 @markgoldbridge They were when Sir Alex won with Aberdeen

So the 3 he won in Scotland don't count even though they're probably more impressive than any of the below....

Neither of these women look good coming out of this exchange to be fair. Would be interesting to know the back story of their relationship. I do think that the daughter gives away what is going on though. The little wave behind the Mums back at the door and dragging her away. Makes me think Mum is in the wrong.

This woman is dropping off her stepdaughter to her real mom, every time she does that the real mom always has something smart to say about her and tries to belittle her. The stepdaughter actually enjoys having out more with her real dad and stepmother than she does with her real mom and we all can see why. Nobody else has this issue, so why is the real mom the one always creating problems for everyone, is she not over him maybe? Have you ever had this happen to you too, how do you handle this in a civil manner she the other party isn’t civil?

I get what you’re saying, to be fair. That shift you’re talking about is real. Going from work, structure, adult conversations, a bit of recognition… to being at home all day doing the same loop with no real “off switch” ...yeah, that can mess with your head. It’s not the child, it’s the isolation and losing a bit of who you were for a while. That’s a big adjustment. Where I push back isn’t your experience, it’s how it’s framed a lot of the time. I do think women have been fed this idea that motherhood is somehow lesser or “thankless”, because everything now pushes careers, independence, not needing a man! So when reality hits and it’s harder and quieter than expected, it feels like something’s been taken from you, rather than something you’re gaining. But there’s another side to it as well. I’ve been the one carrying the financial load. Going from two incomes to one, knowing everything rests on you, knowing there’s no room to mess it up. That pressure doesn’t switch off either. Yeah you’re around adults, but it’s not exactly a break, it’s just a different kind of stress. That’s why I don’t buy into the “five jobs” thing. Not because it’s easy at home, it’s not. But because it turns it into this one-sided story where one person’s suffering and the other’s cruising, and that’s just not reality for most families. At the end of the day, it’s about the kid. If you can have one parent at home in those early years, that’s a massive positive for them. Doesn’t mean it’s enjoyable every day, doesn’t mean it doesn’t cost you something personally, but it does matter. So yeah, I’m not dismissing what you’re saying at all. The isolation, the repetition, missing your old life a bit... I just think it’s less “thankless job vs lucky husband” and more: both people are sacrificing in different ways, and no one really prepares you properly for what that actually feels like.

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin Being improperly prepared by the world for this reality then being berated by assholes on the internet who are not ending their careers and hobbies while the partner goes on in the same work passion and colleague interaction. It's a huge change you have to understand that too.

I’m not even disagreeing with you. But that’s not the point I was addressing. The point was this idea that a woman can completely drop the physical and intimate side of a marriage for years with zero pushback. That’s not the same thing as normal dry spells because of kids and exhaustion.

@DeanCook008 @JailbirdJunkrat @TheLowkeyMummy @alfkkifine Also, having sex 2-3 times a month when there is small children in the home, is NOT forced celibacy. During those times, take quality over quantity or she'll start feeling resentful when he's not noticing the level of stress and exhaustion she's already experiencing.

@GreenLines223 @_SirSwearsAlot_ @justarando70354 The entailment of SirSwearsAlot's argument, is that he is in fact the only decent father out there. His anecdotes are the only ones that count, his situation is the standard, and everyone else just gets written off as a bad parent.

@_SirSwearsAlot_ @DeanCook008 @justarando70354 Oh I know I'm doing a great job I get told every single time I drop my kids off at school and attend pta meetings. My wife is also an awesome mother because we both are running our businesses and also raising our kids TOGETHER

@KittensSuddenly @NoFilterSkin Calling motherhood and homemaking a “thankless, oppressive job” is wild to me. That mindset’s been drilled in. Do you honestly think someone doing 40 hours a week on a checkout gets more fulfilment than you raising your child and running your home?

@DeanCook008 @NoFilterSkin I use to work then had a baby, I love my child and husband. That being said, I much preferred working over the thankless job of being a mother and homemaker. When kiddo goes to school, I’m going right back to work. I don’t discount the importance of what Im doing now though.

@ainsofar @ma1ybe It isn't clear at all. We have no idea what had happened or why he was running after her. No idea at all. There is no evidence at all she was in danger or he meant her harm. You are making assumptions.

@DeanCook008 @ma1ybe Its quite clear she was in danger. Its possible she did something, yes, but in that moment that man meant her harm. Too bad for the women in your life you dont get that. I know what youre doing and its from hating women. Im going to mute you. Enjoy your frustrations.

And this is why we need more women in positions of power, more representation in all spheres. Because women are the only true protectors of women. Men can claim to be protectors but all they do is protect their image & protect their brothers who harm women.