Seeing all this virginity talk reminded me of one of my uncles.
He married a virgin and never missed a chance to brag about it. They had their first child, then two years later, they had their second child.
When the whole DNA conversation got loud on social media, he was always so confident, beating his chest that his kids were definitely his.
Until one serious fight with his wife 😭
To think they barely have issues but that fight changed everything.
He went to his friends to vent, and as expected, the conversation somehow found its way back to DNA testing.
That’s how my uncle decided to do it and upon seeing the result, he fainted😭
He couldn’t believe it when he woke up, he kept insisting the hospital must have swapped the babies 😌🤦🏾♀️
A family meeting was called. His wife didn’t say a word, she just kept crying and crying even in front of her own family. My uncle was losing it, he was crashing out so bad, he was still insisting the babies were swapped, until one of my aunties asked, “If they swapped the first, did they also swap the second?”
That was when reality started sinking in.
Long story short, their divorce is still in court. Funny how, she’s asking for some of his properties.🤦🏾♀️
To think till date, she didn’t say anything about who she had those children for. She didn’t even explain herself. My uncle said, he never suspected anything and to think my extended family really liked her, she was very beautiful, modest and well-cultured.🥹
My uncle has been told to get married again and anytime he hears that, he’ll get angry so bad😭🥹
So it makes me wonder, does marrying a virgin really protect you from things like this or is it just about people and their choices?
Before you fear snakes, you should fear men. In fact I think a day should be set aside to fear that gender.
This guy I was dating and I thought he loved me just as much as I did, I never knew it was all lies. I keep wondering how everything went wrong cos I did everything a good woman would do in the relationship. He was perfect lol, never made me stress over anything and I thought the feelings were genuine. I introduced my cousin to him, so they started running businesses together. You can never catch him in any conversation about men cheating, he hated it and cursed guys that were cheating on their babes.
His cousin came to live with him, so I thought. He introduced her to me as his cousin, so I would always go over to his place every Friday to make different soups and meal to keep in the freezer for them to sustain them for the week. And each time I cooked, this girl would call me ‘our wife’ and told me they did not born her cousin well not to marry me that I was the perfect example of a good wife and she loved me already lol. Not knowing she was my man’s babe😂. Sometimes, I used my money to get stuffs to cook for them. I would be there from Friday till Monday morning and go to work from his house
There were days I would see her stuffs in my man’s room but I never paid attention to that, they’re cousins so it’s normal for them to have that close rapport. Then one Friday, as usual he expected me to come around as usual but I had to be at work on Saturday so I told him I would come after work on Saturday. But my boss later changed plans so I decided to surprise my man. I didn’t call him I was coming that night and since I had my own key with me, I had no issues even if nobody would be home.
I got to his place and knocked, but there was no answer, I knew they were home cos his car was parked outside. So I tried using my key and luckily, they hadn’t left theirs in the lock from inside. I got inside and nobody was in the living room and kitchen. I went to my man’s room and I saw him in bed with his cousin. I was numb, it was as if I was dreaming. He said to me ‘bae I can explain’. I just told him to shush and I left his house
@Cobratate@BetterIB@The_Chidimma Oh pleeeeeeeeeaae!
A man is dancing with his daughter and suddenly he’s gay?
This man,were you really loved as a child?
@Brightishim@Dutchess699031 Dude you are just a walking contradiction, in your previous post you said you will advise you daughters to be hoe, so what decipline are you talking about. Pls change your name from Bright to Dull
@Dutchess699031 *not. But in the grand scheme of things,I cannot control her life,I would discipline when necessary,shout when necessary,and disown if necessary. Probably curse too,as the case may be.
One simple question and he has folded up.. you're following a leader you cannot question and anything he dishes u just nod your head to it like a lizard... Imagine defending someone who says you should marry retired hoes and I asked a simple question he can't answer till now... Hypocrisy is so mental
@alfkkifine When they say men are logical and women is not just int aspect of relationships and marriage but in several aspects but u women just centered everything on relationships and marriage to arrive at a conclusion y'all are narrow brained.
The biggest lie society sells us is that women are the "emotional" gender and men are the "logical" ones. When you actually look at the dating market, the reality is the exact opposite.
Men are the true romantics. Women are the pragmatists.
A successful man, a CEO, a lawyer, a doctor will happily marry a woman who works as a cashier, a waitress, or is completely unemployed. He doesn't care about her status, her network, or her bank account. He marries her simply because she brings him peace, she is kind, and she makes him smile.
He loves her for who she is, not what she can do for him.
Now flip it. Ask a successful woman to marry a kind, loving, loyal man who works as a cashier.
The answer is almost always a hard "No."
Suddenly, "love" isn't enough. Suddenly, she needs "ambition." She needs "security." She needs a man on her level or higher.
A woman rarely falls in love with a man’s soul; she falls in love with his trajectory. She loves what he can provide, where he can take her, and the lifestyle he unlocks.
Men grow up thinking love is a fairy tale. They project their own capacity for unconditional love onto women. They think, "If I give her my heart, she will have my back."
They learn the hard way that female love is performance-based. The moment he loses the job, the moment the confidence wavers, or the moment he stops being "useful," the "romance" evaporates.
We call men "dogs" and "players," but men are the only ones willing to bet their entire lives on a partner who brings nothing to the table but her presence. Women love with a calculator in their hand. Men love with their eyes closed. And that is exactly why men are the ones who get destroyed they are trying to play a game of hearts with a gender that is playing a game of chess.
Truthfully, with what I have seen with this generation, I won't advice any man to marry a woman that is below 25.
Marrying them at below 25 may mostly be a recipe for disaster.
Allow them to do their hoe phase in peace until they're tired & willing to become a wife.
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