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YOU ARE THE MAIN F*CKING CHARACTER

People identify with a role because the mind needs a fast, solid answer to one question: who am I? And that question is terrifying if you actually sit with it, because the genuine answer is that you don't really know. You don't know who you truly are. So most people never sit with it for long. Because if you did go all the way to the bottom of it, every label and made-up identity you've been carrying would start to fall away, and that feels like death. The death of the self you think you are. And nothing scares a person more than that. So, what usually happens is that you reach the edge of it, the point where you don't know who you are anymore, and instead of going through, you freeze there in total fear. You've lost yourself. You start questioning everything, and it brings this massive wave of anxiety. And you can't sit in that, so you do the only thing that makes it stop. You grab another identity. Another label to hold onto so you don't have to feel it. And that's the paradox. Every time you grab a new identity to escape the fear, you never make it to the other side. You never reach the point where you actually find out who you are. And what you'd find there is the part nobody tells you. What you truly are is something far bigger and more powerful than any label could ever hold.

Your identity must die. Kill the idea of being able to fit yourself into a box or a general niche. Gym guy, Biz shark, Health bro, Social dude, Spiritual student. Fastest way to live a shallow life of limited experience. Life is more fun when you can go wide and deep. The mixture of going wide and deep is where you can discover your uniqueness as a human. Go as deep as YOU WANT into everything YOU find interesting. You’ll know what it is by what makes you inspired and excited. Go find out what you are. Life.

Joseph Campbell

US soldier keeping his cool in what was one of the most stunning battles recorded at Kamdesh Afghanistan in 2009

the greatest people aren’t disciplined. they are obsessed.

Most of the 'magic' that comes in the form of 'saving yourself' comes in the form of going INTO the walls and emotional stews that you're avoiding It is willingly & actively saying "my body is resisting this, but his is required, so let's see what happens" & stepping INTO the thing while holding the reason/vision for what you're doing in your mind's eye Most never realize they can consciously choose to go the other direction. Easy/simple example is you're scared to approach a girl because you don't want to be embarrased. Your entire mission then might be how to avoid embarrassment. But the 'most direct route' is to simply go at the core emotion/thing. It is to say "fuck it, i'm going to be maximally embarrased", and then sending it. Directly THROUGH this will apply to everything you need to do, because since it's all new, it will be a lot of you feeling like a fucking idiot, simply because you have zero idea what you're doing Most people avoid this feeling forever. But at some point gotta realize you can just lean IN, and you can choose to 'feel super fucking stupid but do it anyway'. It's removing the emotional requirements you've self-generated from the equation. And that is usually core block. You want x thing (or say you want it), but probably also want to feel y way while doing it. You want the result, but aren't willing to pay the emotional pricetag The cool part though is each emotional pricetag of each piece of what what you want has a finite timeline of existence for each each activity. You're scared to run a sales call because you don't want to be perceived as pushy/aggressive (emotional avoidance), so you put it off. then 2 years pass. But good news is theoretically if you ran 100 sales calls, you would 'find your lane' with it, realize your perceptions were incorrect & that you were able to carve your own niche/style, & then negative emotion basically goes away And all 'obstacles' follow that similar layout. Emotionally uncomfortable due to perceived meaning of what's required > leaning in > realizing old label was incorrect/re-frame > new meaning/negative emotionality fades > 'unknown' comes into known, and you're onto next piece of puzzle