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@AschleighJ @propublica This. Crazy that being as rich and well educated as her family seems to be that she didn’t leave the state at the first sign of trouble.

@propublica it seems like educated women would know that their state will let thrn die and they should just flee at the first sign of a fetus being unviable , like that day. who red states women get this ?

1/ At 17 weeks pregnant, Emily Waldorf was suddenly faced with a life-threatening situation: Her baby’s foot was dipping out of her cervix. Doctors told her the longer her cervix stayed open, the higher her risk of infection. They knew how to treat her. There was one issue…🧵

@ixvesi @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Nope, married 35 years 2 kids 4 grandkids, SAHM for 10 years, watched my sister's kids a week or so in the summer, watched the grands during school breaks... I've been in the trenches, that's why I know how unrealistic it is to say "JuSt GeT FaMLiY tO do FuLl TiMe ChiLdcArE!"

@CaryW66 @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Lady, you come off like a single mom. Your issues are greater than relative distance and failing health. Maybe if your family were whole, you'd have had adequate childcare - without being a degenerate polygamist.

Hot Take: Is being a parent really “too” expensive? Or are you just making expensive parenting choices? -Breastfeeding (if you can) is practically free -Daycare is a choice (stay home/work opposite shifts) -Cloth diapers are an affordable investment -A swing, bouncer, changing table etc aren’t “necessities” -Secondhand or hand me down clothes work just as well What’s your personal take?

@ixvesi @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 When my kids were young my parents were still working, my grand & great grandparents were either dead, too frail, or lived too far away, my other relatives & friends all had jobs, families of their own or lived too far away. The only families who could do this were polygamists.

@CaryW66 @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Do young families not have parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, siblings, friends, etc.? That's a pretty sizeable pool of people to assist in divvying up childcare for a few short years.

@Vince524 @JennMGreenberg @KinCali1 No, it's dangerously suicidal behavior which usually ends with murder or murder-suicide. Not to excuse what he did, but he deserves a lesser punishment for the kids and their mother coming out of this alive.

@JennMGreenberg @KinCali1 Not to diminish what he did, which is kidnapping, but I’d think liquidating his assets points more to wanting to live with them not kill them. This happened (in reverse) when I was a kid with a family we were extremely close to. It wasn’t treated as a crime, but that was 81-82ish

Incredible work by Saratoga Springs Police Department, Salt Lake City FBI, and I’m sure at least a few other law enforcement agencies. When Dane Richman failed to drop off his kids at a custody exchange, it was found he’d sold all his belongings, abandoned his house, fired his lawyer, and vanished with his two baby boys, Will (2) and Wesley (10mo). Given his dire financial situation and bizarre behavior, it was feared he might do something terrible. Thank God, they were just tracked down in Mexico. Will and Wesley are now safe with their mother.

@BammerinFL @JennMGreenberg No, they were not. The last guy who did something like this killed the kids and their mother.

@JennMGreenberg "...safe with their mother..." They were safe with their father.

@ixvesi @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 It's not mindset, it's practicality. I just don't understand why you think young families commonly have relatives that have the time, the ability and the wealth to regularly do unpaid or low paid childcare. Emergency and occasional childcare, sure, but that can't replace daycare.

@CaryW66 @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 In the same way you take family in when they get old instead of throwing them in a nursing home, family comes together to help raise the young instead of sending them off to daycare. It's actually not that complicated for people who aren't of the "what's in it for me" mindset.

@ixvesi @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 I just don't get how this is supposed to work when most people don't have family that is willing or able to watch their kids, especially if it's for little or no compensation. It seems completely unrealistic for most families to count on this.

@CaryW66 @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 You're making shit up to be mad at. Never said grandma should quit her job. Never said family should get compensation on par with a full-time job. Only the selfish view helping their families as an employment venture.

@ixvesi @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 How is it cost effective for the grandma who is expected to quit her job and watch her grandkids for free? If they are planning to pay her the same as she was making (including health insurance and retirement) then it's not going to cost less than daycare. I don't get it.

@CaryW66 @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Cost-effective ≠ unpaid.

@Thiohna Exactly. I love my mom, and would absolutely have wanted her to do what she felt was best when she was pregnant with me.

As a former fetus I would have consented to my mother having an abortion. Why would you wanna be inside your mothers body when she doesnt want you to be? Weird

@muheediva01 Every financial decision over a few hundred dollars should be a joint decision, including giving money to family.

As a married couple, should a man consult his wife before giving money to his mother and family?

@uranoutofluck Exactly, I used to work at a special needs school, none of our parents planned to have extremely expensive children, it just happened and they were living in poverty or on the edge of poverty dealing with it.

@CaryW66 Yeah, wait until the OP sees how much speech therapy cost once your insurance runs out, after doctors say your kid will "catch up" for long enough that they're a year behind

Kids ARE expensive Breastfeeding isn't "practically free" unless you think a woman's time and energy are worthless. Cloth diapers are an *expensive* initial cost, AND time consuming, along with the cost of laundry. Where are you placing the kid while you're cleaning the diapers?

@frfrankpavone How did he have "no say"? Did he not have total control about where he ejaculated his sperm?

To the dad who wanted his baby but had no say — your grief is real. Your child was real. We see you. 💙 #ProLife #FathersForLife

@ixvesi @TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Or they don't have family who are willing or able to be unpaid childcare.

@TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Because these people move away from/cut off their families and communities so they have no alternate cost-effective or free childcare.

@TubelessTires @DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Because most parents don't want to try to live off welfare & charities, and almost none of us are rich enough to just live off our savings.

@DDrewseph @Mr_Husky1 Why cant daycare be eliminated?

@TubelessTires @Mr_Husky1 "Usually" is the key word here, what's your plan when you unexpectedly have a child with special needs who needs expensive formula or special clothes? What if your jobs can't accommodate schedules that could eliminate daycare? Unexpected stuff can be huge expenses.

@Mr_Husky1 I have 3 kids, ppl make it WAY more expensive than it needs to be, daycare and formula are huge expenses that can usually be eliminated. The rest of the stuff like clothes for the kid isnt a real expense. They dont need new Gucci onesies. hand me downs work

@avygal @BlaseNewYorkr @Mr_Husky1 Stuffing my face while losing weight was honestly one of the best things about breastfeeding, but yeah, it was expensive.

@BlaseNewYorkr @Mr_Husky1 I ate sooo much when nursing lol

@Mr_Husky1 All of that can fail, be impossible or simply aren't actually a cost savings. For example, quitting your job can mean a lifetime of lost income and you can't call used clothes and furniture a cost saving for families that wouldn't have bought new anyway.

@AB_RAYN26 A baby can't choose to be born or not, she is choosing to continue the pregnancy and birth the baby, the baby is unable to consent so she gets to speak for it until it's born.

Make it make sense

@2paumynn Also, since she's still pregnant, apparently she's choosing to have that baby.

me dan risa estás imágenes porque esto indirectamente implica que el bebé tendría también un derecho a elegir no nacer