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You figure this out the hard way, usually. Not in a calm, notebook-at-a-cafe kind of way. More like standing in a kitchen at 23:58 with your heart in your throat thinking, why does talking to this person feel like emotional ping pong against a brick wall. For years you think “emotionally available” means they let you cry on their shoulder. They answer the phone. They listen. They say the right soothing sentences. They are there when you are falling apart. So you check those boxes and declare, yeah, this person is safe. Then real life starts to press. Something small at first. You say “hey, lately I’ve been feeling a bit distant from you.” And you watch their whole nervous system panic in real time. Micro eye roll. Jaw clenched. Suddenly they are joking, deflecting, turning it into a bit. Or they get weirdly angry, like you accused them of a crime. Or they shut down, eyes going flat, saying “I don’t know what you want from me” while their whole body leans away. You clock it as “they can’t handle my feelings.” What you’re actually watching is a person who can’t handle their own. Because your sentence didn’t just drop your emotion into the room. It woke up theirs. Guilt. Shame. Fear of failure. Fear of being the bad guy. Old stuff from childhood about never being enough, or always being blamed, or being yelled at when someone else was disappointed. All that rises like smoke, and instead of breathing it, they throw it back at you. Emotional availability is not about who brings the tissues when you cry. It is about what a person does when their own chest starts to burn. Take the classic “we need to talk” moment. You sit on the couch, heart pounding, rehearsing your lines. You’re not trying to attack. You’re trying to connect. You say something like “when you disappear for days without texting, I feel really anxious, like I don’t matter to you.” Now watch. If they are unavailable to themselves, they will sprint away from whatever comes up inside them. They will say “I’ve just been busy” in that tone that means drop it. They will bring up one time you were slow to answer as a counterattack. They will make a joke out of your fear so they don’t have to feel their own discomfort. They might even start crying in a way that swivels the spotlight around, so now you’re comforting them for being “such a terrible partner.” They are not actually with your feeling. They are fighting for their self-image. Because to sit with you in that moment, they would first have to let their own stuff hit. The guilt of knowing they did pull back. The shame of not being as attentive as they want to believe they are. The fear that they are failing you. The grief of realizing they may not know how to do better yet. That is a lot. If they have zero practice staying with their own emotions, they will do anything to dodge that hit. So they stonewall. They over-explain. They start a lecture. They shut down. And you walk away thinking, maybe I’m too sensitive. You’re not too sensitive. You are just bumping into someone who has a lifelong habit of abandoning themselves the second anything heavy shows up. Of course they abandon you too. It is the same reflex. There is a reason people who are emotionally available to themselves are usually not the smoothest talkers. They might stumble. They might say “I need a second, this is bringing up a lot.” They might go quiet and actually think. They might admit “hearing that makes me feel ashamed” and let that hang in the air. They might say “I want to stay with this even though part of me wants to run.” That right there is availability. Not perfect behavior. Not perfect regulation. Just the willingness to stay in the room with what they are feeling instead of throwing it on the floor or on you. You see the difference most clearly in conflict. Two people are fighting. Same argument as always. One says, “you never listen.” The other says, “you’re always criticizing me.”👇

I can't believe human were gifted a planet with full of trees, fruit, water, animals and sunshine and then they invented debt, capitalism and war

when ur aware ur doing bad in a game but ur hands can’t stop pressing buttons badly

being genetically bad at games is the worst shit ever cause you keep playing even though you know you never gonna be good

Miyamoto Musashi killed his first man at 13. Fought over 60 duels. Never lost a single one. Then at the peak of his power he walked away from fighting entirely and became a painter. A calligrapher. A philosopher. He wrote The Book of Five Rings in a cave weeks before he died. Its still one of the greatest strategy books ever written. 400 years later and people are still studying it. But heres the thing about Musashi that people get wrong. They think he was great because he was violent. He wasnt. He was great because he was obsessed with understanding. Every fight was a lesson. Every opponent was a teacher. He didnt fight to kill. He fought to learn. After 60 duels he had learned everything combat could teach him. So he moved on. Because mastery was never the destination. Mastery was the method. The destination was understanding. He said "Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love." What he meant was. Dont let any single emotion or desire own you. Be bigger than your impulses. Master yourself before you try to master anything else. Most people are slaves to their emotions and call it being authentic. Musashi would say thats just being weak and giving it a nice name. The path is discipline. The path is study. The path is relentless self improvement not because the world demands it but because you owe it to yourself. The sword was just the tool. The self was always the project.

does anyone have a cure to never ending soul crushing loneliness that isnt alcohol or drugs

This generation of parents are aggressively protective about screen time

Princeton researchers discovered that the human brain emits ultra-low-frequency electromagnetic waves that appear to form part of a global neural network. These signals can subtly influence other people’s brains from as far as 10,000KM away, raising the possibility that human consciousness is interconnected across the planet. This work adds to a growing body of research suggesting that our brains communicate not only through neurons but also through delicate electromagnetic fields. Some studies indicate that these fields may help shape empathy, intuition, and even the way groups synchronize their behavior. Experiments have also hinted that when one person meditates or focuses deeply, nearby or even distant individuals can show slight shifts in their brainwave patterns. The Princeton Engineering Anomalies Research (PEAR) Laboratory has conducted several experiments that show the mind has a subtle capacity to influence the output of devices known as Random Event Generators (REGs). A project that initially started when a student was curious to study the effects of the human mind and intention on the surrounding environment, turned into a rigorous testing lab where Dr. Robert Jahn and his lab assistant spent many hours experimenting to determine whether or not the mind has an effect on our physical world. Jahn and his assistant were able to determine that the human minds interactions with the machines demonstrated a relationship that was not physical in nature. The mind was able to affect and change outcomes of the machine in ways that were beyond standard deviations. In essence, consciousness was having an effect over the physical world. To determine the effects of the mind’s intention on the physical world, they built several machines called a random number generator. The machine would essentially mimic a coin flip and record the results over time. The machine performed 200 flips per second and produced an average mean of 100 as one would expect. Left unattended, the machine would continue to produce results that suggested a 50/50 chance of producing either heads or tails. The interesting results came when human intention started to interact with the machine. What was once a random 50/50 chance of producing heads or tails began to deviate from expectation as the observer began to intend for the numbers to be higher or lower. While the effects of the mind over the machines was not large, it was enough that contemporary physics is unable to explain what exactly is happening. Perhaps this is where the quantum world can shed light? The implications of this research on humanity are fascinating given it could reach into the realms of creating a world of peace, a thriving world and abundance. If intentions and thoughts can impact something the way it has been demonstrated above, why not explore the boundaries of how far this can go?

there is a game called "data center" on steam which let's you build and manage your own data center. this is lowkey genius, the best way to educate people on a new trait. hyperscalers should learn a thing or two from "edutainment".

Sorry, I love Alysa’s spirit and joy but this is getting stupid. No amount of “joy” in adulthood makes up for a lack of intense training when young, and no child prefers training to play. If she wasn’t forced when she was young, she would have lost to someone who was.

🚨 SAM ALTMAN: “People talk about how much energy it takes to train an AI model … But it also takes a lot of energy to train a human. It takes like 20 years of life and all of the food you eat during that time before you get smart.”