EndingWell

My essay "Being Ending Well" is featured in this edition of Natural Transitions Magazine "The New Death Cafe Professionals" endingwell.wordpress.com/2018/01/25/end…

6 things I am doing to help build death informed communities endingwell.wordpress.com/2019/09/11/6-t…

This Winter I got to talk about Green Burial on VPR endingwell.wordpress.com/2019/06/15/thi…

Quality > Quantity

I always enjoy speaking with Ken Picard of @sevendaysvt This time it was about human composting (a la @recomposelife) and its possible future in Vermont. Glad to see @GreenBurialVT get mentioned too. sevendaysvt.com/vermont/wtf-wh…

@recomposelife people in VT are starting to ask why *they* can’t be composted (most already compost food and livestock). 70% of Vermonters choose cremation, for there to be this much interest in what you’re offering suggests you have a movement on your hands!

@thedeathtivals It’s an interesting intersection of death phobia and xenophobia.... because clearly people on the other side of world can’t have “better” after death practices than us...

One Sun reader commented that the people of Tana Toraja who interact with their dead “need to be wiped out”. Imagine having such intense death anxiety that the idea of someone on the other side of the world preserving the corpse of a loved one ➡️ advocating genocide

New Legislation Seeks To Protect Lost African-American Burial Grounds forbes.com/sites/davidand…

Retweeting this. Looking for resources on non-death-related disenfranchised grief. i.e. after someone is incarcerated, experiencing a sudden traumatic injury... suggestion very much needed and very much appreciated #grief

@thedeathtivals This is an incredibly disrespectful headline

They’re really not rotting. They use a chemical solution to preserve them. It’s more of a drying out. thesun.co.uk/news/worldnews…

@thedeathdeck @griefcreativity @kimacquaviva @TNK_FILM Doesn’t it? I can’t believe I haven’t heard more about it!

Hey my #grief and #bereavement specialists I’m crowd sourcing for resources on non-death related, #disenfranchisedgrief (think incarceration, addiction, mental and traumatic illness/disability). Any help most appreciated- please share widely.

@thedeathtivals When my two best friends died just before college graduation and our speaker was all like “the world is yours, you can be anything!” I did mutter to myself “yea, and one of those things is DEAD” so it’s not like I’m not bitter about it sometimes.

@thedeathtivals I honestly never thought otherwise... I took my first steps at my great-grandmother’s funeral, not that I remember that but I don’t remember a time I don’t remember the story. So Dying was always just something people did but...(see next tweet)

How did you find out that everybody dies? I’m writing about how my dad broke the news to me, with all the tact of a rhinoceros crapping on a drum.

@griefcreativity @thedeathdeck This is new to me, thank you!

When circumstances change, can you say to yourself “now I am here” and embrace it? This question is central to values-based, quality-of-life framework I help my clients develop in my planning and doula work

@baldgrrl @CBC @cbcwhitecoat @ElizabethLesser @phyllis_shacter Also the documentaries “Dying Wish” about Dr. Michael Miller and “Tomorrow Never Knows” about Shar Jones as well as this incredible podcast by @rumblestripvt rumblestripvermont.com/2016/06/last-c… And here is the CBC link: cbc.ca/listen/shows/w…

@baldgrrl Definitely assisted dying and disenfranchised grief also deserve major study. The @CBC show @cbcwhitecoat did a great show with families after assisted dying and there are some good memoirs @ElizabethLesser “Marrow” and @phyllis_Shacter “Choosing to Die” (see next tweet for more)

The most useful thing I’ve leaned re: talking about death with a child is to let them explain to you what they understand first- that gives you the framework to navigate the conversation. That and remember even older children may lack the vocab to express what they feel&need