Shu'aib Isa

Let’s talk about the 7-7-7 rule of parenting. I know that some of you might have heard of it before. But what I want to share with you are rare tips that you cannot find in your regular blogs. Why the 7-7-7 Rule in the first place? We are all exhausted. I see it in my DMs every day. We are fighting battles in our homes that we should not even be in because we try to use the same heavy hand for every age. The truth is, you cannot use the same logic for a toddler that you use for a teenager. When you use the wrong tool at the wrong time, you do not just fail to teach the child. You break the relationship between you and the child. The 7-7-7 rule is the solution to this constant friction. This rule was first echoed by Ali ibn Abi Talib (May The Almighty be pleased with him). He said: Play with them for seven years, Discipline them for seven years, and then Befriend them for seven years. It sounds easy, but most of us do it in the wrong order. We are too serious with the toddlers and then we try to be the boss when they are already teenagers. (1) The 0 to 7 Years Stage. This is the stage to build the love tank. Imam Al-Ghazali said in Ihya, that a child's heart is a precious jewel that is blank and ready for any carving. In these years, you should play more than you lecture. One rare tip that you can adopt going forward is Overhead Praise. Direct praise is good, but overhead praise is gold. Instead of telling them they are good, tell your spouse or a friend about their good deed while the child is in the room. When they hear you brag about their kindness when they think you aren't looking, it builds a deep confidence. Action Tip: Find one small thing they did well today and mention it to someone else while they are nearby. Make sure they can hear you. Be intentional and consistent about it. (2) The 7 to 14 Years Stage. This is the time for character and boundaries. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi in Sayd al-Khatir, warned us about forcing a narrow vessel to hold too much. Remember I talked about Taghaful (Strategic Ignorance) yesterday. This is the right age to use it. It means you see the mistake, but you choose to look away. If you correct every single thing they do wrong, they will develop a hearing block against your voice by age ten. You have to save your corrections for the things that matter. Action Tip: Start today by adopting the 70/30 rule. Ignore 70% of the small irritations, maybe it is a messy desk or a slow response. Save your energy for the 30% that actually involves character or safety. Only speak up for the big boundaries. You are building authority by not wasting it on small irritations. Pay attention to their demeanor and be consistent. (3) The 14 to 21 Years Stage. In this stage, the "boss" version of you must die so the "consultant" version can be born. The scholar Ibn Miskawayh in Tahdhib al-Akhlaq, wrote about the refinement of the soul as a process that requires respect. If you keep using force, they will just learn to hide their life from you. Action Tip: Your job now is to protect their Sirr (Sacred Secrecy). If they tell you something heavy, misdeed or embarrassing, keep it between you. Do not share it with the extended family. To keep them close, you must be a safe vault. This week, try to listen to them for twenty minutes without giving a single piece of advice. Just listen so they know you are a friend they can trust with their future. In all, the 7-7-7 rule is about realizing that you are a gardener. You don't make the plant grow. You just provide the right environment for it to reach its own opening (Fath). As a parent, which stage are you currently navigating? Let’s discuss in the comments👏🏿👏🏿

Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith. First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul. If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her. Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them. A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward. He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now. Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar. Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity. Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do. Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight. Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break. Allah knows best.

@YusufAsunmogejo Isn’t the moon supposed to be bigger in a close shot? I'm confused 🤔

I am not understanding something 🤔 Elon may have posted the wrong video Or what do you think?

My brother! Two good questions, and before I dive in, let me first apologise to many who have been sending me questions via social media platforms (especially Facebook and X) and have not received a reply. The reason is simple: I have limited time to answer dozens of messages online, since I usually respond to most during my weekly lessons and Tafseer sessions, which I consider more formal and what I can properly manage. I sincerely apologise to all those I have been unable to reply to, in the past, and even in the future. Now, to your first question: selling your blood: this is impermissible by the consensus of all leading Islamic scholars. The Prophet (PBUH) forbade taking payment for blood (see Sahihul Bukhari, Hadith no. 5962). The hadith refers to money earned by selling blood). For further detail, see the book of Lajnatut Da’imah ( Volume 13, Number 71). However, donating blood for free, under medical advice and to save a life, is highly commendable, and encouraged for anyone, regardless of his tribe, race, religion or group (see Qur’an, Suratul An’am, Verse 160). Second question: Selling organs is also prohibited, since your body is a trust from your Creator, Allah. For details, refer to the fatwa of Al-Muntaqa issued by His Eminence, Shaykh Saleh al-Fawzan. That said, donating an organ to save a life is permissible, but with conditions. The conditions are: it must be an organ on which life does not completely depend on (e.g., a kidney or blood vessel). On the contrary, if it’s vital, like heart, liver or brain, then it is not allowed to donate it, except for someone who has been declared medically dead. (see the Resolution No. 2117 of the Islamic Fiqh Council). In summary, selling blood or organs is prohibited; giving them away to save a human life is permissible, as long as the donor’s own life does not depend on that organ. Indeed, Allah is the All-Knowing.

