Sarah Romer

Men are blaming women for destroying the family. Women are saying there are no good men left. Nobody is asking what built the gap. We were disconnected from nature, from community, from each other and handed a nuclear family, a 40-hour workweek, and a dating app and told to figure it out. It's not men. It's not women. It's the structure. We are all pawns in a game that was never designed for any of us to flourish.

@GiaMMacool How does this study define "success?"

Feminist will call this video “outdated 1950s advice.” Meanwhile, women in the Middle East and Asia still treat their husbands like this today and their marriages have a 90% success rate because of it. Maybe respecting marriage was never outdated and that’s why these marriages last🤷🏻‍♀️

@kitesrfun @Rach4Patriarchy Exactly. That's what debate is. Go tell Rachel.

@Sarah__Romer @Rach4Patriarchy Lol you think that’s the point of a debate? It’s purpose is to submit arguments, have them scrutinized to have participant’s defend them.

I understand why I seem “mean”, but the only way you get women to change their opinion on something like feminism is to repeatedly make your opposition look so stupid that it becomes deeply embarrassing to hold that opinion publicly. That’s what will make other women flip on the subject, and unfortunately, it’s the only thing that will work.

@kitesrfun @Rach4Patriarchy How does a debate work? Debate = making your opponent look stupid and embarrassing them? Is that it?

@Sarah__Romer @Rach4Patriarchy You have everything inverted. That’s not how a debate works. It’s also not dissent when she’s debating women who hold the same perspective as the majority of women. Her voice is the dissenting voice and it doesn’t require anyone’s approval.

@WallStreetMav Women haven't been working in cubicles for 20+ years. Offices are all open floor plan now.

Women gave up having a legacy of multiple children and grandchildren ... for girlboss cubicle slavery. And somehow convinced them that this was better.

@noxitoooo Add up the house cleaning, meal planning, cooking, shopping, child care, organizing of social calendar & events, driving kids around to school and activities ... 7 days/week... you'd spend about $250K/year hiring other people to perform those roles.

Mi esposa dejó su carrera para criar a nuestros hijos. Decisión de los dos. Con amor. Con convicción. Cinco años después me divorcié de ella. En el proceso legal, su abogado me preguntó qué valoración le dábamos al trabajo doméstico y de crianza de esos cinco años. Me quedé en silencio. Honestamente, nunca lo había calculado. Lo calculamos ese día. Frente a un juez. Fue una cifra que no esperaba. Hoy cuando alguien me dice que su pareja "no trabaja" porque se queda en casa, les pregunto si saben cuánto costaría pagar por todo lo que esa persona hace. El silencio que sigue es siempre el mismo. Anónimo.

@clareanneath Truth. The Office is the modern invention, not women working. I wrote about this a few weeks ago in my Substack: sarahromer.substack.com/p/women-didnt-…

Hot take that’s actually historically accurate: Women have ALWAYS worked. Every culture. Every era. Every economic system. The difference? It used to be home-based and family-integrated. You didn’t surrender your children to an institution, fight traffic, and spend 9 hours under fluorescent lights. “Women shouldn’t work” isn’t traditional. It’s not even historical. It’s a myth. The real conversation we should be having: why did we build a society where thriving economically requires severing family bonds and why do we call that progress?

Let me further connect the dots. Intelligent women struggle with having children because they see clearly the trade-offs required to be a mother in our society. Professional ambition has to be put on the back burner for a period of time while children are young. When work is a source of genuine fulfillment, it can be a tough pill to swallow.

I think a lot of intelligent women struggle with having children because so much of their identity revolves around them being “a smart woman” and being just a mom is seen as below them.

@function sarahromer.substack.com/p/youre-not-ba…

@function You are not absent-minded. You are not bad with money. You are being worked. Full piece linked below. Once you see this you can't unsee it. 🔗

I spent 10 minutes fighting a $2.99 charge at Olive Garden. It wasn't about the $2.99. 🧵

Same week: My dentist upsold me on Invisalign, a night guard, and $260 in sealants for my daughter. When I declined, the energy shifted. Like I was the problem. Why do I have to feel like the bitch for saying no thank you?

@Madst9626 @bigdaddymak @pearlythingz Are you married?

@bigdaddymak @Sarah__Romer @pearlythingz Yeah..Modern conveniences, really make it hard to push that narrative. Back then, sure, more hands had to help. But no matter what ur priority should be to hubby and kids (maintained home too). The village thing gives "I want an excuse to do less work".

The reason women say it takes a village to raise a child is because they would rather do anything else than watch their kids

@matthiasgisslar @UnityNewsNet Freedom.

@UnityNewsNet It is also so much slop and cope. Women in their 50s leaving their men - for what?

"Why so many middle-aged women are suddenly leaving their husbands." The author of this article is Juliet Rosenfeld...