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Don't get into a War With Reality:
Every person reading this has things happening in their life they don't like. A relationship that feels off. A change at work. A project that's off the rails. Something that feels harder than it should be. Health issues. Marriage tension. Parenting fears and doubts. Something. And because they don't like it, they fight it. They're angry with it. They resist it and argue with it. They put energy into wishing it was different than it is. They see reality but they're at war with it.
Being at War With Reality is wasted energy. It won't change reality or improve what you're at war with. And it never will. All it does is drain your energy and skill to respond well to a reality you don't like. The only way start improving it is to stop being at war with it.
The disciplined response to an unpleasant reality is acceptance. Not giving up. Not emotionally detaching. Not lowering you standard. Disciplined Acceptance: Freeing yourself from being at war with reality so you can instead focus all your effort on responding to it with purpose and skill. No more fighting the fact that it's happening. The event is real. You can't un-ring the bell. Fighting reality is like standing in the rain arguing that it shouldn't be raining. But it is raining. And now you're angry, distracted, and wet.
When something doesn't go your way, and it will happen every week, accept it fast, accept it completely. Don't waste energy fighting reality. You've lost that fight every time. Stop getting into it. Instead, put your effort and energy into responding with courage, discipline, and resilience. Don't blame and complain about what should have been. Accept the reality that is, because it's the only one you have, and get better from it. That's Disciplined Acceptance. It's a high standard. You don't do it because it's easy. You do it because it's necessary.
End the War With Reality.
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