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One thing people often don't realize with their first kid, which can drive dismay and even regret in early months, is the overwhelming temporariness of all your problems. Baby's emotional regulation is non existent or completely counterproductive? Yeah key parts of the brain couldn't fit through the birth canal, give it a few months. Needs sleep but wont sleep? Yeah key parts of the brain... needs to feed but doesnt know how? Say it with me again. And so forth.
If your baby cuddles up to you and feels like a part of your soul in natural union as you each fall into your intended roles that's great and magical for you and all that but if it feels like a severely dysfunctional broken thing that cannot possibly carry the tools to survive even in a highly favorable environment and actively undermines even the most baseline necessary efforts to help it... it is also that. Humans arent like other animals, space constraints are a bitch. Nature isnt a beautiful harmony who gives you what you need, shes a penny counting miser who gives you exactly what's worth paying for and not a cent more and thinks in bulk terms and macro trends.
But it's fine. They grow every day and whatever the behavior you just cant bear anymore one day it will just stop. And until then dont assume there's some magic song or ritual that will fix it, nature doesn't think you are entitled to riddles with answers if they're expensive to write. Sometimes it's just annoying for a bit. Walk away, hand them off, read a book, watch youtube on your phone, whatever. You aren't being graded as a parent. Attachment isnt real. Missing brain is coming. This thing will pass.
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