Cole Sim

This is exactly why it matters.

@HieronymusFisto @buridansridge That’s horrible. Please know that not every woman would do that. I don’t share my hubs business on sm- but I have been on his side w/no shame thru some struggles. That’s all I will say. Her reaction was based on fear & immaturity. I hope you are C-free & find a good wife.

@SimofCole @buridansridge My now ex-wife immediately began to pull away when I broke down because I thought my cancer might be back. I was diagnosed with colon cancer at 19, beat it at 22, and then at 32 I had blood in my stool. I panicked and cried. 6 months later, she asked for an open marriage.

If a woman does not love you more after you show authentic vulnerability, she never truly loved you in the first place, she loved the fantasy of you. Devotional women are aroused by closeness and emotional access. Imagine seeing this not as an opportunity to show him how much he means to you, but instead choosing to gloat online about getting the "ick" for attention. So compassionate. So caring. When the man you love is in mourning, how can you not want to just be there for him and hold him? How does it not evoke fervent feelings of loyalty and protection, just as he has done consistently for you? Entitlement is so rife that we have forgotten reciprocity, or in this case, basic human decency. These situations are moments of clarity for both parties.

@rovnni Thank You.

SEJAM SINCEROS! se Deus chegasse agora, sentasse ao seu lado e dissesse: "seu tempo aqui na terra acabou." o que você diria a Ele?

@beeeeeeau Are you aware that men can climb a wall at 2x the speed of women or finish a marathon at 2x the speed? Like, instead of assuming there’s an attitude difference, maybe the physical aspects play into how housework is literally harder for a woman than a man.

Women aren't retarded but I have also noticed I can clean the entire house and basically do any household chores at twice the speed of my gf bc i just do one thing at a time and do it with efficiency. Girls more so like the concept of being productive so they seem to spend like half of their free day "cleaning" This really means listening to a podcast or music or something while kinda cleaning and kinda not but in their mind it's being productive. For those thinking, "women just like a cleaner house and care more" I'm cleaner than her and she'll admit that, working together to get the house clean still is faster than both of us doing it separately so we just grind together for an hour or two now and everything gets done easy. Basically idk why i typed any of this but stop turning life into male vs female and work together using both of our strengths then life gets easier for both parties.

@FoundationDads There doesn’t have to be extremes on either side of parenting.

The "gentle parent" who refuses to spank at 18 months is the same parent screaming at the top of her lungs when that same child is age 4.

@James_NWR @JoelWebbon His mother is a retired teacher.

JOEL WEBBON: One of the Most Vile Jew-Hating Pastors EXPOSED Folks… buckle up. Wait until you read the testimony from his former church. WOW. In the shadowy corners of Christian nationalism, Joel Webbon @JoelWebbon - fire-breathing pastor of Covenant Bible Church and boss of Right Response Ministries - has built a brand preaching “biblical patriarchy” while his own life tells a far messier story. Former elders at his old San Diego church dropped a bombshell 2023 testimony accusing him of a 10-month fornication fling with a congregant while serving as an elder/pastor. x.com/oven37/status/… The affair allegedly happened around 2012, years before he married Megan in 2015. Webbon admits the sexual immorality but claims it was pre-ordination and that he’s been pure since. His old church says the confession was incomplete and deceptive. Then there’s the money. The San Diego officers claim the church poured over $134,000 into building the social media empire that became Right Response Ministries - staff time, marketing, the works. Webbon allegedly rebranded it as his personal platform, reduced church control, and took it with him to Texas. Webbon’s views on women are pure 1950s on steroids. He says women need to “shut up” in the public square, church leadership, and often the home. He wants the 19th Amendment repealed so women lose the right to vote - claiming husbands should represent the household. x.com/iamalmostlegen… Yet his wife Megan works as a respected hospital nurse, likely bringing home serious cash while he rails against career women. But nothing tops his venom toward Jews. Webbon has openly declared: “I hate Judaism but love Jews and wish them a pleasant conversion to Christianity.” He’s called Judaism “parasitical,” “anti-Christ,” and “pernicious evil.” He’s waffled on whether Jesus was Jewish, pushed conspiracy-tinged claims about modern Jews, and said practicing Jews shouldn’t hold public office in his ideal Christian nation. x.com/ALEXJONESdotTV… Just one look at him and Webbon invokes disgust. Sheer arrogance radiates as he always sits with his leg crossed on top of the other like some kind of a male Chad - which he isn’t. The farthest thing from a pastor - a glorified car salesman selling hatred online while taxpayers indirectly support his operation through the church’s tax-free status. Preaching male dominance while leaning on a working wife. Building a media empire on disputed church funds. And spewing anti-Jewish rhetoric while enjoying the perks of a 501(c)(3) nonprofit. Joel Webbon’s empire of “thus saith the Lord” is starting to look a lot like “do as I say, not as I do.” Please follow @James_NWR for more on this.

