Benjamin Ayangbola

Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith. First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul. If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her. Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them. A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward. He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now. Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar. Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity. Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do. Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight. Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break. Allah knows best.

I ACCIDENTALLY OPENED MY CTO'S PERSONAL NOTION WORKSPACE AND NOW I UNDERSTAND WHY HE SHIPS 5X FASTER THAN THE REST OF US. He is 48. I am 26. He manages 3 products and never works past 5 PM. I work 10 hours a day and barely clear my Jira board. In his workspace, one specific document explained everything: Most people panic when the workload scales. They work longer hours, burn out, and eventually drop the ball. High performers do not manage time. They manage boundaries. The document was a list of strict operating rules. Here are 18 systems you can steal.

What if we're actually in the middle of the third golden age of software engineering? This is what @Grady_Booch sees happening. If you are anxious about the state of the industry, you want to watch/listen to Grady's longer-term perspective and stories. Watch the full episode here: 00:00 Intro 01:58 The first golden age of software engineering 18:59 The software crisis 33:01 The second golden age of software engineering 42:21 Y2K and the Dotcom crash 45:47 Early AI 47:34 The third golden age of software engineering 51:48 Why software engineers will very much be needed 58:46 Grady responds to Dario Amodei 1:06:54 New skills engineers will need to succeed 1:10:04 Resources for studying complex systems 1:14:33 How to thrive during periods of change Brought to you by: • @statsig  — ⁠ The unified platform for flags, analytics, experiments, and more. statsig.com/pragmatic • @SonarSource  – The makers of SonarQube, the industry standard for automated code review. Join me online at the Sonar Summit on March 3rd, where I talk about practical tactics for the AI era. sonarsource.com/pragmatic/sona… • @WorkOS – Everything you need to make your app enterprise-ready. workos.com

@OSimileOluwa @nigimmigration @BTOofficial -versed into your bank account? If yes, I advise that you fetch the unique reference of your payment and raise a dispute with the payment processor.

@OSimileOluwa @nigimmigration @BTOofficial Disclaimer: I’m not a staff of NIS neither am I affiliated with NIS in anyway. Application status is either “unpaid”, “paid” or “vetted”. If it’s still “unpaid” after you made payment, then the payment was not successful. Are you saying after 1 month, the money has not been re-

@nigimmigration I must commend the revamped passport application process. Being able to choose the home delivery option while applying on the portal is laudable. I applied in Lagos & did capture on July 18, 2025, but the tracking portal still shows “production is in progress”.

@The6iXpath @nigimmigration @BTOofficial Mine took almost 2 months. You may want to tag the Nigeria Immigration Service Twitter handle.

@code_outlaw @nigimmigration @BTOofficial Please how long does it take…because I did apply for my family and it’s been a month now,yet no update. Thanks

@nigimmigration @BTOofficial @osokenuBiku FYI

Dear @nigimmigration, this is to confirm that my passport was delivered to my address earlier today. Delivery was professional and impressive. Please keep up the good work. Thank you Honourable Minister @BTOofficial for these reforms.

It’s almost 2 months since I did capture. Please how long does it take to have a passport issued in the new dispensation? Thanks in anticipation of your response.

