@moderateohioan @CartoonsHateHer I'm joking about 60% here. It really does seem like a crazy bad deal for the guy when you lay it out though.
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John Long
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@moderateohioan @CartoonsHateHer I can kind of see where the red pillers come from sometimes.
"I want you to work to support me while I don't contribute financially. But I feel that's risky so I also want a contract in place so you'll have to pay me further in case it goes wrong"
What a deal! How could we refuse
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Again feel the need to point out that nobody wants to work. When I told my husband I wanted to stop working he said “guess what me too”
Alice Evans@_alice_evans
The BBC highlights Sweden's 'soft girl trend', whereby an influencer celebrates her lifestyle, staying at home, supported by her partner. But this is terrible reporting. Social media IS NOT reality. The BBC omits that FLFP is high & rising While many people live alone.
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@cornE_cob @TelseeJanelle @SWENGDAD @Esyechka All I'm saying is ghosting is not "lessening the blow" It's more likely to enrage someone and have them reach out looking for closure.
Do whatever keeps you safe, but this is not where ghosting came from. It's a generational change from a generation who are socialised differently
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@TelseeJanelle @JohnLongSl @SWENGDAD @Esyechka Literally lol. A totally sweet dude who I liked but couldn’t get myself to like him deeply in THAT way saw a post about my grandfather doing and dm’ed me saying I was such a worthless cunt and should be hurt. That has happened so many times. And I’m a VERY kind ‘rejector.’ I give
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@DEATHBYDATA @Dee_Ni_ Yeah driving to strangers houses at night is dangerous. So someone might be worried about what happened to the woman who was supposedly delivering the food. Therefore they'll report it.
There's so many ways just hoping people ignore that is a very short term employment plan.
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It’s way more dangerous to be the delivery person therefore we should *checks notes* not report it when an entirely different male shows up with food that was supposed to be delivered by a woman?
Allergic to thinking
been supe@been_supe
I love the QRTs acting like sitting in your comfy home waiting for your burrito taxi to arrive is magnitudes more dangerous than driving to strange houses at night by yourself delivering burritos. Like get fuckin real people. It’s a luxury to have food delivered to your house.
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@JamesBalliol I try not to judge the older (than me) ones too much who seem to really look forward to it. I think for people with kids etc. it's just a fairly rare legitimate excuse for a proper night out. They don't have to negotiate whether they can go out, as it's work related.
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@itsbighonkin The company made it visible to customers in part as a safety feature, to make it seem safer, so more people would use their product.
Yes it's different from your local pizza place (although the pizza place does know who's delivering if something goes wrong), but that's by design.
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Someone’s name and photo are on the delivery app 1. So the company can pay them and 2. So you can recognize them if they have trouble finding you it’s not on there for you to analyze whether or not they’re safe enough to walk up to your door, that is cop behavior
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We used to order delivery from our local pizza shop and they’d send Some Guy to deliver it and we had no knowledge of who they were and we’d meet them at the front door with cash in hand so I don’t think we need to demand a surveillance state under the guise of security
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@TelseeJanelle @SWENGDAD @Esyechka That's not why people ghost. It's because they're socially anxious and avoid awkward discussion. Otherwise young men wouldn't do it too. It's a generational thing, not gender.
Also, as you can see from above, people don't like being ghosted. So you're not scared of annoying them
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@SWENGDAD @Esyechka You’re making good points, but this is extremely stupid. “Murder” isn’t the only bad thing that an unstable or angry man can do, Norm. Car crashes are common and that’s why we wear seatbelts and have airbags. Violence from men is also common, and that’s why we ghost. Suck it up.
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@robpalkwriter I'm convinced widespread takeaway delivery is new to Americans.
Similarly I don't think many of them were overly familiar with the concept of taxis before Uber came along.
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@MeganBitchell The wisdom of getting older is learning that the people who go to sex parties look surprisingly differently to the people you would imagine in your head when you hear the words "sex party".
If you're reading this and you go to sex parties, yes, I'm sorry that was uncomplimentary
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I’m learning adulthood is about finding out your friends go to sex parties
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@bfryereplyguy @hannoodless @sandhimafia @AngelaMaiste @rosyyae @mrybae @psychichusk No I'm not, why? The company they work for has safety features in place and wants people background checked and using their actual identity. This makes some customers feel safer. It's not harassing anyone if a woman alerts them to this system being abused by someone.
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@JohnLongSl @hannoodless @sandhimafia @AngelaMaiste @rosyyae @mrybae @psychichusk Are you stupid? My point is that people obviously want the service and to stop harassing people providing them a luxury. We had delivery long before DoorDash accounts and profile pictures.
