The One-Minute Professor: Just call me Jader.

I've just launched a marketing program called Marketing You. There are 3 modules: * You & What You Want. * Getting What You Want From Others. * Building a Plan to Get What You Want. This program will make winning easier. Check it out: laterjader.com

I thought I needed more physical touch. What I actually needed was to feel chosen. I hadn’t said that out loud. Not much changed until I did. #JoyTrain crackedopenproject.com

Russ and I didn’t go looking for the truth every Sunday. We just started having honest conversations. About what was working. And what wasn’t. The truth showed up on its own. crackedopenproject.com

Most relationships don’t break down all at once. They drift. Conversation by conversation where something real doesn’t get said. #JoyTrain crackedopenproject.com

The truth rarely blows things up. Silence does. It just takes longer. crackedopenproject.com

We say we want alignment. What we avoid are the conversations that would actually create it. #JoyTrain crackedopenproject.com

Most people can feel the gap. In their work. In their relationships. In themselves. They just don’t say it out loud. That’s why it stays. #JoyTrain closingthegapnow.com

Most of us don’t have a strategy problem. We have a conversation problem. We won’t say what’s actually going on. That’s the gap. #SuccessTrain

I created a Success Survey that I use to find out people's thoughts about success. One of my questions: "If you could erase all of your many accomplishments, would you still feel like a success?" I was appalled to see my answer: "No." #SuccessTrain crackedopenproject.com

Purpose and Passion. What great words. What a great reminder.

My brain hates complexity and needs to make everything simple. I taught grad school for 17 years and I think my siimple brain helped my students.

I have a few superpowers but I too often take them for granted. I have added them to my daily gratitude work to help remind myself what I have.

As Leonard Cohen sings: "Everything has cracks in it; that's how the light gets in." #JoyTrain

One of my Love Languages is physical touch. Not true for my wife. I realized this weekend that when she touches me, I feel chosen. I welled up even thinking that. Must be getting "Cracked Open." #JoyTrain

@BostonByBirth I am the most biased guy I know. I have strong opinions about almost everything. That's where I always start.

@gcjader If we can separate bias — I don’t believe in any of that “unconscious” shit — from bigotry, we have a shot.

If you've been following me, you might sense that I have an issue with people who are Black, Jewish, or Muslim. Let me be clear, I care nothing about your innate identity. If you're a Black Muslim, be a Black Muslim. I'm smart enough to understand the differences between pattern recognition, statistics, and bigotry. It's true that I can see through my personal experiences that a Black Muslim, in general, might exhibit some of the same traits that might make me wary of approaching a person who fits that description because pattern recognition and statistics tell me I should be wary, but that doesn't mean that I'm not willing to engage with any Black Muslim, especially in a one-on-one scenario. I am naturally curious. I like to understand the ideas behind someone's eyes. I like to learn the mechanisms that get people to their exact spots in their personal lives. The idea that's been pounded into our heads by the mainstream media, which is controlled by the Democratic Party, for decades—we must be agnostic, née blind, to pattern recognition and statistics—has done nothing but get liberal White women killed by Black men and aliens who are living in the United States illegally. That's a pattern that can't be unseen. I've also learned that femininity is the opposite of feminism. The push for feminist ideals has neutered women. It has taken the innate beauty of women and turned it on its head. I'm not sitting here as a straight White male telling you that I'm better than a Black Muslim man or a Jewish lesbian because I'm not. I can clearly see that straight White men also have issues. In conclusion, I am still willing to look past every outward marker of my perceived inhumanity to get to know someone who's willing and open to having a light-hearted but pointed conversation, because all humans want to feel seen and loved, just like me.

@BethFratesMD Absolutely, Beth. Everything is better together.

@gcjader I am sorry to hear this. Thank you for sharing. Life is a journey. It's better when we travel together through all the different situations, celebrations, and challenges. 🙏

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Mahatma Gandhi 💙 #FridayFeeling #FridayThoughts #FridayMorning

@PramodDrSolanki @WritersNetGuide Thanks, Pramod. Over 20 years, my good friend and I met every Sunday from 9:30-noon and discussed life's thorniest issues. On being your word, on being a father and husband, on being an imposter. My hope is that it will create a quiet revolution so we can get back to honesty.

@WritersNetGuide @gcjader Hey Jader, This is great. Many congratulations 👏👏👏

#SuccessTRAIN Cracked Open: A Field Guide for Men in Search of the Truth. A 91-year-old man, Gary Jader @GCJader & AI 📘 Now available: books2read.com/u/baJDZQ New #BookRelease #MensMentalHealth #Russisms #EmotionalHonesty #AI #JoyTrain #WritingCommunity

@AmandaRay02 Amen, Amanda.

@gcjader Agree. Helping others for its own sake, without recognition or reward, is often what brings the deepest sense of fulfillment.

If service does not give you joy, why do it? #JoyTrain

Great deep dive on scalability. I see misalignment as a huge problem for fast growing companies. #SuccessTrain

@dreckbaerfrau I am such a possibility junkie, I need to be done with one thing so I can pursue the next shiny object:-)

@gcjader I like to get things done but I find it hard to say: This is the final version - I always find something to add, to change or to explain in different ways.

Such a great question, Susanna. I'm pretty good at starting things, and I go a bit crazy if something is not completed. Where I can fall down is in the middle. The spark of something new is gone and the finish line is too far off.

@dreckbaerfrau And for me, failure is a constant:-)

@gcjader Failures make for great stories.

Great story guide. For me, it's what I learn about myself and others. Seems like every day I fall short, screw up, fail to accomplish something I want to accomplish. Why? What happened?