@dvorstone Well stated.

It does appear that the these two groups do hate each other. For the women, I suspect the issue is that they already took on the responsibility and risk of having kids, and for whatever reason have been left absent a husband. They're now projecting onto men in the aggregate to "step up" in some form or another. Basically, they're saying "I already proved I was willing to be a wife and mom, and now I'm all alone and drowning while you men look at me like I'm trash." For men, it's simpler: divorced mom has proven that she's a failure and now she's just trying to con me into cleaning up her mess. This is, of course, sometimes a rationalization of their desire to avoid growing up or projected resentment, i.e., you rejected me then and now you want me, and now I get to gleefully reject you because I can. The result of this is an incredible degree of cultural tension that is also producing a lingering effect. Men see other men getting divorced and think "that isn't going to happen to me" and women see divorced moms treated like lepers or pariahs and think "that isn't going to happen to me." Consequently, it poisons younger generations, making them increasingly averse to taking the risk of marriage. I will say this to the men... A divorced mom is tricky, no doubt, but there are many who will make excellent wives and mothers. I wouldn't count them out automatically. I will say this to the women... Be honest about your relative situation. You're now asking more of a man than is reasonable. Drop the attitude and be grateful... but don't be desperate. You really do have to make sure he's a good man.

@ScottPresler Now let’s get him elected in the general!!!!!

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@dovidfeldman Ah, ok. So saying that it has caused problems & can’t be very comfortable for her/him would be better?

People can have strong feelings about many behaviors and should express them kindly and respectfully. imo, telling your spouse that her behavior is "unacceptable" is taking a superior moral high ground and is inappropriate in a loving marriage. To learn more, you can read this: dovidfeldman.com/effective-comm…

Me: So what did you say? Her: "I let him know that his bad habit of coming late is unacceptable." Me: And? Her: He got angry and defensive — it's the way I said it. Me: No—you said what you meant, which was unkind and critical. Her: 😳

@callanable I didn’t jump from relationships or therapists but absolutely can relate to this. You basically get told that you’re the problem & if you would just do everything right & want nothing, you’ll be rewarded w/a loving relationship bc the other finally feels safe enough to love you

much of what got diagnosed as "anxious attachment" was an accurate read of being in relationships where I was more invested than they were. nobody said that. individual therapists, couples therapists, friends and family and members of support groups all parroted the same advice: learn to self-soothe. enjoy spending time alone. build a diverse support network. journal, meditate, exercise. try an SSRI. CBT, DBT, EMDR, ACT, hypnotherapy. "you're safe now, you're just overreacting. you're traumatized—there is no threat. he is secure, you are anxious. do the work." so I bought all the books, dutifully went from therapist to therapist for years, tried all the modalities, got medicated. "you have an attachment disorder and your relationships keep failing because of it. you are too much. keep doing the work." so I did, for years. but the work wasn't healing—it was filing me down. I was chronically under-chosen by avoidant men, and kept being told that if I became less reactive, everything would be fine. I was more than happy to take full responsibility for every problem, to self-diagnose into oblivion. after all, if I'm the problem, I can control it. my anxiety wasn't simply a trauma response, though. it was like a smoke detector going off in a house that was, in fact, on fire. and everyone just kept saying "here's some earplugs! oh and try not to cough so much." I was never going to leave those relationships. I would have fought to "make it work," no matter how bad things got. only after the last one ended—as usual, not by my choice—was I able to do the work I really had to do: stop trying to win over men who required me to shrink. pure commitment didn't cure me. I was *this close* to engagement with the wrong man, and that ring would have healed nothing. but for the first time I'm in a relationship where the smoke detector has nothing to detect, and I'm seeing what my nervous system does when it's not (correctly) alarmed. I'd never had a relationship safe enough to run this experiment. I didn't know what it looked like, and I had been trying to fix myself to be worthy of it for almost 20 years. if you see yourself in this, you might not be disordered. you might just be under-chosen. that's a different problem than the one you've been working on, and the healing isn't where they told you to look.

@unlimited_ls How demonic. Why couldn’t she just file for divorce like normal women? Why would you kill him? Why kill the KIDS?? Demons are real, y’all.