"First do it, then do it right, then do it better." Just start. The journey to success often begins with a single step, but that first step can be the hardest to take. It's easy to get caught up in the fear of failure or the desire for perfection, but I hope this quote I first shared in 2013 can be a reminder of the importance of simply getting started as we go into 2024. Just Start Somewhere "Start slow if you have to. Start small if you have to. Start privately if you have to. Just start." - James Clear Taking that first step doesn't require perfection or immediate mastery. The key is to overcome inertia and take action, as this action will lead to progress, learning, and (if you’re lucky and consistent) ultimately success. When you start, you allow yourself the opportunity to grow, adapt, and move forward. The Power of Starting Beginning a new project or habit often feels daunting. According to psychologists, we tend to overestimate the pain of starting and underestimate our ability to persist. However, studies show that "small starts" predict eventual success better than initial enthusiasm or early progress. This phenomenon is known as the fresh start effect - taking the first step energizes us and bolsters motivation. So focus on starting without putting pressure on perfection. Progress and course corrections will follow. First, Do It: Embrace the MVP Mindset Doing it = get the simplest MVP out. A Minimum Viable Product (MVP) represents the simplest version of a product or idea that allows you to test, gather feedback, and iterate. By embracing this mindset (just get something done - it's OK if rough, a prototype, a draft), you focus on progress over perfection, understanding that getting something out into the world is far more valuable than waiting for the perfect moment. Expand Your Comfort Zone Venturing outside one's comfort zone can elicit fears of failure. Leaning into discomfort not only builds confidence and skills, but research shows it makes us more receptive to learning. Recognize that fear is often the mind's way of urging us to grow. Don't let it stop you from progressing. Then, Do It Right: Refine and Correct Doing it right = fix correctness issues. Once you've taken that first step and put your MVP out into the world, it's time to refine and correct. This stage is about learning from feedback, identifying areas of improvement, and making adjustments accordingly. It's a chance to iterate on your idea, ensuring that it meets the needs of your audience or customers while aligning with your vision. Cultivate Curiosity and Resilience Meeting new challenges with curiosity and resilience makes venturing outside our comfort zone more sustainable and enjoyable. Cultivate curiosity about growth opportunities and your capacity to rise to them. Set mini-challenges to incrementally expand your horizons. When facing inevitable setbacks, avoid self-criticism and tap into resilience - the ability to recover, learn and continue progressing. Self-compassion, adaptability and maintaining perspective are key here. With consistent effort, you build confidence in your ability to start, stumble, learn and work toward mastery. Finally, Do It Better: Strive for Continuous Improvement "Doing it better = iterate towards an ideal end-state (e.g., make it fast)." The journey doesn't end with merely doing it right. The final step is to continuously improve, striving for excellence and growth. By iterating towards an ideal end-state, you demonstrate a commitment to progress, ensuring that your product, idea, or project remains relevant, innovative, and successful. Set New Goalposts As you improve, have a clear idea of when you are “done” or update your goalposts. Elite athletes turn small gains into competitive edges via the aggregation of marginal gains. Identify areas of potential improvement and set measurable stretch goals, from increasing efficiency to enhancing user delight. Overcoming the Greatest Barrier to Progress "The greatest barrier to progress is not lack of resources or talent, but fear of failure." Recognizing that fear of failure is the most significant obstacle in the pursuit of success allows you to confront it head-on. By acknowledging this fear, you can focus on taking that first step, knowing that once the ball starts rolling, it becomes much easier to keep it in motion. Remember that starting is more than half the battle. Don't wait until you feel ready, because the perfect moment may never come. The Bottom Line Rather than striving for perfect execution, embrace the power of starting - put forth an MVP, soft launch an initiative, or set a milestone. Progress begets motivation. By simply starting, you open the door to growth and innovation. The rest will follow. Embrace the power of starting and then iterating until you're happy.

I saw BP readings like 200/130, 190/100, and 170/90—not at an emergency room but during a community outreach. The scary part? Most were men and women in their 30s and 40s, walking around like nothing was wrong. This isn’t just alarming. It’s a public health crisis. Let’s talk.

@NotionHQ Honestly, that freaked me out! I'm kinda new to Notion. Was editing a comment to flesh it up with more ideas. Tapped "Done, returned to that comment, and discovered that the edit was gone. I feel you could notify me of any unsaved edits whenever I tap "Done"

Jesus of Nazareth, the eternal Son of God, voluntarily died for your sins. He rose on the third day and lives forever more. By turning to God in repentance and placing your trust in the Lord Jesus, you will be pardoned. Jesus: “No one comes to the Father except through me.”

@tyromper Imagine you’re 80 years old, looking back at your life. What is it you wish you would have done? Your dad awesome choices!

I know my path isn’t for all. I also know the role of a man is: •PROTECT •PROVIDE •PRESIDE I take all of those very seriously. We have systems in place & for over 9 years we built income streams, passive income & live far below our means to make this possible.

Let me welcome all Band A customers to the “exciting world” of expensive power. We have been doing it for years as I explained in this tweet below. Trust me, forget all your energy savings plans, the real elephant in the room is your AC. And I’ll explain why..