@akatsuki3126@TaraBull808@MadewithSteel99 I'm really wondering how you got to this conclusion, because she never once stated whether she's okay with the song or not.
@marycatedelvey Didn't they try transplanting wombs before, and the guys died horrific deaths because their bodies rejected it hard? Sounds like nature gave a pretty clear answer.
@RealDianeYap This conversation seems redundant once you understand that all healthy humans, whether they're male or female, do in fact date their "looksmatch"
Women cannot force themselves to be attracted to men — not any more than a straight man can force himself to want sex with a man.
So stop telling women to lower their standards and date their “looksmatch” — it’s exactly like telling men to just like having sex with men.
found an old diary entry of mine
"I find relationships fun, but they are beginning to dip into my work and lower my efficiency, which is unacceptable"
i was 13,
Funnily enough, this is exactly what I think happened to me. You just learn to get that easy high from following instructions, but there comes a time in life when you have to take the lead and do what you want to do. Essentially, you have to grow up and be an adult, and adults are responsible for creating their own rewards. It's like learned helplessness in a way. You know you'll get rewarded by an outside source, but after high school or university that outside source suddenly disappears and you no longer know how to get that high.
I wonder if “gifted kid burnout” is just: You learn to navigate by the reward signal of achievement (easy, ppl tell you how to get it) so you never develop the more subtle ability to navigate by what interests you. Then when achievement gets sparse, you feel aimless & unmotivated
My emotions always seem to run at 100% or 0%. The biggest hindrance here is that my emotional experience left me with an all-or-nothing attitude, when life is truly, consistently in the gray. What helped me was this simple exercise: whenever I felt like I started to spiral, I'd simply just sit with the emotion instead of acting on my feelings. I just waited and analyzed in excruciating depth: "Why am I feeling this?" I soon realized that 90% of the time, I was making a bigger fuss out of the situation than required.
What also helps is just getting out of your head and doing something...anything! Give yourself grace to experience life as it is, with no expectations. Feel like drawing? Draw! Wanna dance? Dance the night away! Through trial and error, you'll see what works and what doesn't.
Question for anyone who made an active effort to regulate their (very dysregulated) nervous system over a long period of time and was successful:
Looking back, what’s something you did or didn’t do that slowed down or hindered your progress to regulate?
Sometimes, you just have to over-correct yourself, as others are so far below your intellectual capacity that they simply can't understand you, and they never will, no matter how hard they try. This might sound condescending, but as someone who does have a high IQ, I find that people who are significantly below me just cannot understand my thoughts and feelings, as they're just too complex for them. Meanwhile, I find their own struggles too simple, and I wonder why they can't do the obvious five tasks to solve their issues. Then I remember: they just can't do it! It's like asking a seal to ride a horse or climb a ladder, it's just not possible.
be less worried about being misunderstood, and more focused on saying what you actually think and feel. the paradox of over-correcting for approval/legibility is that trying too hard to make sense dilutes the message and forces the other person to work harder to understand you.
It's because Hitler is Satan to the majority of the people currently alive. Nearly everyone on the left side of politics sees him as one, while I'd say that everyone on the right (except the far-right) views him as evil. Meanwhile, Christianity is dying and thus Satan isn't something most people really fear. How many actually practising Christians are there? That's all there is to it, really.
People are scared of experimenting, which is a fundamental part of life. You never have all the answers to everything because you simply cannot see the future. Life is just like that, so it's better to embrace it. But it's understandable why the majority feels like this, as it's a basic human fear: fear of the unknown.
Most people are looking for a "green light."
They buy books, watch videos, and procrastinate in endless learning....
- just looking for something that will make them feel assured enough to leap.
In Truth: You are the "green light."
Just Go.
I genuinely don't think I'd lead a much different life than I'm leading right now. I'm blessed enough to be able to travel where I want on occasions, and I'm also able to afford everything I need to live a decent life. I'm not scared of being hungry or without a roof over my head. Everything else is kind of extra anyway.
@CallMeOuta Most people seem to only understand violence, which is a truly sad state to be in. If you're a potential threat to them because of your status, influence, etc., they're likelier to change their mind.
I think it's the fact that people are brainwashed by society into thinking that love is sex, when it truly isn't. Pair that with a thorough destruction of traditional values and institutions, and you've got a huge mess. We're a generation where people naturally want to experience love, it's human biology, but we don't truly believe in it or know how to spot it. Not to mention that most chase sex and only that, with no commitment whatsoever. The tragic part is that a great portion of these people think it'll somehow become love. I'm sorry, but treating your partner as an object means they're not even a person to you.
What the fuck are the kids doing with this "situationship" bullshit? Literally just tell them "we're just fucking" or "I wanna date you" and if they disagree, move the fuck on. Why is this so hard for you guys?