Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)

Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)

@ElenaGCotulbea

Guiding to freeing attachment-aversion dynamics. Somatic pratices. Sharing what i learned, posts aren't mental advice. Find more about my work:

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
I'm publicly opening more available spots. I’ve been doing this work privately so far, and now I’m ready to welcome new people into the process Started something close to my heart which is guiding other women through emotional growth, self-awareness, and learning how to respond instead of react. As I like to call this "freeing from attachment-aversion dynamics" We will start with a couple of free sessions, at the end of which I would really appreciate your feedback and a short testimonial if you feel the process works for you or brings you any benefit. Of course, if it resonates and you feel supported by the process, we can continue the journey together. If interested, you can either dm me or directly book a session using the link in my profile. Also my cat says hi
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
Once you admit you are part of the problem, half the problem is already solved. You have the chance to become less reactive (to stop fighting reality or clinging to an imaginary reality). And when you’re less reactive, you suddenly have more space for curiosity. That’s when the adventure spirit takes over. You start trying things without obsessing over looking silly or protecting your ego. Growth through discomfort is, of course, powerful because it breaks illusions and forces adaptation, particularly when you're young and have your first life-crisis. But if we only grow through pain, life becomes a constant cycle of crisis-response. We improve, but through friction and exhaustion. I'm not saying that type of growth it's not life changing, it's just more mentally and emotionally expensive than curiosity-based growth. I know most of us are not used to this kind of growth, and sometimes we might even think it's not efficient at all or it might feel as a blasphemy to our old ''self' who used to struggle a lot in order to achieve great things. However, IT IS possible and it sustains itself better over time because it doesn’t depend on suffering to create movement.
blue@bluewmist

i regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and almost always from: • getting humiliated • showing up terrified and doing it anyway • admitting you might be the problem

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
I like this pov as well Some spend their 20s building a life, while others spend them first trying to build themselves But a late bloom is still a bloom
nomadgeist@nomadgeist

If you felt any kind of peak or golden era in your 20s it means you likely had a solid upbringing, psychologically stable parents etc and that’s mostly luck of the draw. Real childhood trauma mfers often have a challenging or lacklustre 20s, and usually don’t hit stride until 28+

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“paula”
“paula”@paularambles·
when you tell them you’re romanian and they make a vampire joke instead of a wallet stealing joke 😌
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
I’ve already experienced this in my 20s, and it’s been a wild rollercoaster. The sooner you become aware of the complexity of this relationship, the earlier it hits you. The relationship with our parents will almost always remain a soft spot for most of us, unless you were lucky enough to grow up with two emotionally mature parents. A kind of understanding can develop without necessarily having acceptance or forgiveness. But one thing that I can tell you for sure is that the less reactive you are around the subject, the less you will be affected by it in the future.
Subhakeerthana@bhakisundar

Your 30s do something devastating to you. They make you forgive your parents. Not because you suddenly forget what hurt. Not because the difficult memories dissolve or the complicated feelings untangle themselves neatly. 1/n

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
Just having a conversation with a friend right now Why does returning a lost wallet when nobody could ever know say something different than returning it while being watched? How much of us being good persons lays in someone else acknowledging that?
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
For most of history, reinvention was forced by catastrophe more than personal choice. So 'starting over' became associated with failure instead of being seen as a normal human condition.
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea

We’re about to see entire generations forced to 'start over' multiple times. As AI is slowly detaching identity from jobs, status, or the stable paths people built their meaning around, the future may belong less to people who 'made it' once and more to people who can reinvent themselves without losing who they are. Terrifying, because certainty disappears. Beautiful, because people may finally stop being trapped inside one version of themselves for life.

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
We’re about to see entire generations forced to 'start over' multiple times. As AI is slowly detaching identity from jobs, status, or the stable paths people built their meaning around, the future may belong less to people who 'made it' once and more to people who can reinvent themselves without losing who they are. Terrifying, because certainty disappears. Beautiful, because people may finally stop being trapped inside one version of themselves for life.
scar@imfat

Can a 29-year-old start all over again?

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cookie🍪@cookiecarver·
uhh guys just found out the tai chi girl i had a thing with will be at the week long tai chi retreat next week... i'm supposed to focus on tai chi?? this is so messed up... what do i do now??
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
We all operate with partial knowledge most of the time. The difference is whether we stay aware of the limits of what we know.
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
It's amazing how many of us are just saying things without actually knowing what we're talking about. The tragedy? Nobody fully escapes this.
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
The modern brain lives in conditions that traditional meditation systems never evolved for. Ancient meditation trained humans for inner silence. Modern meditation may first need to train humans to tolerate silence again.
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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
A lot of us grow up learning that emotional openness is dangerous unless it’s perfectly controlled or useful to others. Sensitivity is seen as exposure rather than connection, like something that can be used against us. Then later we wonder why intimacy feels so difficult or performative. I can see why men might struggle more with this. The essay is interesting! I was lately thinking about writing something similar, but emphasizing the parent-child dynamic.
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Daemonic 🤑@daemonhugger·
This reminds me that I spent several weeks writing an essay series about sensitivity and my relationship to that label just before covid, the confusing ways in which it can be considered both a virtue and a weakness, how it relates to masculinity, how it shows up in relationships, etc. Even what “being true to oneself” has so much to do with our capacity for sensitivity!
Daemonic 🤑@daemonhugger

What does it mean to be "sensitive"? And how can it help us lead richer, more fulfilling lives?

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
Lately I had many discussions on this topic and it seems that lots of people are afraid of being 'sensitive' around (the irony) their inner circle. Being true to yourself might reveal that: 1) overthinking the situation was a waste of time/energy 2) the relationship dynamic was built around an old version of you that stayed filtered, agreeable, emotionally armored. Some people adapt well to the change, others get uncomfortable. 3) you're surrounded by a bunch of shitty people
fried rice enthusiast@talnottowel

when they find out you’re sensitive they will kill you

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Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)
Elena Cot (Now guiding on Reactivity)@ElenaGCotulbea·
I think that's why mediation doesn't work for everyone. It's too vague and it seems inaccesible. Plus the results appear too slowly. What I'd recommend is getting practical with it. Instead of 'get into pigeon pose and transcend your ego', it becomes 'notice the tightening in your chest/stomach when you get angry. Stay with it for 20 seconds without constructing a story around the sensation'. Once people see the progress for themselves from day to day, they're more willing to continue the process as trust is building up.
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gabrielle@legitimatetiger·
don’t know where i read that some people will fail at nervous system regulation because their brainstem is taking orders from a locked and guarded pelvis, but i haven’t been able to stop thinking about it ever since. it’s just so goddamn true
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