Naletsana P. ✨

I just want to pin this ❤️🥹

@sibumabena Just realised that my mom has already done this and by the very few comments I’ve read it seems our parents have this file. So I’m hoping that we do this as young ones, as siblings we too need to have this conversation and files.

Guys… sorry for this very unsolicited advice but having recently lost my mom and now having to consolidate all of her affairs, (lucky for me, sis was quite organised but there are still some gaps we’re filling because we didn’t know), I have some tips for those who have a chance to try to get organised. If your parents are still alive, here’s what you can TRY to do (cos I know some of them are very untrusting about stuff and will think you’re trying to come for ilefa prematurely 🥺🫣) but honestly, the peace I’m yearning for right now will be worth the effort I’m advising you to employ. 1. Prepare a file that has the following: - Parents’ ID copies - Parents’ Marriage Certificate (even the one from the lobola meeting) - Parents’ Divorce Decree if divorced - All title deeds reflecting their names and car ownership papers - Municipal bills for the properties and logins to the e-portals for the municipal accounts (this is one of the most stressful things to sort out when the owner is no longer alive…YOH!) - Bank statements (you can locate debit orders) - Their pension fund administrators details - Any business registration certificates and shareholders certificates - Copies of all their latest policy schedules - If your parents trust you and you won’t scam them, A list of their logins to their email addresses - A list of their financial advisors and lawyers and doctors and their contact details - A list of their creditors and contact details - A list of their debtors and contact details - An asset registry with a list of all their assets - A list of their monthly bills (Dstv, telkom etc and the statements) 2. If this is at all possible, it will save a lot of headache - Have a meeting with your parents and your siblings to allocate roles and responsibilities in the event of death and record it (written usually or visually if they’re okay with that) - Write down what their wishes are for their send offs (where do they want to be buried, do they want cremation, singing on singing, which church must conduct etc etc and where the money for all this is coming from). Yea, they won’t be here to dictate to you (🫩) but, it will save you a lot of stress just doing what umufi asked for and everyone (especially the aunts and uncles) know it to be true 3. When your parent does pass away, have the following in the “deceased file” - Death certificate (and certified copies) - Hospital or Coroners report or notice of death - Updated ID with stamp saying Deceased - Burial notice - Undertaker Notice Lastly… get your parents to draft a will with a lawyer and nominate an executor whilst they are still alive 😭🥺😮‍💨 if you can invest in this, it will ease the administrative burden on you guys who have to take over when they are no longer alive. Losing a parent you are close to is one of the most painful things you’ll ever experience in your existence… help yourself by not having to be in pain and highly frustrated because things weren’t organised when you had the chance. * I know this is a very difficult subject to tackle at home…and it’s even more difficult to accept the reality of death… but if you do have the privilege of a good relationship with your parents, just try. For everyone else who doesn’t get to do this, I’m really sorry 🫂 I wish things could be better for you ❤️‍🩹 I hope this helps many people.

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My Momma put her cable bill in my name 😭

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oh umamam really goes above and beyond for me shame🥺

Julius Malema has made it into the White House 😂🤣🤣 I knew this would be theatre. I knew it!

Oh I’m disappointed 🙄 🧁

I am seeing more and more conversation taking place about the the threat the gambling industry is to our communities. So I am posting my conversation with Trevor about this issue again. Again, I urge you to listen to this, especially if you’re struggling with gambling. Trevor and I spoke about online sports betting. Some of you know I lost my brother to suicide because of his addiction to it. Without me knowing, Trevor stopped accepting betting companies as advertisers on his podcast. In this clip, he and Ryan (who’s off screen) make some very sharp points about how these companies operate and the sneaky, manipulative tricks they use to get people to spend all their money. After my brother took his life, his therapist called me and said of all addictions, gambling is the most likely to lead to suicide. It destroys families, lives and obliterates futures. I would like heavier and more regulation when it comes to sports betting when it comes to advertising, accessibility and sponsorship. People are not saving money, not paying school fees etc, because of gambling. The government is simply not doing enough to curb this pandemic. See the whole podcast on Spotify or YouTube, What Now? With Trevor Noah.

@naledi_mabee I hate how South African women tend to forget how often women have to be "nice" to men just to avoid things from escalating, and this was clearly one of those situations🤦🏽‍♀️

This caption will clearly be brought up every year… 😭😭😂

@These_tears @6uhle Watseba taba ya hore ke girl wa roundong makes me naar because hau girl why would you say that😂😂😂

@6uhle Lmao this caption reminds me of that chaotic day on Twitter 😂😂😭

People don't believe you my mommy most of the time. They get shocked and amazed. Some even think you download my pictures on the "internet" or l'm a model. Real truth is, you my mommy, my bff and my rock. You gave birth to a dynamite. God bless you and Happy Mothers Day ❤️

A list of the world's richest people ☺️🥰

In what homes😭😭😭 Beyonceeeee🔫🔫🔫🔫🔫🔫🔫

@Dima_MsD @motlatsi_n @LebogangRaphah2 Oh same, and because I use Woolies and Checkers ntse kese aware until now that you say this…

I am not gonna comment, just leaving people to seê for themselves what we have to put up with

They deliberately don't want to give qualified South Africans jobs they call it (internationalization) what the hell is that? 😭

@PhilMphela Those who are saying she probably had no skills, did her department make efforts to equip her with the relevant skills so that she can be ready to take over the post of management? Why are they starting now, probably after years, to equip her with relevant skills? They were wrong

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Aldrin was wrong klaar! Emotional intelligence & control was crucial in situations of this nature. Exercise restraint, calm and maturity. She being white got fokkol to do with anything. Let's not support abuse underpined by racial bias.