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You gave the whole day away. Again. And at 11pm you picked up your phone… not because you weren't tired, but because you weren't ready to end a day that never felt like your own. Nikki Elbertson mentions the term. Revenge bedtime procrastination. But we call it a signal worth listening to. What would it look like for women in schools to reach the end of the day with more of themselves still intact?  #womenshistorymonth

If this resonates, join us for an upcoming RULER info session to explore how schools can build leadership cultures where empathy, steadiness, and emotional intelligence are recognized as real strengths. rulerapproach.org/information-se… #educators #womenhelpingwomen #womenshistorymonth

We train teachers to deliver SEL. Far less helps them live it when the room gets hard. That gap matters more than people think, because students do not just experience the lesson. They experience the tone, trust, repair, and steadiness of the adult in front of them. We wrote about it in our new essay for Education Week: edweek.org/teaching-learn… #EducatorWellBeing #SEL #EmotionalIntelligence #RULER #EducationWeek @RobinSStern @YaleEmotion @rulerapproach @educationweek

It is one of the strangest things about the way we live now. We are in the room but we are not in the room. We are recording the moment instead of being inside it, and somewhere along the way we decided that was the same thing. It is not. Presence is a choice. It requires putting down the thing that promises to preserve the moment so you can actually be in it. And I am genuinely curious, to my friends who are performers, singers, entertainers, presenters: have you ever just stopped mid-show, looked out at the audience, and noticed that? What did that feel like? #presence #dealingwithfeeling #emotionalintelligence

Info session here: rulerapproach.org/leadership-sym… #leadershipdevelopment #EducationMatters #SEL #EmotionalIntelligence

Women’s superpower is how deeply they care for others. But for women in education, sometimes that dedication manifests as organizing their lives around not letting everyone else down. Dr. Jessica Hoffmann put language to something schools make impossible to miss: women still become the default for invisible and gendered work, while girls are praised for being “so put together.”  That is how one generation’s overextension becomes the next generation’s script. If we want girls to have a healthier relationship with power, voice, and self-trust, they need a wider vision of womanhood. #WomenSupportingWomen #WomensHistoryMonth #RULER #EmotionsMatter

We ask people to learn, lead, and connect every day. Emotion is part of all of it! We’ll see you there: web.cvent.com/event/3973f99c… #Emotionsmatter

#SELWeek RULER Info Session: yale.zoom.us/webinar/regist…

Calling SEL “therapy” is how we end up turning classrooms into clinics and then blaming teachers when it collapses. When we mix those up, we overload teachers and we shortchange students. We can do better than that. We can teach the skills in school like any other subject, and we can fight for the care kids need outside of it, without turning classrooms into clinics. If you’re doing this work in schools, you already know how much implementation matters. @rulerapproach  is one example of what it looks like when the skills are taught as education, not treatment. #SELDay #EmotionalIntelligence #EmotionRegulation @YaleEmotion  @SEL4USA  @UrbanAssembly

Some kids aren’t “easy” because they’re okay. They’re easy because they learned to read the room and hide the feelings you could not hold. If you grew up like that, what did you do with anger, sadness, fear? Eli Harwood joins me tomorrow 9am ET on Dealing With Feeling. f.mtr.cool/gpwkmrnqnq #RaisingSecurelyAttached #Kids #EmotionalIntelligence #EliHarwood #EmotionRegulation

#SEL #EmotionsMatter

Dr. Diego Estrada sharing @rulerapproach The emotions matter mindset @NAISnetwork #nais2026 @drmarcbrackett #moneyslide

Anxiety is part of your story, but not the title of the book. So many young people tell me, “I am anxiety,” like it’s their whole identity. The work isn’t to erase anxiety. It’s to make room for the full range of emotions that already shows up in your day. Before the day ends, ask yourself: What else did you feel today? Dealing with Feeling: f.mtr.cool/junloxmerb #DealingWithFeeling #Howareyoufeeling #emotionregulation #emotionalintelligence

Registration is now open for the TISEI Congress at Yale this July. Register today! web.cvent.com/event/3973f99c… #ConferenceAlert #EdLeadership #SELchat #Academia #RegisterNow @Yale @YaleMed @YaleCSC @tisei8674 @drmarcbrackett @drheidibrooks @SaloveyPeter

The Epstein files aren’t just a headline to me. They’re a reminder that survivors deserve privacy and dignity, not re-harm from institutions. And boys are watching. They’re learning about power from what we model, excuse, and avoid. When we get it wrong, they grow into men who repeat the pattern. Prevention starts upstream. My essay in @MensHealthMag: f.mtr.cool/nlbxgchtuv

A lot of people feel like they don’t matter whatsoever right now. I asked @JBrehenyWallace what we do with that. You’ll hear her answer tomorrow, but I want to know what you think first. Where would you start? Full episode tomorrow, 9am ET on YouTube, Apple Podcasts and Spotify #Mattering #EmotionRegulation #AchievementCulture #Workplace #NeverEnough f.mtr.cool/zfhjmhwmbt

Had a quick Valentine’s Day chat with @WTNH today. Always grateful for their team. A little Dealing With Feeling in real life :) Full interview: wtnh.com/news/health/wh… #ValentinesDay2026 #EmotionalIntelligence #EmotionRegulation

We keep asking schools to be the place that stays calm, even when the world is not. When fear is replayable, learning gets harder.  If your school is navigating this right now, this is worth your time. Education Week: “Doing the Nearly Impossible: Teaching When the World Delivers Fear” by @drmarcbrackett , @RobinSStern, and @dawndecosta4. 🔗 f.mtr.cool/wqroyfkafz #EducationWeek #SEL #EmotionalIntelligence #PsychologicalSafety #Coregulation

My friend and colleague @drchriscip has this powerful idea of being "unapologetically impatient." It's not about being rude. It's about honoring our own worth and advocating for our needs. I learned a lot from her in our new episode. I know you will too. 🔗 youtu.be/AI3J0CHxAJo?si… #BeUnapologeticallyImpatient #EmotionalIntelligence #Patience #DealingwithFeeling

If emotions are contagious, leadership is never neutral. Left unnamed, emotions run the room anyway. This is why emotionally intelligent leadership matters and why we bring leaders together at the YCEI Leadership Symposium this July. 🔗 f.mtr.cool/gtpwiyyout @RobinSStern