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@lolalucxy Probably the biggest (and saddest) paradox of our time. I think @strangestloop said it once: often the people that need something are the least capable of getting/attracting it.
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AI Actor-Critic
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Action is king. All the writing in the world doesn't matter, unless you go and do something.
Asgardia Katılım Mayıs 2017
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I have to lead but not pressure her. If I admire her body I'm objectifying her. Physical attractiveness should mean nothing to me as it is appealing to a base animalistic part of me that I need to keep under control. If I ask for sex and she doesn't want it, I've crossed a line
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what are the online/digital equivalents of corner stores? (small-ish third spaces that people pass through a lot, a warm/familiar feeling, sense of neighborliness, etc)
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it's simple: women are bimodal in how kinky/sex freaky they are. The vanilla women are more likely to be genuinely horrified, and the kinky women are driving all the weird porn watching stats but don't stand up for it publicly, and so vanilla women don't realize they exist
saddy mayonnaise@saddymayo
Anti-porn/anti-masturbation/anti-poly discourse is pro trad wife propaganda and you can’t convince me otherwise.
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@emily_for_now All of the above are actually very good in moderation. The vice is not their use, but their overuse.
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i think of porn as unhealthy in the same way modern phone dependence is unhealthy. both swap the rich texture of life for a simulacrum, the low nutrition snack food version of connection. the cheez-it of sex (and i love cheez-its)
i'm hesitant to place a ton of blame on individuals (although the responsibility for the richness of your life remains your own). i have a lot to criticize about our hyperstimulating yet disembodied culture. very interesting to see so many view porn use completely differently than other modern vices like consumerism, social media addiction, obesity, isolation, etc.
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I’m learning that many straight women really do just want their boyfriends to lie to them constantly. They don’t want honest, vulnerable admissions of desire & predilections, they want to be deceived & manipulated because they prefer the egotistical fantasy that their man only ever thinks sexually about them as opposed to actual intimacy. It’s very childish, actually. Teenage girl mentality
alexis@imheretolurk13
I love that more and more women are calling out their boyfriends for watching that misogynistic trash 🙂↕️
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@phenoatypical This actually works, unless you have some evidence against it. Most status is actually not an objective measure, but is loosely tied to such. That's why Ana Sorokin's plan worked.
It takes skill, but actually not "a lot", most people are really bad at detecting fake status
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One of the main issues I see with dating advice for men is that a lot of it basically suggests they behave as though they were high status. I think some men can perform high status successfully, but it takes *quite* a lot of skill. And honestly, behaving high status while people can clearly detect that you aren’t is basically social suicide.
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A 40yo man dating a 24yo woman is literally fine.
I was her once. No, it wasn't serious, yes, I love expensive steakhouses & men who aged well, and no, he didn't have any power over me because I was an adult 🙄
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cruelty loves to lecture at kindness
weakness loves to lecture at strength
cowardice loves to lecture at courage
ignorance loves to lecture at knowledge
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@justalexoki @Aella_Girl Sure, but to use your wording "why marry someone if you don't trust them that they will resist temptation for your relationship".
I'm fairly monogamous, but I agree with aella, that invoking trust as your underlying reasoning is a bad way of addressing this.
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@Aella_Girl all fair but - "let's just not flirt with a thing where temptation/circumstance might disrupt something" does this not sound at least a little bit reasonable to you? that feeding into something that wouldn't have been an issue might make it an issue?
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prenups are retarded. if you think you need a prenup you should genuinely just not get married because you obviously don't trust this person enough to spend the rest of your life together
critter@BecomingCritter
If you're single, are you against or do you want a prenup? If you're married, do you have a prenup?
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@parakeetnebula @thesubtledoctor No, they are activities that are the basis of some professions
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@AIActorCritic @thesubtledoctor They are literally all foundational professions
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There’s actually zero evidence that prostitution is the “world’s oldest profession.” First of all, just think about that claim. Does it make sense? No, it doesn’t. People were already hunting, gathering, making tools, cooking, etc which means that specialized jobs already existed
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@parakeetnebula @thesubtledoctor I don't think any of the things you listed are considered a profession?
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@AIActorCritic @thesubtledoctor Grooming, foraging, mating, caregiving, tool use, and food-sharing all predate modern humans too. Are those professions too?
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It's interesting how if you love a girl right, half of her personality would literally be a traditional wife, yet this doesn't take anything back from her being independent and capable of other things.
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@parakeetnebula It exists in several primates, I think chimpanzees and at least one more type of monkeys, so it most likely predate homo-sapiens as a species'.
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Here is my year so far
Astrid Wilde 🌞@astridwilde1
my stocks do seem to only go up when you're right, you're right
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my stocks do seem to only go up
when you're right, you're right
Papi Puts@papiputs
@Jay8142 @astridwilde1 no he’s blinded by greed and thinks stocks only go up, go figure
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@sparr0 @datingbyblaine I would argue about 60% of my own behaviour I don't have strong feelings about, but have fallen in patterns because of habit and environment. If a change I don't care will improve my partner happiness I gladly would do it
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@sparr0 @datingbyblaine This is not a good example, because board games are something he/she will observe and even if they never played they can start to. The behaviours like the earlier one needs to be indicated, that you like her to be proactive, which only way is to communicate
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Matchmaking client in NYC is 31, 6’1, busy entrepreneur. He calls for advice after his 4th date with a match.
She’s 27 and gorgeous. He’s into her, but he’s concerned that he’s initiated every conversation and date they’ve been on.
He’s questioning whether he should keep pursuing.
I tell him to tell her how he feels. She may not know he’d appreciate some initiative.
He’s skeptical, but says he’ll talk with her. Fast forward a month…
She’s become proactive. She’s been planning dates. She texting him at 5pm everyday to ask about his workday. They become exclusive.
Sometimes you just need to tell people what you want!
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@sparr0 @datingbyblaine I understand the sentiment, but I think saying what you want is the only valid move here. Many people want to love their partners the way they feel appreciated. Also changing habits for your loved ones is what love is. It's a fine line, but communicating these things is necessary
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@datingbyblaine I would be worried she was only doing it for dating, and would revert to her natural inclinations over the long term. I'd prefer to be with someone who is my preferred level of [trait] by default, not just because/when I ask them to.
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