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@Spookommi @hey_deej @doyouknowx @wantondrunkslut @steviesmother Cool. Neither could I. Some people do though and that's pretty reasonable. Also some apps have photos so you don't need to imagine.
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@JohnLongSl @hey_deej @doyouknowx @wantondrunkslut @steviesmother I litteraly couldn't give 2 shits whether my delivery driver doesn't look how I imagined based on the name.
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here’s what I don’t understand… you don’t get to choose your doordash driver?? and in my experience it’s usually men? do you guys just quake with terror when you see a man’s name on the app until he drops off your chicken tendies
p.@sixinchbeys
and that explains specifically posing as a woman?
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@CartoonsHateHer It's an interesting thing where social media has had a negative impact on writing. I've noticed it over the last 5 years especially. Writers feel the need to pre-empt all the insane people online because they know what happens if they don't.
We need to go back to ignoring them
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First off, thank you! But also I regret disclaiming sooo heavily. I did that because in the past women have accused me of not caring about sexual violence (a pretty horrific accusation) whenever I write about men’s issues
Dark Souls Capra Demon But With A Huge Visible Hog@atlas_sugged
The most disturbing thing about this very good essay is the amount of disclaiming the author has to do in order to massage her audience into the idea that showing male CHILDREN a modicum of empathy isn’t somehow oppressive to women.
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@gothamshitty @wantondrunkslut That is almost any service. You're describing the majority of the economy.
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@wantondrunkslut It’s not a pejorative. It’s a way of highlighting that this service is a luxury because you pay a premium to offset labor to someone else. Additionally the user has considerable power over the driver because they determine their payout (tip) and can get them fired.
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this trend of wokely calling service industry workers “servants” is definitely revealing of your own liberal middle class values
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@higginsdavidw No you haven't. You've raised the bar to a fairly minimal acceptable level as far as most of the country is concerned.
And most will think it's OK to advocate for that position even if you were an employee of a questionable Software company 7+ years ago.
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Total non story if it was a TD for the main government parties.
But if your party tried to delay the election just to pass the Occupied Territories Bill, you've raised the purity bar to the max.
The Irish Daily Mail@irishdailymail
Just days after an impressive #GE2024 showing, the Social Democrats have some serious questions to answer...
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@bfryereplyguy @hannoodless @sandhimafia @AngelaMaiste @rosyyae @mrybae @psychichusk Did takeaway food delivery not exist in America until recently or something?
But anyway by your logic, if everyone did that the driver would be out of work. I thought the priority was keeping him in work.
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@hannoodless @sandhimafia @AngelaMaiste @rosyyae @mrybae @psychichusk Accountability for giving your burrito a private taxi to your door? Why don’t you pick it up yourself if having it chauffeured is so harrowing
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@YCLProductions @yesisd_ @Rothmus It would be pretty weird for an 18/19 year old to ask someone they just met in a club for ID.
This is pretty common sense, and why this stuff has always been understood as having the potential to be messy.
And I don't think anyone suggested a recurring issue.
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@yesisd_ @Rothmus The point of the matter is, if this is a recurring issue, it is on the adult in the situation to check the person they are bringing home for sex’s ID. That’s the point. It’s actually incredibly normal. Just because you’re desperate and don’t care doesn’t make duediligence weird.
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@offbeatorbit Usually news organisations don't focus too much on the motivations of people who commit violent acts as it would be seen as irresponsible/giving them what they wanted.
Think of terrorist attacks/shootings. They'll refer to the motive but they usually don't make it the focus.
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This is very elementary to me? I don’t like violence, at all. I’m probably a pacifist to a fault. But I don’t see the point in ignoring the reasons why someone might commit a violent act even if I don’t agree with it.
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We don’t know the motivation yet, but acknowledging why someone might hypothetically want to assassinate the head of a multi billion dollar health insurance company in a country where insurance companies bleed its citizens dry isn’t the same as supporting the murder of CEOs.
wackypete 🇨🇦🎀🪬☀️💊@p1huycke
@nazzobetweeting I agree with YOU (in that the message shouldn't be violent crime), but I don't agree with HER (that the message should be about how insurance companies are bad), because she's kinda supporting the murder of CEOs which is NOT GREAT IMO (as an anti-murder person lol)
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@undertheeyebags That's because she's basically described a "job". People who are casually edgy calling these people servants/slaves are giving away a lot about their own views on these people.
Normal people see them as someone doing a job. Which they are.
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I agree with most of the actual facts of the statement, but reducing all service jobs to be a literal servant is watering down the implications
Lauren@gothamshitty
@undertheeyebags Delivery services are a luxury and a convenience for which one pays a premium. The user is offsetting labor (acquiring, driving, delivering) to someone else. And that gig worker’s payday is very much dependent on the generosity of the tip.
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