@ArsenalZNE Szoboszlai free kick?

🚨🔴 Arne Slot argued that the 14-point gap between Liverpool and Arsenal does not accurately reflect the difference in quality between the two sides 😳👀: “I’m not saying we deserve to be right up there with Arsenal. Not at all, but I can safely and fairly say we deserved more. In a normal world we would have had six, eight, nine points more – I’m talking about the late goals we’ve conceded. I don’t think the gap between them and us is 14 points but they deserve to be above us because they definitely have had a better season than us. Of course one of the things that leads to such a big margin is something I’ve said 100 times already (set-pieces).”

@tokunbo_wahab @Miqdad_Jnr Sir, Something like this would be highly invaluable in Katsina City, as it would help prevent indiscriminate waste disposal. This is possible through government collaboration by providing the necessary equipment and tools for effective waste disposal and management.

Name: Makinde Rasaq Age: 48 The individual named above was apprehended for indiscriminate disposal of refuse and is currently in custody at the Task Force Office, Oshodi, for further processing in line with extant environmental laws of Lagos State. This arrest is in line with the State Government’s zero tolerance for environmental infractions. Indiscriminate waste disposal poses serious risks to public health, drainage systems, and overall environmental sustainability, and offenders will be held accountable accordingly. #CleanerLagos

@MFaarees_ It's now that context matters lol Why not be fair and live in peace ✌️

Luke 19:27 “But as for these enemies of mine, who did not want me to reign over them, bring them here and slaughter them before me.” This was from the same Jesus according to your Bible.

The Angels love Perfumes!!!

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@ChelseaFC There are moments and there are lifetime moments. That is the difference.

That shot. That scream. That night.

JUNGLE JUSTICE: THE HYPOCRISY OF THE SOUTHERN NIGERIANS! By Salihu Tanko Yakasai. Everywhere you look in this country, you can see rot in the system. The complicity of those who should know better is evident, and the vices that have become normalized persist across different parts of Nigeria. From chronic underdevelopment in all six geopolitical zones, including the oil producing states and the so-called economic hubs, to the regions that pride themselves on their religiosity, there’s no shortage of poor leadership. However, one thing I find both amusing and troubling is how quickly the South amplifies the problems of the North, often presenting them as unique or exclusive to us, totally oblivious to theirs. For clarity, I am not excusing the North. I have addressed our issues many times, particularly regarding insecurity. In fact, some readers may recall that I was arrested by the DSS in 2021 during the administration of late President Buhari after I criticized the handling of the Tegina schoolgirls’ abduction. I have also written openly about the failures of northern leaders, including my 2012 article, "19 Northern Governors: The Certified Parasites." I have consistently urged young northerners to build capacity and equip themselves to add value to Arewa and the country as a whole. Yes, we have been vocal in our criticisms and have held our leaders accountable. What I rarely see happen, is that same objectivity from many in the South. Whenever something occurs in the North, they swiftly condemn all northerners collectively, presenting it as if the entire region is guilty or that such acts are widespread and culturally accepted. Take jungle justice as an example. The killing of Deborah in Sokoto is often cited as a favorite reference point by Nigerians from the South. For the record, my position has always been clear: Deborah should have been handed over to the authorities if she committed any crime. No one has the right to pass judgment outside the law. Her killing was jungle justice, plain and simple. Does that mean blasphemy is condoned? Absolutely not. But it should be the courts, not a mob, that decides. However, here’s the hypocrisy: that same jungle justice is also widespread in the South. Burning people alive with tires, stoning them, or using cutlass to unailve them is rampant all over the South. Many high-profile killings of northerners have occurred there in recent years. Harira Jubril and her four daughters were murdered in Anambra in 2022 by suspected ESN operatives. Sixteen northerners were lynched and burned in Uromi, Edo State, in 2025. The violence at Sasa market in Ibadan in 2021 left many Hausa residents dead and displaced. In the same year, armed separatists shot dead northern traders in Orlu and Umuaka, Imo State. These are not rumors; these are facts. Yet, somehow, these incidents are downplayed or ignored. When you mention them, some people respond by saying Deborah was killed “in the name of Islam,” as if that magically makes the killing of northerners acceptable merely because it wasn’t done “in the name of Christianity,” even though the perpetrators were Christians. Even in the Southwest, where many present themselves as morally superior, the jungle justice carried out by the Oodua People’s Congress (OPC) is conveniently forgotten. OPC began as a rights group but quickly morphed into a vigilante outfit linked to violent clashes across Lagos in the late ’90s and early 2000s. Human Rights Watch documented killings ranging from beheadings, torture, arson, and ethnic attacks in areas such as Ketu, Mile 12, Ajegunle, Idi-Araba, Ojo, and Isolo. Northern traders, civilians, and even police officers were victims, with official estimates of the death toll nearing 500. Yet this history rarely makes its way into their moral lectures. Curiously, their memory seems to begin and end with Deborah or similar acts in the North. 1/2

