Multiparty Youth Forum

There’s been an attempt to label me an abuser and an irresponsible father. On being accused of being an abuser:
I normally choose silence, but there are narratives that must be corrected. So allow me say this; I am part of the unreported statistics of men who experience domestic violence from partners with uncontrolled anger issues. But because ‘we are men in a corporate world,’ we stay silent, show up every day. I restrained myself immensely despite all provocations and assaults. But society will, of course, believe the female gender. I have evidence of myself bleeding after being assaulted. All my closest friends, family know this. On being accused of being an irresponsible father:
Despite having only seen my children ONCE in the last ten months, I have never stopped sending money monthly, a figure that wasn’t decided by me, but by my accuser. There is evidence of this: messages saying “thank you” and receipts of the transactions. I have gone to court, fought, and been granted custody of my children, custody that authorities deliberately failed to enforce (that is a story for another day). Custody was granted on grounds of desertion: the mother had deserted them in a locked apartment with a maid while she was traveling overseas. Since January, I have been denied access to my children, despite numerous requests to seem and third parties intervening. To men: speak up against violence from your wives when you still have the chance. I suffered in silence for too long. It didn’t help. This is the last time I am addressing this issue, please give me space to heal.