Josh Barzon@JoshuaBarzon
I calculated what it would cost to replace everything my wife does as a stay-at-home mom.
The answer: $131,130 a year.
Here's how I calculated that amount.
My wife genuinely loves being home with our four children. She homeschools them, manages our home, cooks for our family, gardens, and invests her life in raising our kids.
But every so often, she asks whether she should get a job to help financially.
Not because she wants a career outside the home, but because our culture can make stay-at-home mothers feel like they are not contributing unless they bring home a paycheck.
I always remind her:
“You already have a career. You work for our family.”
She may not receive a paycheck, but much of what she does saves us money we would otherwise have to earn, pay taxes on, and then spend hiring other people.
So I ran the numbers using typical rates in the Des Moines, Iowa area:
HOUSEKEEPER
12 hours/week × $20.74/hour
$12,942 per year
NANNY FOR FOUR CHILDREN
50 hours/week × $23/hour
$59,800 per year
HOMESCHOOL EDUCATOR
5 hours/day × 180 school days × $25.03/hour
$22,527 per year
PERSONAL SHOPPER
4 hours/week × $20.58/hour
$4,281 per year
PERSONAL CHEF
2 hours/day × $38.33/hour
$27,981 per year
PERSONAL GARDENER
3 hours/week × 30 weeks × $40/hour
$3,600 per year
TOTAL ESTIMATED ANNUAL REPLACEMENT VALUE:
$131,130
This is not meant to be a literal salary calculation. Some responsibilities overlap, but that is part of the point: replacing what one stay-at-home mother does would require hiring several different people.
And this still does not account for sick children, overnight care, appointments, curriculum planning, discipline, emotional support, family scheduling, or the constant mental load of knowing what everyone needs.
My wife may not receive a paycheck, but she creates enormous value for our family every day.
A paycheck is not the only proof that someone is contributing.
Thank a stay-at-home mom today.