@Zyad1605 To me the second goal is the most unnatural shot you can ever see

You see, when you study Ronaldo shooting mechanics you understand why his shooting is so good. He’s mastered even the tiniest details and he’s so focused on the technique. But with Messi it makes no sense, it’s like some external force is guiding his shots. That first shot for example makes absolutely no sense mechanically.

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@therealyinks1 Mee too 😂

I’m just seeing this 😭😭

@mod33333 Albabians let gather here ❤️

Hafsa, I didn’t insult you I only corrected you. You called some people “matsiyata”, and I simply reminded you where you come from. 😅 A sales girl has no comeback to that, just rest. i hate to brag but I know you’ve been angry since the day I mentioned the hotel you used to go to and the guy who used to take you there. Even your boss wouldn’t dare insult me. I come from a loving and modest family. In your wildest dreams, while growing you didn't have half of the privilege I got from Ulul Abab to Grays College, then Informatics, and Middlesex. My tuition fees alone equal can equal your family’s yearly expenditure. I work in my family’s establishment not a sales boy in a paint shop, I am a retired CBN staff, and I’m a respected young politician. You, on the other hand you are the one that social media gave audacity, only rose because of Twitter from follow-backs and followers farming. thanks to you trying to disrespect honorable people like @B_ELRUFAI . Enjoy your small media job (which competence didn’t take you to). That’s why you don’t even know your job role or description, and now you parade your media plllllggqosition as if you’re a DG. Before Your boss knew he will have his curent postion my dad serve honrrably for 8 year under malam, he was your boss boss which is Uba Sani deputy campaign DG in 2023 campaign council. APC nan da KDSG ni na guje ta. ko yau muka dawonba alfarma zaa fimu ba. The fact that I didnt grow like obese cow does mean you are closeq ed. flc to me or doing better.

@Miqdad_Jnr Definitely, an unforgettable moment of magic.

I anticipate facing criticism, however, the memory of Henry's solo goal against Real Madrid in 2006 at Santiago Bernabeu will forever remain ingrained in my mind. This occurred during my time in junior secondary school.😀

@Abbal0000 Tell me you are a Madrid fan without saying it! 😂

Barcelona, Arsenal

@Abbal0000 @footballontnt Na mutanen mu kaɗai ake samun kwange kuma ban ga laifin su ba

@Abbacrc @footballontnt Hada dani nan oga.anya babu kwange cikin lamari shekarun gayanan?

Just a few years ago, Jean-Philippe Mateta had Crystal Palace teammates laughing at his dream of playing for the French national team. Tonight, he starts his first game for Les Bleus at 28 years old 💙👏

@asdangamba @footballontnt Haba dan Allah ai daga gani akwai alamar tambaya 😂

@Abbacrc @footballontnt Toh ya zakai Jiki kala kala ne😂