🚨NEW: Arizona mom kills her two children and herself after shooting a woman in the back of the head who had been with her husband at a bar, then sent him a photo of one of the children bleeding from the head Andrea Clarice Davis, 38, drove to Tailgaters Sports Bar & Grill shortly after midnight and opened fire on her husband, Nolan Davis, and a 36-year-old woman he was with The woman was shot in the back of the head while trying to flee in her car, but survived After the shooting, Davis texted her husband saying she was going to hurt their children and sent him a photo showing one of them bleeding from the head Officers found Davis dead alongside her two children, 10-year-old Austin and 18-month-old Andolan

@TheXMatriarch That’s true.

Ladies, your husband losing attraction for you after you’ve gained 50 pounds, stopped flirting with him, and weaponized sex isn’t “misogyny,” it’s biology.

@lynnac9461 @Careerflex @daveclements78 @GiffLasta Then I wish you genuine, good luck.

@SimofCole @Careerflex @daveclements78 @GiffLasta Very well then. It will take some time consider all this

Men, this sort of behavior is fairly simple to address. Most of the time when your girl is not being good, she is either horny, hungry, or tired. You would be surprised at how much misbehavior is immediately fixed if you simply grab her around the waist, pick her up, spin her upside down, and spank her bottom as she hisses and kicks about with her feet in the air. Then turn her right side up and gently return her to earth. Rosy cheeks will greet you. She might shout and pretend to be mad, but watch as she bites her bottom lip. Got her. You have shown your strength, your manful appetites for her body, and showcased your paladin-level mastery, taking her on an adventure in an instant. I teach the people I work with the mantra: 🎵 Fucked Fed Put to Bed 🎵 Next time she is misbehaving, work down the checklist and see how quickly she comes back online.

@TysonSClarke @BuenoForMiami Sounds like he needed to run before and during school. A lot of behavior stops when they get energy out & find out they’ll be exhausted & never what they want when they misbehave. I had no problem making mine do pushups in lines or jumping jacks at restaurants.

My oldest son would be dead if he wasn't spanked. He wasn't afraid of anything. Teachers could not catch him, he could escape school whenever he wanted. One day he climbed on TOP of the school to get away from teachers. He ran accross a 4 lane highway at 5 years old. I was the only thing he was afraid of. I know you don't understand violence like a man does, so you're just going to have to trust us. It's part of us. We are bred for it. Women literally choose to mate with big, strong, dangerous men. It's not fun for your kid to be afraid of you. But if it's a choice between him hating you and being afraid of you; and him dying - you choose your kid to hate you. Believe it or not, there are worse things than a spanking. Death being one of them. Or you could check out the correlation between child suicide and the recent trend of poo-pooing spanking.

Spanking your kids is teaching them to resolve their emotional conflicts with violence. You’re not parenting them, you’re teaching them the same traumas your parents put on you. It’s time to evolve and teach kids to deal with their emotions in a meaningful and positive way.

@BuenoForMiami Parenting with Love & Logic was what I used. I also strove to understand my kids- particularly my son. I tailored the corrective measures to that. They also ran laps. I often ran with them before we dealt with home-based issues. They were angels in public by age 5. Seriously

@lynnac9461 @Careerflex @daveclements78 @GiffLasta You don’t have to lose to women. But the only way forward is to change in a way that works with them not against them. That does not mean follow her. I’ve told u all of these things in sincerity because u relaxed & got sincere w/ me. You stopped talking like I was stupid.

@lynnac9461 @Careerflex @daveclements78 And that is admirable and fair. You should be challenged not changed by her. You change you based off of moral virtues that you pre-decide bc they are logical, productive, & strengthening to you. Try the men I mentioned. @GiffLasta even wrote a book that will help you.

@dovidfeldman Yes! If I am told (& it’s followed thru on!) : I’m taking this seriously & I can see why it matters to you but I expect respect as well so we’re going to have to come back to this when you’re ready to work with me- All my anger deflates & I relax some bc I know he’a got me.

Men: Even though we give a bit of leeway to the women in our lives to crazy rage, there is a limit. If you don't set boundaries on how you are spoken to and treated, you're green-lighting possible emotional abuse. Don't let it happen.

@lynnac9461 @Careerflex @daveclements78 And why would you need their agreement or apology if you were correct? I understand your point, but my point is that you’re still thinking like a man who is emotionally needy & triggered by a woman shit testing if you are weak- or just opposing you for being an ass (also weak).

@SimofCole @Careerflex @daveclements78 No im saying if said the sky was blue and a woman said it was green and I could prove it was blue most women still wouldn't accept they were wrong and accept the truth or apologize