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@clerotto Thank you for reading x

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·18 Ara

“This is not a blog to debate whether or not survivors of #CSA within the family should cut off contact with their families. It’s a post to acknowledge that neither decision is easy. Both come with challenges - mainly a huge amount of sadness or grief. theflyingchild.com/post/dear-surv…

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Clare Lavery (@clerotto.bsky.social)@clerotto·19 Ara

A reminder of a favourite piece Never underestimate the Butterfly effect Systems change is a process The flaps of their wings can travel over mountains Invisible threads of connection bind us One small touch of a hand

Clare Lavery (@clerotto.bsky.social) tweet media

What’s so wonderful about “the butterfly effect” The term was coined in the 1960s by a meteorologist, Edward Lorenz to describe the unpredictable impact in weather in one part of the world, by a change in behaviour in another part. He noted that, “A butterfly’s flap could cause a tornado or, for all we know, prevent one” This phrase has become associated with the idea that one tiny change in part of the world can create a huge change in another. Kindness is contagious. Witnessing human goodness is known as “moral elevation”. Research has shown that it raises our feelings of optimism and makes us want to act more altruistically towards others. It’s easy to watch the news and feel depressed right now. Or feel hopeless about our ability to make a change. But the butterfly effect suggests that if you focus on the tiny things that are within your power – being kind to other people – can create a ripple effect and make a difference. Monarch butterflies migrate by forming the shape of one huge butterfly. This helps them survive their flight. What if, like butterflies, we come together with acts of kindness to form a body of beings instead of focusing on our own individual needs? This beautiful video is one of cinematographer, Louie Schwartzberg’s (@louiefilms) who is known for his @GratitudeReveal project.

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·19 Ara

Thank you to the survivor community for your support this year. Please take a moment to read our ‘Year in Review.’ We couldn’t do this work without this support. Thank you 🌸 #CSA

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·19 Ara

@WebsterLor76367 Thank you for sharing this. These are decisions no child - however old - should be forced to make. 🌸♥️

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Lorraine Webster@WebsterLor76367·19 Ara

@TheFlyingChild The best thing I did for myself was to cut contact with my father.The time it took me to face the fear of any repercussions was the time I did my grieving; accepting that I was never going to have that safe relationship with him.That made it easier on his passing 🌸x

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·19 Ara

@finding_hope_2 🌸💕

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Another wonderfully written piece, which exactly sums up the mixed feelings arising at Christmas time for survivors of #csa .

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·18 Ara

Thank you 🙏🏼

Jules F@JulieFo45651979

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PXP@pigeonxphoenix·17 Ara

Ive been saying this a lot recently.

detach@detachdaily

no one tells you how lonely it feels to keep reassuring yourself. ‘it’ll get better, just hold on.’ after a while, even hope starts to sound tired

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·17 Ara

Please check out our new Events page on the website 🌸 theflyingchild.com/events-list #TheFlyingChild #supportSurvivors

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Jules F@JulieFo45651979·12 Ara

@TheFlyingChild It was, they finally spoke to my isva about it, told her it was best if I spoke to a therapist instead. I'd just spent a year in therapy which gave me the confidence to report it. All I hoped was to give police a name and tell them what he'd done, it made me feel silenced again.

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Patrick Mills@PatrickEMills·12 Ara

I think he enjoyed the power trip.

Wow… why do these people enter professions like these?

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·13 Ara

@finding_hope_2 So hard to comprehend. I’m sorry this happened to you. Trauma upon trauma

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·11 Ara

If you are a survivor of CSA, what is the least trauma-informed thing a professional has said to you? A therapist once told me “there’s no point in looking back, you’re an adult now - not a child.” (I just told her I wanted to talk about my childhood) #traumainformed #CSA

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·13 Ara

@barefoothopes I’m so sorry 😔

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Jenner@barefoothopes·12 Ara

@TheFlyingChild I was in a hospital bed tube down my nose after an OD He told me that if I hadn't have fought him it wouldn't have been so bad Him - my biological father It - rape! That was a psychiatrist BTW a fucking doctor!

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AA Gribben 🌎⚖️@TonyGribben3·11 Ara

Least trauma-informed thing a professional has said to a survivor? ‘God forgives you for your sins’. A Catholic nun and professional counsellor to a man multiply-raped as a child by a Catholic priest. Counsellor engaged by Diocese of Dromore, Newry, N. Ireland.

If you are a survivor of CSA, what is the least trauma-informed thing a professional has said to you? A therapist once told me “there’s no point in looking back, you’re an adult now - not a child.” (I just told her I wanted to talk about my childhood) #traumainformed #CSA

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·12 Ara

@TonyGribben3 What a terrible thing to say. Thank you for sharing this

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·12 Ara

@PatrickEMills This is horrendous.

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Patrick Mills@PatrickEMills·11 Ara

I engaged a therapist whose technique involved imitating my body language and challenging my views. After 3 sessions, I wrote out a check at the beginning, 'So you won't worry if I'm storming out.' Then I roasted him verbally! He said, 'You weren't strong enough to handle it.'

If you are a survivor of CSA, what is the least trauma-informed thing a professional has said to you? A therapist once told me “there’s no point in looking back, you’re an adult now - not a child.” (I just told her I wanted to talk about my childhood) #traumainformed #CSA

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The Flying Child (CIC)@TheFlyingChild·12 Ara

Wow… why do these people enter professions like these?

Patrick Mills@PatrickEMills

I engaged a therapist whose technique involved imitating my body language and challenging my views. After 3 sessions, I wrote out a check at the beginning, 'So you won't worry if I'm storming out.' Then I roasted him verbally! He said, 'You weren't strong enough to handle it.'

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easiertobeniceagain@easiertobenice2·11 Ara

@TheFlyingChild Lead safeguarding professional at dio of London said maybe I should approach the scout association as they have a better scheme than them.

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Jules F@JulieFo45651979·11 Ara

@TheFlyingChild That the police were cancelling a VRI for me to give evidence because 'it would be too traumatic for me.' This was by email a couple of days before the interview was due to take place. When I emailed back to discuss, I received an out of office email -back in 14 days!

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