the spice of life ❄️

I’m not saying there aren’t good foster people. And I don’t think she was *just* in it for the money either. But it was a factor.

This is true. My neighbor (60 yr old lady) did foster care and had a young boy about 10. Sweet kid. He gave her some trouble. I remember one time she said “I told them I was going to give him back, but they got him on some medication and now I get more money so I’ll keep him longer “ Never looked at her the same again.

@Lady_Grimaldus WELL WHICH IS IT LADY lol

@maternalgroyp You dont suck. God blessed you with these babies. He wanted you to have these babies.

some fun facts about me & sleep: -the longest stretch of sleep I’ve had since 2020 is a single 5 hour stretch and 9 nights I had a 4 hour stretch (yes I know it was 9 times because each one was a documented miracle) -newborn sleep stage is when I get the most sleep (3 hour chunks) -my babies all wake up every 30-90 minutes the entire night arouns 6/7 weeks and onward until at least 12mo. - I have virtually been waking up between 1-3 hours all night, every night, for almost 6 years STRAIGHT. does anyone else out there function on this amount of sleep? Does anyone else have babies that will not sleep longer than that? I’m completely exhausted but no one seems to have good sleeping advice other than leave them to cry. I don’t know what to do …all my other goals seem impossible while being in such a state of constant sleep deprivation.

@stefiegriff @sim_kiever She she just gagged on it and cried and spit it out my mom said.

@maternalgroyp @sim_kiever & she just didn't eat? 😭

@Lady_Grimaldus We haven’t been trying to have the last 3 kids. We’ve tried *not* to but clearly suck at NFP

@maternalgroyp Im being serious. If you desperately need sleep and you have the need to be present with your infants, it's time to start taking 2 or so year long breaks between them. So you can sleep and be present for your other children

@skroni @throughchrist17 I’ve been cosleeping since birth

@throughchrist17 @maternalgroyp Cosleep. Look up the safe sleep 7 from La leche league. Sidecar a crib or buy an Alaskan king.

@sim_kiever @stefiegriff I have glass Philips avent bottles yes Yes she was hungry. I left her with my mom while I did a work thing and she would have normally been nursing at that time.

@maternalgroyp @stefiegriff Have you tried with a bottle when she’s very hungry? And have you tried the Philips avent bottles? Those worked like a charm for me when others failed.

@Liberty38129118 Yea they’re in the bed next to me Which I honestly love but I’m not getting any sleep

@maternalgroyp Do you co-sleep?

@stefiegriff @sim_kiever I couldn’t get her to take a bottle of breastmilk either though :/

@maternalgroyp @sim_kiever You can also pump & do half+half that way they get used to it. There's definitely ways to do it. I didn't introduce formula to any of mine until around 9 months. One liked it cold, one liked it perfectly 98 degrees. Both liked diff nips. Sleep improved so much every time.

@maternalgroyp Take a break from having babies is the only advice I have that would align with your goal of not letting your little babies cry it out. Or sleep training.

@Chesedgirl What’s the dose

Should I take creatine? I'm nervous about the water retention thing but I've heard it's good for postpartum

@teachrobotslove What’s Reta

If you want to be a smaller size, you have to be willing to accept that you're going to be hungry more often. That's it. That's the secret. I used to think hunger was a "problem" to be solved, but it's fine to let yourself be hungry sometimes. Not STARVING, but hungry. Even on a low dose of Reta, I usually go to bed a little hungry most nights.

@2wiceB @teachrobotslove I’m right where you are - when I try to cut carbs out or down, my supply tanks Calorie counting arouns 2000 is fine but if I go under then supply dips Each person is different tho But I’m staying fat for now

Oh yea I have a next to 0 tolerance for screaming crying babies. I will hold them the entire day and night basically their first year. If they want to be on mom - that’s what they get. lol If the baby fusses LESS with me holding than someone else holding - then I’m holding. I cannot function at all while a baby is screaming / crying. I have to fix that immediately before I can attend to anything else.

it sounds like we have very different tolerances for fussing babies! my youngest (my bad sleeper) was so pissed off at life for like the first 6 months of his life that he’d even scream and fuss while someone was holding him and there was not much anyone could do. so for us some screaming at bedtime didn’t even faze us

Like this baby for whatever reason, between 4-6 months FREAKED OUT in the car if it was after 4pm. Earlier in the day? Totally fine. As soon as it was 4pm or later it was nonstop screaming. So for those 2 months I just committed to NOT driving after 4pm for that reason. And anything else that conflicted I just didn’t go to

so what would you do if your baby was screaming and crying and losing their mind in the car but you HAD to keep driving because you were late to an important appointment? no one would argue that it permanently messes up your baby to do that because people have to drive and some babies simply hate the car. I view a couple of nights of sleep training the same way!

@straitofhermuse That seems to be the consensus

@maternalgroyp Girl you need to sleep train

@smalltown_wife @Hestia_Esq We have the option of putting the baby in with our 5yr old & 2 year old (they share. Room) Or with our 4 year old They’re all upstairs though. And we are on the main floor - so I don’t know how good it is to have a baby screaming waking all the other kids up … hmmm

we had to put ours in a separate room. honestly he was one of those babies that cosleeping simply did NOT work for. even now he’s a super light sleeper and stuff will wake him up that would never have bothered my other kid. if you have a way to put his crib in a separate room I’d definitely try that

@sim_kiever They wouldn’t take a bottle of breast milk either ! LOL so ridiculous

@maternalgroyp If you have success with bottle feeding your breastmilk, could you try adding a small amount of formula to the bottle and work your way up?

@smalltown_wife @Hestia_Esq What if our setup is like this ? Do we just pretend to be asleep and then he can check on her every 5/10 minutes or whatever ?

we were instructed to check in every 10 minutes AND I had my husband do it… not me… so the baby wouldn’t smell my milk! it was very key to our whole process of sleep training to immediately quit the nursing to sleep association and have my husband put him to bed and then be the one to go in there if needed