Karim Akbar

Or you could just realize men are not defective women, and therefore do not think like women, and therefore women need to communicate instead of assume and treat them as if they are somehow purposefully wronging them when they are just operating how they are designed. So much bad modern marriage and relationship advice exists because it is premised on men being a defective version of women.

Africans’ Aura for Aura

“Withholding sex” is one of the most revealing phrases men use, because it assumes sex was already his and she’s refusing to release it. Watch what usually comes before it. He did the dishes. He paid a bill. He quoted religion. He acted sad. He found a dozen ways to frame her body as the reward for his effort. But the question is simple. Did she want him in that moment? If the answer is no, she wasn’t withholding. She didn’t have desire to give. She was angry, hurt, exhausted, disconnected, repulsed, unseen. And women have been so trained to believe refusal is cruelty that they’ll force themselves through sex they don’t want just to avoid being called abusive. That is the sickness underneath the whole argument. Men call it “withholding” because “she doesn’t want me” requires self-reflection. “Withholding” lets him stay entitled.

After assaulting a girl in the street, he was stopped by a group of Jiu-Jitsu practitioners who held him until the police arrived. The classic ending: playing the victim and claiming, “I can’t breathe”… as usual.