Tashi J | Natural Alignment

I disappeared into mom mode, so fully that I couldn’t remember what lit me up. So I started small: 5 minutes alone with my journal and coffee. No phone. Just feeling. A flicker returned. Then another. Reclaiming identity is a slow, sacred remembering.

What is true for you is true for your country. You can't give what you don't have: 1. Not as an individual 2. Not as a family 3. Not as a community 4. Not as a state 5. Not as a country The emptiness just scales.

@LeArielleSimone This is exactly what I teach. Structure isn't the opposite of freedom. It's what makes freedom possible. My calmest seasons as a mom have always been the most structured ones.

any time i ask my clients when they felt the best and what was the most consistent thing, they always say structure. they were on a schedule with classes, work, or hobbies. everything comes back to time and our relationship to it.

@frequency__444 Every time I've stepped into something real, the resistance got louder. Not because I was wrong. Because growth makes the old patterns fight harder to keep you where you were.

Light exposes the darkness and the darkness will always try to extinguish the light. The real meaning behind "left behind" is those who are not elevating their consciousness will not rise into the new earth. Essentially being left behind. Level up or get left. Those who are elevating can no longer afford to entertain those who seek to only take, use, abuse, and destroy without consideration for the negative impact they have on others. Don't let anybody extinguish your light. It's hard to let go of loved ones, but it's harder to hold on when they only bring pain and chaos. God will not bring you beautiful new experiences if you're clinging to what is no longer serving your highest good. You have to make space for the new. Now is the time to release.

@frequency__444 The season I lost the most people was the season I finally stopped betraying myself. Walking alone isn't the hard part. The hard part is trusting that the right ones will find you there.

Walking alone does not mean weakness. It's in fact quite the opposite. When you have the strength to stand alone unwavering against entire systems. Not only that but gutting those systems from the inside out, you're one of the strongest individuals walking the planet. Be proud if that's you. Not many are brave enough to face the bullies of the world.

@ruthblooming I said this for two years about building something online. Didn't know how. Started anyway. The how showed up after I moved, never before.

“I don’t know how.” Is not the end of the path. If it matters to your journey, You’ll find a way to learn it.

@ruthblooming This is the part that surprised me most about my own growth. I kept looking for a big moment. Turns out it was just finally seeing what had been true all along.

Sometimes the shift is simply recognizing what’s already there.

@Ryan_Daigler The covert ones are the hardest because they look like the safest people in the room. You don't question them until one day you realize you've been explaining yourself for years to someone who was never confused.

Covert narcissists can be difficult to see through if you’ve never been abused directly by one before. And even then, it can be hard to believe. They work obsessively to create a false public image of innocence or even of being an activist of positively regarded functions. Only privately do certain people see their true intent, the callousness, selfishness, recklessness, negligence, often sadistic, carefully selective abuse these individuals commit discreetly or on a one-to-one basis. It thrills them to know they’ve procured such a solid public image of being innocent or trustworthy, that they can be blatantly abusive in private, knowing that their victim will only look crazy or dishonest if they try to expose the covert narcissist for what they really are.

@Ryan_Daigler The shame is the tell. When someone makes you feel wrong for having a boundary, that's not conviction. That's control wearing a different outfit.

I always know I’m dealing with a narcissist when they’re trying to shame me for doing nothing wrong.

@Ryan_Daigler The rage made me feel broken until I realized it was the first honest emotion I'd had in years. Everything before it was performance. The anger was my body finally telling the truth.

Survivors of narcissistic abuse often carry a level of anger or rage for what their abusers did to them that feels overwhelming, explosive, and incredibly painful to carry and contain and it can feel like that anger and that pain will never go away. But this anger is actually a deeply healthy and intelligent response to being chronically violated and is part of the healing process. Narcissists attack a person’s dignity, safety, identity, and stability for years. They steal reality, twist intention, and dismantle a survivor’s sense of self. Anger shows up because the body finally recognizes, “What happened to me was a severe violation of my humanity.” Processing this anger isn’t about suppressing it or “forgiving” the abuser—it’s about giving yourself the justice, validation, and internal protection you never received. 🧵

i lived in two realities at the same time and couldn't explain either one. one felt safe. familiar. small. the other felt true. and terrifying. i held onto the small one until my body wouldn't let me anymore.

I kept telling myself parenting is hard. Over and over. And the more I said it, the heavier it got. So I changed one word. Hard to fun. It's still hard. But now I catch the moments I was missing when all I could see was the weight.

The reframe that changed everything: what if this isn't happening TO me? What if it's happening FOR me? Not in a toxic positivity way. In a "what can I learn here" way. It doesn't make it easier. It makes it useful.

What I don't change, I'm choosing. That hit different as a mom. Not because I don't care. Because holding the line when your kid is screaming and your nervous system is begging you to just give in. That's the real work.

@boldlyemilyv My toddler isn't in sports yet but I already know I'm going to be that mom on the sideline losing it over a soccer goal. Motherhood unlocks a level of pride you didn't know you had.

One thing that gets your blood going is watching your own kids play sports. I love being a sports mom. It’s tiresome and takes commitment, but dang, it’s exhilarating. Go, baby, go!

@Ryan_Daigler This is the part people don't want to say out loud. The abuse doesn't just damage. It corners people into believing there's no way out. Naming it matters.

I’ve personally known of a number of cases of suicide, and in every single one of those cases the victim had abusive family members. Sometimes it’s very covert but there was always persistent abuse involved. It feels more like murder when you know what was really going on.

@Ryan_Daigler The moment you react, you become the problem in the story they already wrote about you. Learning to pause instead of perform was the beginning of freedom.

Narcissists deliberately push your buttons to provoke an emotional reaction, then use that reaction as "proof" that you’re the problem. Often called “reactive abuse”, although this isn’t abuse on the victim’s part—it’s a manipulation tactic used by abusers to frame the victim’s reaction as abusive. The real abuse is in how the narcissist provokes, escalates, and then weaponizes the victim’s emotional response.

@ruthblooming I carried this one for years. Called it strength. It wasn't. It was just refusing to trust anyone else with the weight.

Old belief: I should be able to do it all. ​New belief: Wise limits create sustainable momentum.

We have zero expectation that our kids will be perfect. So why are we modeling perfection for them? They don't need a flawless mom. They need one who shows them how to be human, make mistakes, and be kind to herself anyway.

@boldlyemilyv This reframed so much for me. The seasons that felt like loss were actually the ones where I stopped performing faith and started living it.

God will put your happiness on the back burner to gain more of your heart. I know. That sounds harsh at first. But sit with it because what if the season that feels like God forgot you is actually the season He is most focused on you. Not on your calling. Not on your mission. Not on the thing you have been building and believing for. On you. open.substack.com/pub/emilyvermi…

@boldlyemilyv Most of the moves I'm proudest of started with zero clarity and one next step. The full strategy showed up after I moved, never before.

It’s ok to not have the full strategy and to take action with just that mustard seed of faith God sowed into you. Have faith and see what happens, in His name 🙌