Devyani Saxena

@udayan_w Um backing out 2 days before joining sounds like a red flag. It maybe common in the industry though. If such instances were a record accessible to public, maybe peple would act differently.

This is a free market. People should take the best deal for themselves. Sometimes that is the higher offer. Sometimes it is the better role or better company. What surprises me is something else. In a market where most companies I know have cut dev hiring plans to nearly 1/3rd, someone still has multiple companies chasing them. That dev is a unicorn 🦄 Good on them for squeezing every bit of the CTC.

@SoraHikariii These are AI generated pictures. Observe the mirror and compare the mirror image of things infront of it

This is what slow living looks like... Warm light, clean lines, and a space that just feels right

My heart is so full reading this ❤️

Criticism improves performance

How is it that in the Indian public spaces, the one who is coughing is not wearing the mask. Almost every time.

Marriage in India: the bride and groom are just actors, and the parents are the directors. Indian marriages don’t collapse in one day. They collapse under pressure. And most of that pressure doesn’t come from the couple, it comes from parents. Before marriage, parents decide what you study, where you go, who you meet, how you live. You grow up being managed. Fine. You are a child then. But when you are 28, 30, educated, earning, capable, and about to marry, why are you still being managed? First they decide when you should marry. Then they decide who you should marry. Caste. Age. Salary. Background. Your readiness is irrelevant. Their timeline is the only thing that matters. Then comes the wedding. In India, The bride and groom are just actors, parents are the directors. Marriage is not about two adults choosing each other it is a family production - venue, budget, guest list, clothes, rituals, every small detail involamant. Okay. Marriage done. Now the real problem begins - For Indian parents, privacy as a concept does not exist! You don’t move out, you move into the same house. Two adults who just committed to each other are expected to behave like teenagers under supervision. If a son shows affection to his wife, parents insecurity starts - Wife ne control kar liya, Beta haath se nikal gaya etc.. Now emotional drama begins - I raised you, I sacrificed for you! Love becomes competition. This is where cracks start - A new couple needs space, they need time to build their own rhythm, their own habits, their own intimacy. Instead, they are negotiating ego, control and emotional blackmail. And the story still doesn’t end- Now comes the child pressure ‘Good news kab de rahe ho?’ As if reproduction is a public announcement. As if a baby is a trophy for grandparents. As if your body, your marriage, your intimacy is community property. Some even say, “Dadi marne se pehle pota dekhna chahti hai.” Think about the logic - you want two adults to bring a human into this world to fulfill someone else emotional closure. That is not love, that is entitlement- The root problem is simple Indian parents struggle to let go of control. They don’t see their children as independent adults, they see them as extensions of themselves. And when control continues after marriage, marriage becomes a battlefield. Involvement in everything - No privacy, suspicion of affection, pressure for children etc… Then we act surprised when marriages fail - Two people are trying to build a life. But ten people are sitting in the driver’s seat. Until we normalize boundaries, independence and privacy, the system will keep producing conflict. Not because people are evil. But because control has been normalized for generations!

Everyone likes to be around resourceful human Resourceful doesn’t mean money. It means adding value to life - be it with love, laughter, good food, knowledge, contributing to better living, care, many other things

Any situation - was it easy or difficult in many ways is a matter of preparedness or practice The answer differs person to person for the same situation

The number of times #google #chrome shows "relaunch to update" gets me thinking phirse? abhi kuch din pehle hi toh kiya tha

Allergic to free loaders

Emotions hide behind words example: Words of anger may not directly be the emotions of anger Many many times choice of words deviate from what one is feeling. It takes conscious effort to understand the emotion first and choose words basis it

As humans, don’t we keep going back to the people - with whom we laugh the most - with whom we dream ambitiously - with whom its a safe space emotionally

There is something prior to the ability of negotiation It is “willingness to negotiate” Higher the self belief that you deserve better in a situation, higher the willingness to negotiate, better your ability to negotiate

In every phase of life, easy or difficult, life has been about finding a routine and revolving around it. Just like how earth revolves around the sun. Routine is more universal than humane.

Not everything we feel strongly needs to be acted upon Especially with humans & emotions I observed that long lasting healthy relationships between people is based on (sharing time) + (letting go) Sometimes may not be in your favour sometimes it's okay - that's wisdom in power

Recollecting memories and old stories trigger human emotions LOUDER than the emotions which were felt in reality

@surbhiskjain Option 1. If you eat eggs, then omelette/boiled eggs and roasted namkeen Option 2. Protein powder shake and 50g roasted makhana

I have lunch at 1 pm and dinner around 7–7:30. But I’m always hungry at 4:30/5 pm. What’s a healthy, filling snack (not too heavy) that can carry me for 2–2.5 hours?

@readswithravi The Almanack of Naval Ravikant

What’s one book that’s worth rereading every year?

It is very easy to spot the bad things and rant It takes another level of intellect to identify the good in situations and channelise energy in controllable factors, despite existing conditions

Empty pages at the end of the book feel so good; to write observations and notes