Augustine
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Man refuses to pay for dates meal because she says she's not going to sleep with him
Ignoring the rest of replies and digressing from the said case because here is where almost everyone on SM is getting it wrong. This understanding of "love" is where the problem creeps in. And normalising it in the name of era is where we are indirectly telling a generation that casualising sex is the norm. For a modern marriage to endure, we need 1) Self Awareness 2) Awareness about the Prospect 3) Shared understanding about what would be the common life destination Arranged marriage today does not give enough window to reflect and ascertain the above and hinges on socially driven benchmarks whose relevance is questionable. Additionally the investment and participation of the bride and groom in the diligence and discussion process is abysmal. I do still see committed people working through friction and rough spots they did not anticipate and good for them as a team as long as it is not a sacrifice by only one of them. Love marriage gives one the long courtship window to explore, discuss, reflect and calibrate the longevity of the relationship. Of course when things strike right, there are moments of resonance that add to the beauty and joy. There is no "Stare match" sort of filmy love in any era if people were wise to leverage the freedom in a right way. So in my "era" I have seen enduring relationships built over the couple starting as study partners, graduating to cofound startups or at least build that complementary capability feature between them in the whole process. It is basically visioning together and making it a reality. So anyone with half a brain can understand that the complication introduced by sexual indulgence is best avoided till the wedding. There may be some who might have crossed the line before time but held on being 'mentally married'. But not investing the right amount of thought, diligence and reflection is a no no.
The problem is that when cases like twisha sharma happens there is a group of 40yo female aunties who see it as an opportunity to rant about why young girls shouldn't marry. Young girls should never listen to these opportunist sadistic unmarried 40yo.
Hace unos días estaba feliz con su novio de 5 años. Le llega el mensaje de un futbolista famoso, deja al novio y se pira de viaje con él. Lo de algunas es surrealista.
Every girl's crazy for a sharp dressed, medium-ugly man 🩷
when montaigne encountered the cannibals during his time in brazil 1562, he didn't compare or dehumanise them as something inferior but as a wild fruit without the artificial contamination of world, and to this in the age of when half of world was killing others in name of god.
