TheTinMen

I've produced hundreds of posts, and countless hours of podcasts to try and highlight how bogus political ideology erases male victims of abuse. But the single most effective image that represents how modern society sees male victims, remains this iconic document. It's perfect.

79% of violent crime is by men, and we gender this as "male violence". Yet a far higher percentage of bystander rescues are by men (92%), and we never call that "male heroism". Why do we only ever gender the bad things men do, and never the good?

Why don't abused men ask for help?

@razorgrrrl @PostTruthEra

@PostTruthEra Good, you should find me worse, I’m much more likely to be a threat to you than a spineless liberal.

Oh boy, if you liked “pregnancy is body horror” you’re gonna LOVE my next take: maternal instinct is not a real phenomenon.

@AllyFogg For fuck sake. Well, in other news, your pod is next Mr Fogg!

@TheTinMenBlog One recent manifestation of this - after Starmer’s last reshuffle the incoming victims minister appeared to state that male victims were not within her remit, which was women & girls, & had to be corrected about a week later by her own civil servants. lnkd.in/p/eQc9dHrx

In the UK, in 2026, every single man or boy who experiences domestic violence, sexual abuse, stalking, online harms, or similar crimes; is legally categorised as a ‘male victim of violence against a woman’. Read that again – ‘a male victim of violence against women.’ It is truly absurd, and it’s not just semantics. Such classification means these abused men are made invisible, not given taylored care, or gender sensitive support; quite literally left out of appropriate services, to fend for themselves. Neither are these invisible men of a small number. In fact, 1.5 MILLION men experienced domestic abuse in England and Wales, with many more in other parts of the UK, similarly erased from the discussion. So we don’t see male victims spoken about in the media, in policy, within the news, online, or in Westminster. And too often, when such men are talked about, it is sneered at, mocked, or snuffed out by those who wave these men away as insignificant, or as secret abusers themselves. We do all this, and then ask ourselves: do so few abused men ask for help? Gaslighting literal victims of abuse, in lieu of our own political incompetence. So I ask – If the world and society at large refuses to recognise abuse against men in such a way, then why would these men recognise it themselves? In my new podcast I discuss this very issue with one of the most influential men in the area of male victims of abuse: veteran campaigner Mark Brooks OBE, who is the Chair of Mankind; the UK’s premier service supporting abused men… So why do abused men so rarely ask for help? What do you think? New podcast with award-winning policy advisor for men and boys @BelvedereBrooks out now! youtube.com/watch?v=ep6WOi…

@JamesLNuzzo Who is funding this bullshit?

Feminist buzzword: "complicit masculinity." "I propose a working definition of complicit masculinities, building on the previously discussed papers, and years of my own scientific reflection. In this context, complicit masculinity can be defined as a form of men’s practices and positionings through which they support, benefit from, normalize, and help reproduce patriarchal and unequal, dominance-based, hegemonic gender relations without necessarily fully embodying hegemonic masculinity itself or engaging in direct domination. Furthermore, the concept refers to relational, structural, and often ambivalent forms of participation in gendered power, including everyday behaviors, homosocial interactions, silences, and institutional alignments that sustain unequal relations among men and between men and women and other genders. What is important to remember, complicity can be intentional or unintentional, active or indirect, but in all cases, it reveals the ways men secure the patriarchal dividend while contributing to the legitimacy and continuity of domination."

One hell of a Community Note.

@AllyFogg Well actually Bruce Lee faked his death to go undercover and investigate the Triads for the Hong Kong police.

Bruce Lee.

@AllyFogg Diana.

@wirefiftytwo @misspetal_p17 Yup

@TheTinMenBlog @misspetal_p17 We can also be sure that, especially over the last 30-40 years, the Carnegie Awards panel would have been desperate to find examples of female heroes to celebrate and would have looked extra hard and lowered their standards..

Men perform 92% of bystander rescues.

@JajaPhD I've been processing it since 2022, and still none the wiser.

I needed time to process that statement

It’s just unbelievable. Men who are victims of domestic violence in the UK are classified as male victims of crimes against women and girls. But oh yes, tell me again how society only cares about men.

@yorawrld I'm not saying these "toxic" behaviours in men don't exist, I am saying by calling it "toxic masculinity", we're focusing on the wrong thing.

@TheTinMenBlog Imo i dont think its black and white Too much grey area, like women DO have a lot of problems but some things are non issues. Like misogyny genuinely exists in some spaces and is far too prevelant Toxic masculinity included

Is "toxic masculinity" the modern equivalent of "female hysteria"? And are all these 'masculinity workshops' and 'masculinity experts', just the same snake-oil pseudoscientists, but rebranded for the 21st century? Do both concepts put the blame in all the wrong places?

@Serpent_45 Some women. The question is, what are the lived experiences and material conditions that cause these behaviours? Go upstream.

@TheTinMenBlog Not really. Women are really hysterical 😂😂😂

@FWI_Warrior Tate literally incriminated himself on video and uploaded it to the world. Surely the dumbest dude on the planet.

@TheTinMenBlog Which is Exactly why they're making these False accusation against Andrew Tate. The goal is to destroy Masculinity and Logic to become a complete feminazi state, to have people enslaved and submissive to the State.

@blackbelt392299 @PadovaGozzi Yup victimscommissioner.org.uk/news/male-surv…

@TheTinMenBlog @PadovaGozzi It's so ridiculous it's hard to believe it's even real. Was this a news story at the time?

@Blueblur_23 Our future selves are laughing at us.

@TheTinMenBlog You know, simply when they say, “crimes considered violence against women and girls,” they are effectively saying, “That’s not even supposed to be a crime if it’s done against men and boys.” It is as absurd as it is discriminatory and dehumanizing.