Coach Kirk

I’m afraid that when millennials get old and can’t work anymore, a lot of us are going to end up homeless. There was just no way to get ahead. We worked just to pay off debt, and for many of us, there was never a real opportunity to save or buy a home because everything was so expensive. I genuinely worry that we’re going to see an entire generation of elderly millennials struggling just to survive, and that’s heartbreaking.

Interesting thoughts. I also think that we lack a ritualization, a symbolic experience of directly addressing the process of transition from boyhood to manhood. I believe there is some kind of baseline here, to what you are saying, and that it may be that we are missing some kind of ceremonial acknowledgment that we move from the safety provided, to the place where we are the creators of safety. The masculine was always the provider, the foundation of the true safety that the feminine nourishment we received came from. Mom was where we felt safety. Dad was where we actually got it. Transitioning to manhood was about embodying that understanding through a symbolic expression of identity and inner narrative change. Speaking in generalities, and more tribal / ancient / primal perspectives, and, I think that is where we came from, so those parts still live within us and must be acknowledged.

men develop a mother complex when they are craving the warmth of the mother, but it’s missing - whether because it’s no longer present, or it never was past a certain age, it’s RIGHT that such warmth be absent - men should no longer be orienting towards the maternal warmth as their primary compass - but in our culture there’s a lack of a clear severance ritual. there’s no initiation to teach young men “you are now past the point where you need maternal warmth” so some men feel subconsciously entitled to that warmth and also confused by its absence - thus they desperately seek it elsewhere, often from romantic relationships. they experience their longing as a wound, but they do not know to grieve it a toddler has confidence insomuch as he feels close & comforted by the mother - he wanders off to explore the world and then returns to her. but if an adult’s confidence is contingent on female approval, then we have a problem lots of therapy modalities try to bridge the gap by providing “maternal warmth” in some form or another (either therapist as proxy or teaching men to access it within themselves) but that’s still enforcing the same dependency my thoughts on this are still unformed but I suspect what’s missing is instruction that these men can access confidence in the absence of warmth & approval - a confidence disconnected from external circumstances. part of that process must be grieving what’s lost and setting it aside: “but when I became a man, I put away childish things”

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