Hannah Manderino

Mutual submission in marriage is clearly a good, given that the verse right before “wives submit to your husbands” is “submit to one another” Paul’s three commands in Ephesians 5 can only be understood as a unified whole One reason “complimentarian” Protestants miss mutual submission is because they don’t think Christ submits to the Church in any way (he does, Mt 16:19) Of course none of this matters because all gender discourse on here inevitably devolves into petty gender resentment and intrasex posturing (I’m more masculine/feminine than you)

I feel like right after I go grocery shopping for a couple weeks’ meals, we eat like KINGS. The few days before a grocery trip, we might not be peasants, but we don’t have good snacks, all we have are ingredients. Does anyone else deal with this? Any advice to avoid it? (To some extent, I try to make things last, but when one kid wants an applesauce they all want one and what am I supposed to say? Yes to one kid and no to the others?)

I’m going to a baby shower.. is it okay to get a gift for the mom/parents instead of a direct gift for the baby?

Single sis, I pray God sends you a safe and steady man who adores you and calls you “baby”.

When I got married my mom told me I was not allowed to ever complain about my husband or in-laws to her. That was probably one of the greatest gifts she ever gave me because it made me think if I shouldn't complain about these people to my own mom, maybe I shouldn't complain about them at all. She did this because she honored her own husband and his mother so much and wanted the same for me. A girl's mom can often feed and nurture discontent in her daughter simply by being a listening ear. When my MIL lay dying of cancer, I told her what my mom had said. I was also able to tell her that she didn't say it because she knew my in-laws and that I would have lots to complain about that she didn't want to hear. It was because she knew me and if I didn't have real things to complain about I could probably find some. I told my MIL that the truth was, she never gave me anything to complain about. She really was the best I could ask for. I've read some of the horror stories about MILs, especially after the birth of a grandchild, this week on X and I know they are real and cause for great hurt and I know how fortunate I was not to have had experienced that. But if I could encourage you ladies in any way, it would be this: To moms of daughters: give your daughter the gift of honoring your own MIL to the best of your ability. Even if it means turning a blind eye and quietly forgiving hurts. What you model for her could make or break her own future relationships. Once she is married, don't be an ear to her complaints, even if it makes you feel like her bff when she does. To the DILs: one of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is to love his family well. This may be the hardest thing you will ever be called to do. It may involve dying to self in ways your own marriage never demanded. But it will also give your husband incredible collateral to defend and protect you when boundaries do need to be set. To the MILs: don't be a selfish hag. Seriously, the bar is so low nowadays. Just the most common, decent kindness and respect will go a long way. Pics are me with my MIL and then both moms together. I miss them equally much.